Prepare for a Will sized Post here
its a long one.
So about 7 months ago me and my ex broke up there were various reasons, but basically at the time it just wasnt working and we agreed to split after being together for 5 and a half years. Weve spent the whole time pretty much apart Ive only seen her twice including this past Friday. We started chatting on Facebook about a month ago and I happened to mention that I had a gig coming up and that she should come along, at first she wasnt going to come, however at the last minute she decided to come along on her own. Bare in mind here that this was my first time actually on stage so I was a tad nervous and it was a pretty big gig to be honest.
So she turns up earlier than pretty much everyone else, I barely had a chance to go get food and come back to the venue after sound check, we spend most of the time up until I go on stage together she even looked after my phone, wallet and cigarettes for me when I went up there. While we were hanging out things got a bit playful she decided to mess my hair up just before I went on stage and at one point she was chasing me around the place with her lip gloss (which was actually quite funny) and we ended up in the corner wrestling (not in the giving her a Stunner kind of way). I got on stage and she was in the middle (I was on the right of the stage cus I only play bass) but everytime I looked down at her during the set she was looking up at me and would look away when I looked at her. So anyway when we finish a couple of my friends came to the edge of the stage to talk to me and she came up and started asking me why we didnt play one of the old songs we wrote at college (the song was fucking awful). Anyway I pack my shit up, get off stage and she gives me back my stuff and says how amazing we were etc
So anyway this other girl I know was there, and according to other people everytime I was talking to this other girl Liz (my ex) was looking over at me. She stayed right till the end and ended up getting in a taxi and coming back to our Drummers house where we all had a few drinks and chilled out after a crazy night. We ended up sitting next to each other, and once again we started play fighting, at one point we were almost on top of each other messing about. We talked pretty much the whole time we were there, and I kinda let it slip that I had dated another girl (who she sort of knows) and she seemed very interested and also a little annoyed that I had dated her. Our front guy gave us a lift home we said bye in a friend kind of way and she went home. I got a message from her that night saying she was sorry for biting me (yes she bit me, and it fucking hurt). Then on Saturday morning she sent me a message (as soon as she got up asking how I was, but she also dropped in there that she was glad we could be friends and hang out and have a laugh.
She messaged me on Sunday as well asking me if I was feeling any better (I was rough as hell on Saturday) and I didnt get anything back form her till today. She said she was in a complicated situation, something I wouldnt want to hear about (I imagine its something to do with a guy). That was after she said the day hadnt started well and I asked her why.
So now Im left wondering what to do, I do want her back like I said Ive dated a couple of girls and they dont really come close to her in terms of the connection we had/have. But I dont know what she wants, she has told me before that she just wants to be friends, but to be honest she said that before we first got together I dont know if I should make a move or just leave it as friends, or even just hang out as friends and hang out. I really dont know if she still likes me and is confused about things.
So give me advise people I dont have a clue whats going on here.
So about 7 months ago me and my ex broke up there were various reasons, but basically at the time it just wasnt working and we agreed to split after being together for 5 and a half years. Weve spent the whole time pretty much apart Ive only seen her twice including this past Friday. We started chatting on Facebook about a month ago and I happened to mention that I had a gig coming up and that she should come along, at first she wasnt going to come, however at the last minute she decided to come along on her own. Bare in mind here that this was my first time actually on stage so I was a tad nervous and it was a pretty big gig to be honest.
So she turns up earlier than pretty much everyone else, I barely had a chance to go get food and come back to the venue after sound check, we spend most of the time up until I go on stage together she even looked after my phone, wallet and cigarettes for me when I went up there. While we were hanging out things got a bit playful she decided to mess my hair up just before I went on stage and at one point she was chasing me around the place with her lip gloss (which was actually quite funny) and we ended up in the corner wrestling (not in the giving her a Stunner kind of way). I got on stage and she was in the middle (I was on the right of the stage cus I only play bass) but everytime I looked down at her during the set she was looking up at me and would look away when I looked at her. So anyway when we finish a couple of my friends came to the edge of the stage to talk to me and she came up and started asking me why we didnt play one of the old songs we wrote at college (the song was fucking awful). Anyway I pack my shit up, get off stage and she gives me back my stuff and says how amazing we were etc
So anyway this other girl I know was there, and according to other people everytime I was talking to this other girl Liz (my ex) was looking over at me. She stayed right till the end and ended up getting in a taxi and coming back to our Drummers house where we all had a few drinks and chilled out after a crazy night. We ended up sitting next to each other, and once again we started play fighting, at one point we were almost on top of each other messing about. We talked pretty much the whole time we were there, and I kinda let it slip that I had dated another girl (who she sort of knows) and she seemed very interested and also a little annoyed that I had dated her. Our front guy gave us a lift home we said bye in a friend kind of way and she went home. I got a message from her that night saying she was sorry for biting me (yes she bit me, and it fucking hurt). Then on Saturday morning she sent me a message (as soon as she got up asking how I was, but she also dropped in there that she was glad we could be friends and hang out and have a laugh.
She messaged me on Sunday as well asking me if I was feeling any better (I was rough as hell on Saturday) and I didnt get anything back form her till today. She said she was in a complicated situation, something I wouldnt want to hear about (I imagine its something to do with a guy). That was after she said the day hadnt started well and I asked her why.
So now Im left wondering what to do, I do want her back like I said Ive dated a couple of girls and they dont really come close to her in terms of the connection we had/have. But I dont know what she wants, she has told me before that she just wants to be friends, but to be honest she said that before we first got together I dont know if I should make a move or just leave it as friends, or even just hang out as friends and hang out. I really dont know if she still likes me and is confused about things.
So give me advise people I dont have a clue whats going on here.