I have to say I'm a little disappointed with your response. I actually thought you might consider what I said and at least admit maybe a line has been crossed which shouldn't be crossed.
You're not denying what is being said is indecent anymore. I want to remind you of an earlier post of yours.
Fair enough, perhaps I misspoke when I said that I don't find the jokes in bad taste. I find them to be distasteful, but I also find them to be somewhat humorous in their distastefulness.
You've at least admitted they are in bad taste now, so I suppose I should at least give you credit for that. But why is indecency funny? Actually, let me ask a better question. Why is being "funny" a suitable response to charges of indecency? You said in that post I quoted how you're uncomfortable with the idea of your friend who is serving overseas being dead. If everyone started making indecent jokes about your friend being killed, would it still be funny to you?
No, but you're assuming all human reactions need to be logical. I am in no way qualified to discuss the psychology behind why humans react the way they do, why some people cry during movies while others roll their eyes or why some people laugh at death while others cringe, but the fact of the matter is those are real scenarios.
I don't know what point you're trying to make here. My main point from the beginning is that what one finds offensive another one might find hilarious. It goes on a case to case basis. Is it hypocritical? Probably, but I don't think anyone around here is above a little hypocrisy every now and then. I'm certainly not. I'm not exactly proud of it, but I could think of worse things than finding a joke about one person's death funny but not a joke about somebody else's.
Being a cannibal, for instance.
What I gathered from your post is you're only concerned about yourself, and to hell with anyone else.
Not really, but I'll indulge you.
You don't care if someone else is offended, but more importantly, you don't care if Milenko were to read about how funny you all think it is if he died. Now, who knows, maybe Milenko would appreciate people cared enough about him to still talk about him, but I think you and I both know it's just as likely, if not moreso, that his feelings would be hurt.
Hmmm, kind of. Maybe. I'm not really sure. To go back to your ridiculous example of the annoying five year old with cancer, it varies on a case by case basis. Milenko is a major dummy that would be prone to accidentally killing himself by poisoning himself. That makes it funny. Making fun of a 5 year old girl, annoying as she is, for having cancer is just cruel. One major difference in the two scenarios is that one is a work of fiction while the other is a real situation, albeit one you made up in your mind.
But I digress. I think to answer your question I'd say that I would feel marginally bad if Milenko came back and felt shitty that a bunch of people joked about his death. That said, he should get over it, as it was just a joke. Jokes can be cruel, but in the end of the day nobody actually meant any harm by it. I hope.
Because I still have respect for you as a person (at least as far as I know you from the forum). Conversation has recently come up about how many people think you're a complete ********. I defended you, as did D-Man. D-Man said you're actually a pretty decent guy in real life.
Conversation where? Apart from KB's response to me calling him out for being obnoxious in that one thread I haven't seen anyone have anything to say about me. To quote Scott Stiener, "I'm not a hard man to find."
I can only assume this is a boardroom thing. If that's the case, I'd love to answer my critics. Let me at 'em!
Despite this thread, I still think you have the capacity to be a good person, but your words in this thread have not been indicative of that, a fact you've admitted. If the age in your profile is accurate, you're still young, still have a lot to learn. I say that not in a condescending fashion, but as one who as learned over the years that as a person gets older, they realize how much more they have yet to learn. But one of the things I've noticed about myself, as I've gotten older, is how important morals and values have become to me. How important it is that I always do what I think is the right thing. I think you have the capacity to be that kind of person.
The age is accurate. I know, I know, with this gushing amount of maturity you'd think I was 30something, married with kids, working a 9-5 job, but I can assure you that I'm a 22 year old college student going on his 5th year (no I didn't have to stay an extra year, it's a 5 year program) whose hobbies include video games, getting drunk on the weekend, having pointless arguments on the internet, and *********ing using his own tears as lubricant. Did I mention I'm a comm major so I have all the time in the world to pursue those hobbies (particularly the video games and *********ion)?
But underneath the drinking, video gaming, incessantly argumentative, sexual deviant outer-shell, there is a philisophical being somewhere in here. And I can assure you that he has more important things to worry about than whether or not death jokes are objectively wrong.
The meaning of life, for example. I've also been wondering lately about whether or not we're born to become a certain person or if we develop a certain identity as we mature.
All jokes aside (some truth was in there, you can decide which parts), I don't think I know everything. I do, however, believe that drawing a line at people making death jokes is stupid considering there are much more telling ways to judge someone's character.
Considering the amount of things that have been deemed "filth" over the years that have eventually become praised as "culture" (jazz, pop art, any sort of dancing ever), I would imagine you don't truly believe that the type of jokes someone finds funny is an indication of their moral values.
Though I suppose that this isn't really about the fact that it's a joke about death, it's the fact that it's a joke about death regarding someone I know that can read it. I again point to the fact that while the joke is indecent, that's what makes it funny. It's a laughter despite myself, and it's a cheap laugh, but I understand the moral implications about joking about someone else's death. If Milenko's feelings are hurt by it, apologies will be made I'm sure, but the joke is all in good fun (I hope), so there's really nothing to be upset about.
That was sort of a stream-of-consciousness response. Make of it what you will.
From what I know of you on this forum and what I've read about you, I don't think what you've been defending in this thread is indicative of the person you are, nor the person you can be. Why am I spending all this time on you? Because I think you're better than this. That's not a guilt trip or an appeal to emotion, it's my honest opinion.
Ehhhh I think you're reading into this too much. Flattered as I am that you think I'm above a cheap yuk, which I fully admit that Milenko jokes are, I don't think one should judge a man's character by the fact that he passively engages in a joke about someone dying in a somewhat comedic manner. I was under the impression that you and IC got along just fine and dandy, and that is a man that enjoys a good Owen Hart joke!
Maybe I'm wrong about that. But between the two of us, only you truly knows the answer.
Don't try to talk like you're from Jersey. Yous guys from Minnesouri is bad at it.
So to sum up this one, because my posts are getting progressively sloppier as it gets later:
- You can't base all human reactions on logic (that's an argument I despise).
- If someone has a problem with me, they should say so. I'm a pretty reasonable guy I think.
- There are more important things to worry about than whether or not someone takes offense to a joke being made at their expense.