Talking to girls

[Christian Battlez]

Every gf I've ever had has easily fallen into my lap. I never had to work hard to seal the deal. They were either friends of a friend or the girl just came up and talked to me. So now im 19 years old and im crazy about this grl i just met this week at my work and we talk a little bit every day. I think she knows i like her but i dont know if she likes me back. Today I called her over and asked her what she was doing tomorrow and she said work why. and i froze up and went uh...no reason. Epic fail. I don't know how to get the nerves to say it. Im afraid if she says no it will make things awkward at work. I liked a girl earlier this year and people found out and it turned into a dramatic situation. Those people are all gone now but i dont want a another thing like that if she says no. Someone help. lol

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Meh, if its a chick at work you see everyday, just be flirty, dont bust right out with it. that can endanger your job and working enviornment. Messing with girls at work is just a very bad idea in general big guy

 

[Tenta]

Christian, I knowe the feeling, and I can relate on so many levels, man. Here's what I'd say, man;

Fuck Everyone Else

Sure, people may talk. Hell, it means that they see you two working, in some way. If they didn't, no one would talk about it. and even if they do talk about it, if the girl likes you, she won't care one bit who's talking. I am a rising junior in college, and the girl I'm seeing now just graduated. Sure, people talked about and thought it was weird. But we didn't care, because we knew how happy we felt with one another, and we didn't care.

Don't Worry About Reprecussions

It's work, and you don't want your personal life and work too involved with one another. But if she's a professional, she won't let it get in the ways of doing your job. No one that isn't a vengeful person lets their professional life and personal life get too intertwined, and makes them act differently at work. My guess is that she realizes this, and will probably be sure to act cordial, even if things don't work.

Always Take That Chance

There's a break, and you don't want to take it?

Well, if she's going to the water cooler, so do you. Not every time, because that's merely creepy, but enough times. First maybe in groups of people you work with, so that your personality can flash out the most. Then, maybe once or twice, try to focus on her while you talk. Have the same personality, but still talk to her in the group. Then, one day, just ask her if you want to spend your lunch break together, or go get lunch.

And finally, and most importantly

Don't Act Too Different

I'm not going to say "be yourself", because we all have moments that we just can't be that. All I'm saying is to, sure, act a bit different, but not completely different. Because your friends may just call you out. But acting a bit different may work a bit, and who knows? Maybe it'll force her to play her hand a bit.

Anyway, that's what I offer. Besides my traditional "good luck"

 

[Christian Battlez]

Meh, if its a chick at work you see everyday, just be flirty, dont bust right out with it. that can endanger your job and working enviornment. Messing with girls at work is just a very bad idea in general big guy

lots of people from my job date people from their same departments. i work at a water park so there are tons of attractive lifeguards.lol this girl is different she isnt intimidatingly hot but shes cute which is more my type and really fun to talk to. my friend mike (yes the idiot who hasnt gotten back on since that one day) lol said to get her number first then talk to her for like a week and get to know her then ask her out. But IDK because even asking for ere number will make me get all nervous and freeze up lol.

 

[Christian Battlez]

Christian, I knowe the feeling, and I can relate on so many levels, man. Here's what I'd say, man;

Fuck Everyone Else

Sure, people may talk. Hell, it means that they see you two working, in some way. If they didn't, no one would talk about it. and even if they do talk about it, if the girl likes you, she won't care one bit who's talking. I am a rising junior in college, and the girl I'm seeing now just graduated. Sure, people talked about and thought it was weird. But we didn't care, because we knew how happy we felt with one another, and we didn't care.

Don't Worry About Reprecussions

It's work, and you don't want your personal life and work too involved with one another. But if she's a professional, she won't let it get in the ways of doing your job. No one that isn't a vengeful person lets their professional life and personal life get too intertwined, and makes them act differently at work. My guess is that she realizes this, and will probably be sure to act cordial, even if things don't work.

Always Take That Chance

There's a break, and you don't want to take it?

Well, if she's going to the water cooler, so do you. Not every time, because that's merely creepy, but enough times. First maybe in groups of people you work with, so that your personality can flash out the most. Then, maybe once or twice, try to focus on her while you talk. Have the same personality, but still talk to her in the group. Then, one day, just ask her if you want to spend your lunch break together, or go get lunch.

And finally, and most importantly

Don't Act Too Different

I'm not going to say "be yourself", because we all have moments that we just can't be that. All I'm saying is to, sure, act a bit different, but not completely different. Because your friends may just call you out. But acting a bit different may work a bit, and who knows? Maybe it'll force her to play her hand a bit.

Anyway, that's what I offer. Besides my traditional "good luck"

thnx tenta thats all really helpful. I mean it i'll take it into account.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Well, thats just it. Dont freeze up. Make your sack drop, nut up, and just ask the damn girl out. Goodness. LOL

 

[X]

Yeah girls really do love confidence. Don't pussyfoot around, even if you're scared like a twit just relax, act like it's no big deal and ask 'em out. Don't be a jerk or anything but play it cool. Girl's eat that shit up.

Being really funny also helps; are you humorous? I probably got most pussy in my life just cracking jokes with women.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

X is dead on. Confidence is a killer. So show it, even if its fake. If she tells you no, so fucking what. Life goes on. You have much more to gain than you do to loose.

 

[Christian Battlez]

Yeah girls really do love confidence. Don't pussyfoot around, even if you're scared like a twit just relax, act like it's no big deal and ask 'em out. Don't be a jerk or anything but play it cool. Girl's eat that shit up.

Being really funny also helps; are you humorous? I probably got most pussy in my life just cracking jokes with women.

I'm the funniest guy on the planet

^^^^^^^
FACT

ok so thats a stretch but everyone i know thinks im hirious and ive already made her laugh just with a couple one liners. They come out of nowhere there will be something funny going on and i'll chime in with somethng sharp. Like one day my phone cut out and i go dam my house gets less reception than Troy Williamson. If you watch football and especially if your a vikings fan you get that joke.lol

 

[Christian Battlez]

X is dead on. Confidence is a killer. So show it, even if its fake. If she tells you no, so fucking what. Life goes on. You have much more to gain than you do to loose.

this is very true. ^^^^^

 

[48.7 is Approximately 49 Times Better Than You]

Girls love guys with great grammar.

 

[Christian Battlez]

Girls love guys with great grammar.

i gots bunches of the goodest garmmar ever in the history of the universe.

 

[Tenta]

Yes, but they also love humor and confidence. NorCal and X are pretty damn correct. You don't have to act like the shit, but just so people know that you are the alpha male, and not to be fucked with.

And PYT, I'll agree, but then again, have you ever read a girl's text? They love that shit, and they always are grammatically incorrect.

 

[Christian Battlez]

Yes, but they also love humor and confidence. NorCal and X are pretty damn correct. You don't have to act like the shit, but just so people know that you are the alpha male, and not to be fucked with.

And PYT, I'll agree, but then again, have you ever read a girl's text? They love that shit, and they always are grammatically incorrect.

noone worries about proper spelling and grammar when txting. Cept maybe Slyfox but he probably has heated debates with his friends over txt messaging and needs his grammar to be correct.lol

 

[Tenta]

LOL I'd love to see a Sly text, I actually do text with proper grammar myself. As an English major, it's a habit.

Oh, another thing.... Talk about things you know you'll look smart in. There's a reason guys talk football around girls.... They like to hear us sound like we know what we're talking about. I'd recommend trying to steer a convo into something that you sound intelligent in, and see if she has an interest in it.

 

[48.7 is Approximately 49 Times Better Than You]

And PYT, I'll agree, but then again, have you ever read a girl's text? They love that shit, and they always are grammatically incorrect.

It drives me insane. I told my best friend that I would not text her if she continued to write like this: "hey matt how r u? im goin 2 a movie tmro. wanna cum?" Drives me insane.

noone worries about proper spelling and grammar when txting. Cept maybe Slyfox but he probably has heated debates with his friends over txt messaging and needs his grammar to be correct.lol

I used perfect grammar.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Generally people with really good grammar find it easy to speak confidently.


Jus sayin

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Every gf I've ever had has easily fallen into my lap.

Kicking crutches out from handicap girls doesn't count, Christian.

I never had to work hard to seal the deal.

Thats because hookers never say no to cash.

They were either friends of a friend or the girl just came up and talked to me.

So, in other words.. your friends always sealed you the deal. Not you.

So now im 19 years old and im crazy about this grl i just met this week at my work and we talk a little bit every day.

I'd wager thats because you work together. You'd be amazed how hard it is to ignore someone at work, especially when most of the time.. you can't.

I think she knows i like her but i dont know if she likes me back. Today I called her over and asked her what she was doing tomorrow and she said work why. and i froze up and went uh...no reason.

Well, either she has a clue you like her.. or she thinks you're just fucking weird.

If I were you, I'd hope for the first theory.

Epic fail.

Indeed.

I don't know how to get the nerves to say it.

How about.. "Hey, so would you like to go do something some time?"

Seems pretty uncanny and rock solid to me.

Im afraid if she says no it will make things awkward at work.

Never. Okay, maybe. But would it matter? You aren't at your job to play awkwardness back and forth with co-workers. Thats why in most handbooks it tells you NOT to try and fuck your co-worker. (Not exactly like that, but something along those lines.)

I liked a girl earlier this year and people found out and it turned into a dramatic situation. Those people are all gone now but i dont want a another thing like that if she says no.

Thats friends for you. You tell one group of 20 people you think the new girl looks fucking hot in a pair of jeans.. and sexual harassment papers get filed the next day.

Someone help. lol

lol Kidding, I just wanted to use that photo.

All in all, just be yourself. According to you, you've never had issues getting girls before.

So either you lied to make yourself look good to a bunch of guys on a Wrestling forum, or deep down you're just scared that because you've possibly never been shot down before - you don't want to be now. It happens.

Again, just ask her out. Its not as hard as it seems.. even for people who're scared shitless.

This is what you have to lose.. nothing.. thats it. What happens if she says no? Nothing. So she says no. Move on.

 

[Milkyway!]

Heh, talking to chicks is always the easy part. Introducing yourself without looking like a stalker, is hard. All of my girlfriends have made the comment to me they though I was fucking weird at first. Because I just walked up to them and acted like I've known them my entire life.

The longest reigning girlfriend I ever had, and best at that was the only one that didn't make this comment. I actually pretended she were a lesbian at first. Yeah, I've got a SMALL homophobia around gay people before I get to know them. Yeah, so I got to act nervous, and she found it flattering. Later I told her what I did, she laughed for a good 10 minutes. It got me two wins. Chicks dig funny, just not, ******ed funny.