Is girlfriend right to stop me m@sturbating/watching porn?

[King Patrick Star]

How about you just do it, and not tell her…or anyone else…or anyone else on the internet…

 

[George Steele's Barber]

How about you just do it, and not tell her…or anyone else…or anyone else on the internet…

I'm so disappointed this post had nothing to do with *********ing and King Patrick's title belt collection.

 

[Poop Master Flex]

Loving some of the replies, bit of comic relief is always good.

Getting more frustrated with her, the other night she said to me I don't always need to do something and that she is bringing her level up (meaning she is having more sex than she normally would) and so I should bring my level down to meet her in the middle. To me that said she wants me to only have anything when she is in the mood. Am I reading too much into that? Or am I right?

You are probably reading too much into that, there's no rule saying you have to sit there and twiddle your thumbs waiting until she is in the mood, you more than have the right to push for sex when you're in the mood. I do it when I'm in the mood, sometimes I get it, sometimes I don't but there's no harm in trying, just be respectful about it if she says no.

Relationships are give and take but its important to remember that the playing field should be even. If she's putting in more effort than I don't see any reason you shouldn't either, I find the whole "*********ion is cheating" idea completely and utterly stupid but when in a relationship you have to be mindful of your partners feelings as well and because of that compromise is often needed, just make sure its a compromise you can both live with.

With that said you have to ask yourself "can I live with this compromise?" (assuming she is actually willing to compromise rather than just saying she is). If not find a compromise you can both live with, if you can't then consider your options, just be prepared to live with them.

I will say this though, I've never had a girlfriend ever think that *********ion is a form of cheating. I'm not sure if you know either (if you do I'm really interested in knowing that answer) but I'm a firm believer in you can't expect someone to do something if you don't have at least a coherent reason for it. With my girlfriend I've often done things for her that I didn't particularly agree with, I didn't always agree with her reasoning but at least she gave me a decent reason I could at least understand, if should couldn't at least provide me with that I just didn't go along with it.

Personally, watching porn/*********ing isn't being physical, I doubt there isn't any emotional attachment to it (if there is then I'm with your GF on this subject), it's a simple urge that you want taken care of and as long as its either you or your girlfriend taking care of it I don't see the issue.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

You dont need to do a damn thing.

If your needs aren't being met, and you are taking care of it yourself, then it is what it is. If she doesnt like it, then she can either take care of what you need herself, or move on to someone more on her level, just as you should move on to someone on YOUR level.

You can care for someone, but if your needs arent being met in any facet of the relationship, then you are well within your rights to move on. There is a stigma attached to sexual needs being less important than others, and its senseless.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

It counts as cheating in her head most likely because the gratification you get isn't exclusively from her. It's an emotional cheating, in a sense. Not criticising you or anything, I can see where she's coming from is all.

How the fuck can it be emotional cheating? Is he legitimately in love with a girl in the video?


Its pure physical release, and thats all. There is zero emotional connection involved whatsoever.

 

[Nate DaMac]

Its pure physical release, and thats all. There is zero emotional connection involved whatsoever.

That's what I tell my wife.




Every time we have sex.

 

[Good Golly It's Ollie]

How the fuck can it be emotional cheating? Is he legitimately in love with a girl in the video?


Its pure physical release, and thats all. There is zero emotional connection involved whatsoever.

I'm just saying that that's likely the reason from her perspective, that's all. You know they see these things differently than we do

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Doesnt make it correct.

 

[Gelgarin]

I'm not convinced wanting your partner to refrain from beating off over other women is a particularly unreasonable commitment to ask for in a relationship.

I confess to not being much of a porn fan, but I'd certainly eschew it if a serious partner asked me to.