I'm single

[Mighty NorCal]

As has been said, my best advisement is to throw everything you have at it right now....tell her everything, do everything....do it all.

If that don't work, then welp....it is what it is.

I dont trifle around trying to tell you how to feel better, and oh, everything will be ok. it likely wont, and you are gonna feel like shit for a while. Only time and distance between you, her, and this situation will ever bring you peace. Just try to stay active. The more shit you have to focus your mind on, the easier the transition will be.

 

[The Doctor]

I can't really give any advice that isn't already said here, but stay strong man.

 

[Super Hans]

If she is with her ex already then that tells you everything about how she feels now,sucks i know as it has happened to me before too,just got to get back on the horsey buddy.And always remember Bitches Be Crazy!

 

[Dr. Stinger A. Zoidberg]

I went through something similar when I was 17. My girlfriend of 3, almost 4 years had broken up with me. I was devastated, and went into depression. However, I realized that I have to move on. Now, I'm 24, and happily married. It will all work out in the end Armbar, trust me on that. I'm here if you need me.

 

[Razor]

I've never had to go through this before. That's one positive of having gone 20 years without having someone that significant in my life..I guess you could say.

However, I can still be here for whatever you need. Girls'll fuck us guys up, mang.

 

[Via Armbar]

To anyone that has offered advice, thanks. It's impossible to try and explain exactly what kind of feelings this has drawn from me or what implications this has on my future. Some things just can't be translated through a keyboard. I have no choice but to start new but it will no doubt be the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. When your only real, true friend leaves...literally I feel like the walls are closing in on me. Everything I have known is gone and isn't coming back. I've lost my best friend.

I might not be posting the rest of the day. I haven't slept literally in three days or eaten in about two so I should try and get a grip on that. It'd hard when even things like that don't make sense anymore. Anyways, thanks again for the support. You guys have been awesome. If Rampage doesn't knock out Evans tonight I might lose it completely.

 

[Smooth Sexual Chocolate]

Honestly, this is some tough shit to read coming from someone who seemed so invincible online, obviously your a really smart guy Armbar, anybody can tell that from reading just one of your posts. When it comes down to it all the advice in the world won't help, you know what you need to do without the help of all your online compadres. Just stay mentally strong and know that everything will work out for you in the long run, no matter how much your paining right now.

I mean her ex was completely out of the game for the last two years, and she crawls back to him within a couple days of breaking up, that's fucking cold, but it does leave you light at the end of the tunnel. Even if she doesn't take you back right away there is still hope in the fact that after two years she went right back to her ex, just make sure to be there when this guy drops the ball.

On top of that, I'm a short(kinda) drive north anytime you wanna smoke some premium buds, seriously though, anytime your in the bay you've got a major smokeout from me.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Yea man, the long short of things is this....


Its gonna take a while. Like I said, just try to engage in things you enjoy as much as possible, to distract your mind while time passes by. I wont even say you will ever "get over it" becuase you likely wont. I still think of both my exes from time to time.

You will do good though. Your a chill, smart, successfull guy. In time, things will get better man. I know your in a deep dark place right now, but it will get better in time, brother.

 

[Rhonda Rousey's Sports Bra]

Wow, I'm sorry for you man. The only advice I can give you that hasn't already been said is don't go after the ex boyfriend, it will show a bad side of you and she won't respect you for it. At least that happened to me once after a tough break up. That and show her how much you love her without beung too weak, even though you had a long relationship and you might think she wants you to be completly broken over her right now, you still have to stay strong and not be too weak. They seem to get turned off on that very quickly even if they love you. I feel for you man, my girlfriend broke up with me after 9 monthes for a few days because I didn't show her enough love and wasn't a good boyfriend, I'm still with her now and we just celebrated our one year last week, she came back because I did what I just told you. So in short show that you love her and care but don't be too weak and pathetic, even though it's how you feel.

 

[Rhonda Rousey's Sports Bra]

One more thing, don't sleep with her til you are back together, don't let it just become sex or you will lose her.

 

[Via Armbar]

I just realized that I'm not going to be getting any for a while. That fucking makes this so much worse. I mean I could, but I won't. I couldn't imagine making it with someone besides her.

 

[Rhonda Rousey's Sports Bra]

Thank God for porn, don't go findin new pussy just for fuck's sake(literally) you'll regret it. That you can count on.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

I just realized that I'm not going to be getting any for a while. That fucking makes this so much worse. I mean I could, but I won't. I couldn't imagine making it with someone besides her.

do NOT do that. the way that feels afterward is one of the most empty, filthy, saaaad feelings you will ever have. I fucked a chick 5 days after me and the girl I was with for a year and a half broke up, and it was a terrible, terrible, terrible thing.

 

[Rhonda Rousey's Sports Bra]

NorCal is a smart man when it comes to this shit.

 

[Mr. Steve]

Yea man, the long short of things is this....


Its gonna take a while. Like I said, just try to engage in things you enjoy as much as possible, to distract your mind while time passes by. I wont even say you will ever "get over it" becuase you likely wont. I still think of both my exes from time to time.

You will do good though. Your a chill, smart, successfull guy. In time, things will get better man. I know your in a deep dark place right now, but it will get better in time, brother.

Exactly what Norcs said. Just remember that right now, what's happening to you didn't and shouldn't kill you; just made you stronger, and smarter. Might not seem like much advice now, but it got me through a breakup. Hopefully, what we all said here helps you too.

 

[HEEL Blazy]

Sorry to heat that man.

Worst I been thought was a few years back with a girl I was with 3 months. I couldn't image what its like after two years. Just stay strong bro and just hopefully can get her back. The move on stuff they say I heard it before but like you could always get her back just wait a few days let stuff sink in then tell her how much you love her. Tell her all that and just hope for the best.

 

[48.7 is Approximately 49 Times Better Than You]

My girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me on Wednesday. I'm still in high school, so I can't say I have any great answers. I don't know if I feel the same way that you do, but it sucks, man. No way to sugarcoat it. But if I can tell you one thing, there is no way that after such a long time together that she can just forget her feelings for you. I'd say to just give her a little space and time, and see where it goes. The mistake I'm 100% sure that I made was coming across as needy, or clingy. I'm reading a book that I got through a filesharing site. You can find it pretty easy with google. I'm a bit skeptical, but it's worth a try. It's called How to Get Her Back for Good. Hope everything works out, man, for you and me.

 

[D-Man]

Armbar, you know you've really grown on me quickly on the forum. And when I see a friend in need, I don't hesitate to help. So I would like to offer my advice. While some of it may come off as being a bit brash, you must read my underlying intentions here.

I've been hurt by women many times. But no matter how overwhelming the drug of love can be on your body, you need to always understand that loss is a part of life. We live, love, and lose things and that circle will never cease to exist. But no matter how severe the pain and heartache, we must always grab onto the things still existing that make us happy. Never let go of those things. They existed before she was yours and they will exist afterwards.

It's cliche, but when you get knocked down, it's not about how hard you fall but how quickly you can get back up and dust yourself off. Since you said you had been in love before, it shouldn't be unfamiliar for you to hear that time heals everything. As time passes, she fades away.

I know that all you want right now is her. But just let the days go by and fall off the calendar and you'll realize that you can still live your life to the fullest without her.

Believe it or not, you're actually in the middle of a wonderful time in your life. Now's the great time where you find YOURSELF. Once you do, you've completely moved on from her and you will be happier than you could ever imagine. TRUST ME.

 

[Super Hans]

Oh and 4 hours of a certain MMA organization will take your mind off it tonight buddy.

 

[D-Man]

Oh and 4 hours of a certain MMA organization will take your mind off it tonight buddy.

FUCK yeah. Evans vs. Jackson is on like Donkey Kong.

 

[latino World order]

 

[justinsayne]

Thank God for porn, don't go findin new pussy just for fuck's sake(literally) you'll regret it. That you can count on.

This is true, the last 2 years you have been having sex with someone you love and care about more than anything, trying to fuck some random girl you just met is going to feel cold, empty, & pointless and you'll more than likely feel like shit

All in all just give it time we all go trough some tough shit in life, and I guarantee you every guy on this forum has either gone through something similar or at some point in there life will go through something similar, just try to keep your head up, and as NorCal said stay busy, and try not to dwell on it too much, eventually things will get better

 

[The Big Gunnzbowski]

Some of you have posted some of your experiences, so I'll share my worst... If any of you ever read my old "story" thread, you may have seen it at one point, lol

I was with my ex for 6 almost 7 years. From my Sophomore year in High School until I was almost 21. We had a daughter my senior year. We stayed together, talked about marriage, applied to the same college, got accepted... I uprooted myself to move to Phoenix with her, we met with the College, set up our start date, secured an apartment, I got us brand new cell phones... I mean, I had saved up THOUSANDS of dollars for this exact time in our life. This very same day (that all of this happened) we stayed in a motel. (I hadn't seen her in about 3 months, because she was living at her moms while I was working elsewhere to save up for all this stuff) I hadn't touched her in 3 months and the night we stayed at this motel, we had sex... or started to... It felt like I had just fucked her that morning (She was loose... Normally, she was VERY tight when we hadn't seen eachother in awhile) I was devastated. She finally came out and told me that she had been cheating on me for about a year, with just about every guy that ever liked her while we were together. I stopped my whole life to start one with this girl, and just like that...it was over. Everything I had worked for, everything I had planned, everything I wanted to be in life...gone. I dropped out of the school, never got the apartment, lost her and my daughter, and had to start over. I havent seen my daughter but maybe 4-5 times in the last 5 years, because I never know where they are. I'm now married, with 2 kids (from my wife) and I'm happy. It took a long time to get over the mess, but it is possible. Keep your head up, my friend. Still here for ya!

 

[Cena's Little Helper]

Damn, man...I wouldn't wish a two-timing woman on even my worst enemy. I would give you some advice, but, my way of dealing with someone cheating and dumping you is highly unethical (basically, I advocate paying it forward: find someone else to clean your balls out quick, and then dump their ass when you want to be single again, of when you've found a new piece).

 

[Via Armbar]

Honestly, my first thought was to call up one of the many skanks I used to fuck before we were together. Then I thought about it and realized no matter what, the only reason I want to fuck a chick isn't because of the sex but because of the company. I haven't slept alone but maybe once or twice in the past 2 years and now it's just me. It's such a shit feeling to have a piece of you missing.The absolute worst part though is it was my fault. I usually don't play the blame game but there was so much more I could have done. Seeing that she was the best friend I've ever had, I never told her enough. A super rough fucking start this is going to be.

In slightly lighter news, my friends made an awesome effort to comfort me today. The friends that I hadn't been close with for a while because me and my ex were so exiled all of the time, they still cared enough to know that I really needed someone. That's awesome and it really makes me feel better.