Chicago1989
Ain't it sleep first then eat?
Recently, I was in a relationship with a girl, who I work with. She's 25 and I'm 21. I told her about my feelings towards this girl and she accepted them. As time went on, I was trying understand her. Sure, we should've been friends first, but my heart told me to be with her right away, so I did.
I told her a few times that "I loved her" just to make her happy, but at the same time, I really meant it by saying that I loved being around her and that I care for her. She took it too seriously in my view, so she had a feeling of doubt because she thought that I really didn't love her. Love is something you show, not tell for the sake of it. It was my mistake but I still cared for her.
So I kept on showing her love and calling her everyday, missing her, and even crying for her to be honest because of joy and of how much I cared. She never showed me those kinds of emotions. The reason why she decided to break us up is because of these reasons - Because supposedly, I was trying too hard in the relationship.
Explain to me when is it "too much" when I care for someone? It makes no sense..
The second reason for the break-up is because she thinks that we didn't have chemistry.
It took me a while to truly understand what chemistry means but now I know. As long as I loved being around her, felt happy to be with her, and fortunate that I was with someone who I wanted to be with, isn't that chemistry on my part? She wasn't equal with me because she chose to doubt me instead of loving me. I also didn't want to tell everyone at work or on Facebook about our relationship, but it was only small hints that I gave out to only some people. She didn't approve of that too. Our true relationship lasted less than a month..
My question is, now that it seems that I've figured this all out, how would you guys feel if this happened to you? Am I wrong or right here?
I told her a few times that "I loved her" just to make her happy, but at the same time, I really meant it by saying that I loved being around her and that I care for her. She took it too seriously in my view, so she had a feeling of doubt because she thought that I really didn't love her. Love is something you show, not tell for the sake of it. It was my mistake but I still cared for her.
So I kept on showing her love and calling her everyday, missing her, and even crying for her to be honest because of joy and of how much I cared. She never showed me those kinds of emotions. The reason why she decided to break us up is because of these reasons - Because supposedly, I was trying too hard in the relationship.
Explain to me when is it "too much" when I care for someone? It makes no sense..
The second reason for the break-up is because she thinks that we didn't have chemistry.
It took me a while to truly understand what chemistry means but now I know. As long as I loved being around her, felt happy to be with her, and fortunate that I was with someone who I wanted to be with, isn't that chemistry on my part? She wasn't equal with me because she chose to doubt me instead of loving me. I also didn't want to tell everyone at work or on Facebook about our relationship, but it was only small hints that I gave out to only some people. She didn't approve of that too. Our true relationship lasted less than a month..
My question is, now that it seems that I've figured this all out, how would you guys feel if this happened to you? Am I wrong or right here?