I'm single

[Via Armbar]

For the first time in 2 years. I'm so incredibly lost and hurt right now. The fact that I am telling people I've never met and more than likely never will is probably and idea of how badly I have managed my life up to this point. The fact that I have to get it out before I lose my mind is something to think about. The only person I have ever truly loved, truly cared about is gone. Whatever I thought we had, whatever future I had built for us in my mind is just a what if now.

Holy fuck I'm destroyed right now.

 

[HBK-aholic]

Aw babes *hug* You'll be okay. I know it doesn't seem that way now, but you will get through this. x

 

[Sparky]

hopefully it's the first time. The first break up never stands. if she loves you she will come back.

 

[klunderbunker]

Very sudden I'm assuming?

 

[Theo Mays]

You always have me Armbar

Seriously though, like Becca said it'll get better. You'll get through it amigo.

 

[Via Armbar]

This is different. I was 16 and in love before. I thought I was hurt then. This is literally my life that is gone. I've fucked up. I've made dumb decisions and wasn't the boyfriend that I could have been. Another example of me being my own worst enemy. Of all the dumb shit I have done in my life, of all the mistakes, the only thing I was ever positive of was that I loved her. Everything we had made it through. Everytime she cried and every time I thought she was being dramatic was a chance for me to show her that nothing in this world can damage us. Could make me feel differently about her. Everything I know is gone right now.

 

[klunderbunker]

In a few days, call her. Maybe some things can change. You never know.

 

[Via Armbar]

She already has a new boyfriend. She said that she never cheated on me and I believe it. We broke up a couple of days ago and thought it was just another fight, Now she's with her ex. I want to be mad, I want to hate her. I cant because this was me. This was what I have created for myself. To have the only thing you know, the only thing you have ever card about more than yourself leave...i honestly dont know what to do right now.

 

[klunderbunker]

Close your eyes and breathe out a lot. Also, try to rest a bit. Clear whatever you can out of your mind. Yeah I know it's corny.

 

[Slyfox696]

This thread is very unlike Armbar, but then again, so is making up false stories, so I'll offer advice.

Don't let her having a new boyfriend stop you, she was yours for two years. Give her a call and tell her those things, and tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life showing her how much she means to you.

And then, you know, actually show it. That's where so many guys fail...they say it, but never actually do it.


It may not get her back, but if not, there will be another, and keep this in mind.

 

[klunderbunker]

Sly, I'm surprised at you. I was expecting something snarky and sarcastic. Glad to see I was wrong.

 

[Via Armbar]

This thread is very unlike Armbar, but then again, so is making up false stories, so I'll offer advice.

Don't let her having a new boyfriend stop you, she was yours for two years. Give her a call and tell her those things, and tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life showing her how much she means to you.

And then, you know, actually show it. That's where so many guys fail...they say it, but never actually do it.


It may not get her back, but if not, there will be another, and keep this in mind.

This feels so final though. I've been hurt before, it sucked but I got over it. This feel so much different, so much more real. Ive had an fear my entire life of never growing old and never having a future worth living. The only time I ever felt like i did was with her. When I fucked up, she was the one crying and telling me she loved me. For the life of me I cant understand why i constantly sabotage myself and everything i work for. this was my chance for something, to kill that fear ive always had. now i just dont know.

 

[Pepe Silvia]

Gonna take this to MSN, shit got serious

 

[The Big Gunnzbowski]

Armbar, if I can offer you any comfort or advice, this is it. I've been in a similar situation before...I'm sure alot of us had, but one thing I will NOT say, is that I know how you feel. I'm not you, I've not walked in your shoes, and I never will. I do not feel your feelings, only you do. What I will say is this... We learn from our mistakes, whether we realize it or not. If you feel you have made mistakes in this situation, only you can see them and learn from them. You will do whatever you feel is right to fix this situation, because you can't say you did everything you could to save the relationship unless you truly DO everything that YOU think you can to fix it. Once you have done everything you feel has been within your power to have been done, you'll find the answer that you seek. If things don't work out, at least you'll be able to walk away knowing that you did everything you could, without regrets, because regrets are things that we look back on wishing we would have/could have done/not done. Clear your mind and ignore your thoughts. Listen to your heart, my friend. If my personal journey through life and love has taught me anything, it's do what you feel in your heart. Don't let any opportunities slip past you...embrace and pursue whatever your heart desires. If you truly love her, show her. Open up to her and tell her that you've made mistakes and want to try and mend things. I believe that everybody deserves a chance to right the wrongs in their life. What you need at this point is a friend. One person you trust with your inner-most feelings. Someone to talk to, vent to, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen. There's nothing worse than facing something like this alone. This much, I know. We might not know each other outside of this place, but we're all still human beings, and for the most part, some of us genuinely care. I'm only a click away, my friend. If you wanna talk, you can send a message anytime. I wish you the best of luck in your time of despair and may you find whatever happiness you seek in life. Just remember that tomorrow is another day and that no matter how bad you feel, you will feel better, and you'll always have someone to talk to... Give yourself some time to find clarity and approach the situation delicately. Again, best of luck, friend.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Regardless whether you end up back with her, or not, just remember..

Life doesn't stop.. even if you want it to. So don't allow anyone, to let life pass you by.

 

[Via Armbar]

Just a message to anyone who will read it: For fucks sake tell the people you love what they mean to you every fucking day possible. Whether it be your parents, significant other or friends. You never have any idea what they mean to you until it's too late. Money, cars, houses...none of that shit matters at the end of the day. When you are on your death bed and think about your life and how you've lived it, the only thing you will be able to take with you are the people you loved. don't ever live your life putting anything ahead of those things or you will find yourself incredibly alone. If I could go back I would tell her that the only thing I need in life was to wake up next to her everyday and I could be happy.

Dont go a single fucking day without showing how you feel. It's the only thing you will be remembered for.

 

[LigerBomb]

Not to parrot the same advice already given, but I agree, do and say whatever you can, be honest; be true. If that doesn't work, and it may not (at least not immediately), be accepting. Don't close the door because honestly, you never know what time may bring... but in that time realign yourself with who you truly are, perhaps this time apart will uncover something of benefit --though you'll probably only come to realize it upon looking back. My main point however in all this is 'be'... don't watch your life like a third party witness, engage it head on. All the best, and regardless of what happens, I hope some how you come out the other end of this situation better than the way you find yourself in now.

 

[klunderbunker]

One more to add onto the rest: Why not go after her? You've said you love her more than anything and that you've lost evertying. If that's the case, what do you have to lose?

 

[Via Armbar]

I already tried to tell her. She said sorry but we need to move on. I'm completely lost right now but I don't think there is anything I can do.

 

[klunderbunker]

Wait a few days. Then try again, but give it your all.

 

[Ferbian]

I'm sorry to hear about that Armbar, I know I'm probably the worst person to be giving condolences, but I hope everything works out alright, you got me on MSN, so.. well you know where to find me if you want someone to talk to, even though I'm pretty certain you'll have plenty of people to talk to, but what an ass would I be if I didn't at least show I care?

Best of luck however it turns out Armbar, you're a good guy, you deserve the best man.

 

[The Big Gunnzbowski]

The sentiment seems to echo... Don't give up, but don't try too hard, too fast. Give it time. The emotional wounds are still fresh. You said she's back with her ex? 2 Things are going to ring true here...

1) She's on the rebound. It WILL NOT last. She just went to familiar territory because it's "safe". He will not be a lasting thing in her life right now...

2) He was her EX for a reason. Nothing will change that... He'll bury himself again, rest assured. Once she takes time to assess the situation, he will be left behind once again.

Bide your time, Armbar. Let things come full circle and try not to force them. Once she's not vulnerable or defensive, you'll have your chance to state your feelings. Don't smother her too soon, or you'll push her away. More often than not, this is a place where so many go wrong... I know you're hurting and anxious to win her back, but patience is your greatest ally right now. Time, will undoubtedly crawl right now...but it's worth the wait. Trust me. It may take weeks, or months...but given time, she'll know what she wants. You may or may not be it, and that's just a reality you have to look at, but the odds are in your favor if you can be patient and hold out for a bit. You'll be able to give her time to open up to you and find out for certain what went wrong...

 

[Derf]

When two years of your life is gone almost instantly, it hurts. I've been there, but like someone else said, I won't say I know what it feels like. My roomate and I had simaler situations. I got over my ex, he's been in love with her now longer then they have been broken up. Different people recover at different rates.

But regardless of how long it takes, in the event you two don't work things out, things will eventually get better. It will take alot of time, but that time will do wonders as long as you actually try to move on. Find something to keep you occupied. Hang with friends. Play some video games. Join WZCW or something. Anything to get your mind elsewhere for a while.

If she's with an ex, it means one of two things, and I only say this because I think you have the stones to take it, but one of those two reasons is she still liked him from before. The other is she could have felt she needed a rebound, and he was convient. I would try to get her back sooner then later, and if it works, awesome. If not, don't obsesse, it will only drive her further.

Whatever happens, I wish ya luck buddy, cause these situations are never fun.

 

[One Punch Doug Crashin]

I can't pretend I know how you feel Armbar. All my relationships have been 6 month flings. Some I've screwed up some I didn't. They still hurt like a bitch but life goes on. if she still loves you, then she will come back to you. If not then there are other fish in the sea so to speak.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

WHOA what in the BLUE FUCK happened here? Im sure the answers lie within. Still though. Holy shit, man.

You let me lean on ya when that damn silly lil girl ripped my guts out, so I ofer the same bro service to you, my good man