Dear Lariabby,
When you look at traditional male/female roles, logic dictates that a man holds the door, pulls out a woman's chair, pays for meals, etc. Being married, some of these things are that of which I don't have to worry about, mostly all meals. But the holding of the door and pulling out of the chair mean something to me. Part of it was how I was raised, as I was taught that, but part of me just believes it shows my wife I care.
There-in lies the problem. My wife is a saint, but she often(more like never) says 'Thank you' when I hold the door or pull out her chair. She's amazing in every other way, I really couldn't ask for much more. Perhaps it's nitpicking, but the less she says 'Thank you' the less I feel like doing it for her.
We've discussed it, at length, and she always apologizes, and explains it was how she was raised. No thank you's were explained, it was expected of the man to do most things for the woman, so why thank them for doing their 'job'? Still, I've told her my concern in it, and she understood, said she would work on it, but yet, almost a year later, and nothing is changed.
I don't want to be 'That Guy" who gets on her about one thing, but it makes me feel unappreciated. My issue, whether wrong or how selfish it may appear I'm being, is that it can ruin evenings for me. But at this point, when discussion with friends, family, and other females, all who have given advice, hasn't worked.
Do you think this is something I should just let go, Love her for her faults like she does mine, or worth pursuing further?
