Sexual Racism

[jacdnwarrior]

See the thing is I'm a black guy whose dated had a girlfriend or two. You can find beautiful women in all communities. People do discriminate when it comes to dating. He's too short, she's too loud, he's not making enough, she doesn't cook ,etc. People choose who is better for them in terms of being a partner, girlfriend, boyfriend etc.

Here's my thing: I've had opportunity to go out with white women, found a number attractive, but would never act on it. There's just such a conflict inside me concerning dating outside my community, that I wasn't willing to take the chance(brave, might be a better word). Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong, but I have to be honest with myself and any person I am thinking about going out with. I think if you're comfortable fine, but not every one is. Some people like to be with certain people and some have no criteria whatsoever. Whatever works for you.

AS said before it's sexual preference, not sexual racism.

 

[Xemmy]

A lot of guys I talk to have this attitude. Now admittedly, I do have a skin preference in that I like extremely pale chicks- to the point that it looks like they've never seen the sun. However, that doesn't mean I won't date a girl if she doesn't have that deliciously pale skin. I just have a particular favorite flavor of ice cream. I still love chocolate, butter pecan, and peanut butter.

My friends on the other hand, who act like they're anti-racism have all stated in one form or another that they probably wouldn't date a black woman. Especially if she's "REALLY black". I'm currently residing in the South, and unlike me- my friends were raised here, and I've been wondering if the racism is still built in. I haven't seen any studies, and I've wondered about this for awhile. Culture differences maybe. Or maybe some people are uncomfortable with going outside their race. But one thing I have noticed is that there is a bit of stigma against black women in particular- I've never heard a guy say he didn't like white women, Asian women, or Latino women. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen both ways- but this is the one I hear about the most.