I'm engaged

[justinsayne]

Here's a thought, perhaps before committing to moving across the country to live with her, just fly out there & hang out with her for a week or two, see how that goes. if it goes well then perhaps you talk about moving. Living with a GF changes the dynamic of a relationship in ways you can not imagine.

 

[Hyorinmaru]

She plans on visiting her friend in DC. I live only 6 hours away from DC

 

[¡Roján!]

Nice to know you're still mocking my writing that you literally begged to read

Why do you have it in your head that I mock you 24/7? You're my buddy.

 

[Lee]

Priorities:

1) School
2) Friend in DC
3) Person she's engaged to.

 

[justinsayne]

Priorities:

1) School
2) Friend in DC
3) Person she's engaged to.

My thoughts exactly,

Wait you for get her animals are pretty high up on the list as well

 

[Hyorinmaru]

Priorities:

1) School
2) Friend in DC
3) Person she's engaged to.

My thoughts exactly,

Wait you for get her animals are pretty high up on the list as well

Guys please stop

 

[Harthan]

Guys please stop

Milenko, despite the fact that a good deal of it is mockery, you should really listen to the advice here. Getting "engaged" to a person you've never met is a bad idea. You should probably not have done this.

 

[Hyorinmaru]

The advice I am listening to and have taken it all in. The please stop was at the blatant mocking from Lee & Justin.

And as for not should have done it, it's to late and I would not change it for the world

 

[Turd Ferguson]

No my point is. If you're going out with a girl, why were you arranging a date with someone else?

Answer the question, Milenko.

 

[Fizzy]

Pretty sure he wasn't dating her, he just proposed while they were both friends. Don't think they ever dated.

Anyways, so she visits her best friend and you drive to DC to meet and spend time with her. I doubt she will be staying long, and you won't have much time alone with her, nor will you be living alone with her for an extended period of time. Are you going to base your decision of moving in with her on these times in DC, even though you will have no idea what living with her will be like?

 

[gd]

I was happy for him before reading the thread. I am not thoroughly confused. My biggest question though, is what kind of pets does she have?

 

[Hyorinmaru]

what part of

WE WILL MEET & LIVE TOGETHER FOR A WHILE BEFORE WE MARRY​

are you people not getting? Everyone still saying but you've never met her and haven't lived with her after this I will assume you are either blind or mentally handicapped.

 

[gd]

What kind of pets does she have?

 

[Hyorinmaru]

Cats & Dogs

 

[¡Roján!]

Have you ever read "Catcher in the Rye", Milenko? If you haven't don't, it's shit but, you remind me of Holden Caulfied. Any one who's read the book should agree with me.

 

[justinsayne]

Dude, I don't give a shit about you marrying her, the fact remains you are going to just pack up & move across the country to live with someone you really don't know? Why not fly out to Oregon for like a week or so, when it can be just you & her, that way you can get a better feel of whether this is still a decision you want to go through with or not. Driving 6 hrs. to see her when she comes to the East coast to visit a friend is not the same as spending a week with her in Oregon, where the two of you would be living should you go through with this. Keep in mind if you just jump in head first & move across the country, & it doesn't work out you're stuck living in a place where you have no family, no friends, & would have no place to live, you would be completely on your own.

 

[Hyorinmaru]

Have you ever read "Catcher in the Rye", Milenko? If you haven't don't, it's shit but, you remind me of Holden Caulfied. Any one who's read the book should agree with me.

This

One of Holden's most striking and quintessential qualities is his powerful revulsion for "phony" qualities, a catch all term for all the hypocrisy that infuriates Holden. It is this cynicism that consequently causes him to distance himself from other people. Interestingly, despite Holden's strong disdain for phony qualities, he exhibits some of the qualities that he abhors, thereby making him a somewhat tragic character. Holden is very much a character of contradiction; At six feet, two-and-a-half inches, he is tall for his age and already has some gray hair, though he himself admits that he acts more like a 13-year-old than an adult. He continually fails classes and calls himself "dumb", yet he shows intelligence through his reasonably articulate narration.

Sounds like me?

 

[Miko]

Just meet her halfway, pitch a tent and stay there for a week living off the wild. That much time in that close proximity to each other ought to give you a better understanding of each other, after all you dont really know someone until you've seen them defecate in the woods. It'll be a crash course in getting to know your future bride. Plus it'll be cheap and a fair compromise, if she doesnt go for it then I'd be worried.

 

[Hyorinmaru]

Dude, I don't give a shit about you marrying her, the fact remains you are going to just pack up & move across the country to live with someone you really don't know? Why not fly out to Oregon for like a week or so, when it can be just you & her, that way you can get a better feel of whether this is still a decision you want to go through with or not. Driving 6 hrs. to see her when she comes to the East coast to visit a friend is not the same as spending a week with her in Oregon, where the two of you would be living should you go through with this. Keep in mind if you just jump in head first & move across the country, & it doesn't work out you're stuck living in a place where you have no family, no friends, & would have no place to live, you would be completely on your own.

This is a good idea, One my lack of funds prevents for a while though

 

[The 1-2-3 Killam]

Cats & Dogs

You're fucked.

 

[Khalifa]

Alot of haters. I say congrats dude. The heart knows what the heart wants and you're going for it, thats all that matters.

 

[Fizzy]

what part of

WE WILL MEET & LIVE TOGETHER FOR A WHILE BEFORE WE MARRY​

are you people not getting? Everyone still saying but you've never met her and haven't lived with her after this I will assume you are either blind or mentally handicapped.

You still haven't addressed my post...

 

[Hyorinmaru]

You still haven't addressed my post...

you mean this one?

Pretty sure he wasn't dating her, he just proposed while they were both friends. Don't think they ever dated.

Anyways, so she visits her best friend and you drive to DC to meet and spend time with her. I doubt she will be staying long, and you won't have much time alone with her, nor will you be living alone with her for an extended period of time. Are you going to base your decision of moving in with her on these times in DC, even though you will have no idea what living with her will be like?

I thought the post you quoted addressed it fairly well

 

[CH David]

I don't mean to pile on. Lord knows I've wasted enough time watching tv and the NFL playoffs that I've not watched The Lookout yet. What I will say/ask, is essentially continuing from Jose and Justin.

What happens if things don't work out? Horrible to think about, I know. But realistically, if you're spending all your money to move across the country and in with her, what happens if some shit goes down and all of a sudden no more going out? You're stranded in Oregon, and unless you have a job and you've saved enough money to move back, kinda shit outta luck.

But I wish you the best of luck in your pursuit of love.

 

[Hyorinmaru]

If shit goes down then I'm alone in Oregon. Me and my family aren't exactly what you would call close so being away from them doesn't really bother me