Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
June
The Reality where I love her with all my heart and want to spend my life with her
I'm engaged
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But that is an emotional reality, not a logical one. I truly do hope this works out for you buddy, it just worries me that you went from feeling suicidal over one woman, to another being your sole reason for staying alive.
Just consider this, and you don't have to answer: What will you do if you move out there, and things for whatever reason don't work out? If, God forbid, you lose the person that's your reason for staying alive? That's what truly concerns me.
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
I never said she was my SOLE reason for staying alive just that she's the main reason I am right now.
Fair enough man. Substitute "sole" with "main", and the question really doesn't change.
Stormtrooper
Championship Contender
First of all, congrats. I'm glad to hear you have found someone that makes you happy.
Just one bit of advise (same one a bunch of other people have said, in fact).
I'm not saying that it won't work out. I'm just saying that it isn't a guarantee, and if you think it is you are just setting yourself up to fall if it ends up not being the case.
I truly am happy for you, and I hope this works out. I just hope you don't rush into something that may or may not be a good decision.
Just one bit of advise (same one a bunch of other people have said, in fact).
This person you have never actually met. People are always different in real life then they are online/on the phone.
I'm not saying that it won't work out. I'm just saying that it isn't a guarantee, and if you think it is you are just setting yourself up to fall if it ends up not being the case.
I truly am happy for you, and I hope this works out. I just hope you don't rush into something that may or may not be a good decision.
Turd Ferguson
DA-DA Da Da Da Bah Da Da DADADA
Most relationships cannot work without both participants being 100% honest with each other.
I certainly hope you've told your fiancee about that time on Yahoo Messenger!
I certainly hope you've told your fiancee about that time on Yahoo Messenger!
One Punch Doug Crashin
I AM INVINSIBLE!
Cory please take a good look at this. You have a lot of people saying you're insane for doing this. I agree. I forget what this is called in psychological circles but this is THE classic case of it. (The name escapes me)
Edit: It's called Dependency or something along those lines.
Edit: It's called Dependency or something along those lines.
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
I know nothing in the future is set in stone and anything can come along to change it. We are going to live together for a while before getting married and if it turns out it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't meant to be. We have talked about this for hours at least 2 times and are both aware of what may happen.
Now onto what LSN stated because we are prepared for what may happen I'll get over it if it doesn't work out. Yeah it will hurt and I'll be heart broken but I won't be suicidal again. The reason that happened last time is because it was son sudden. Friday night we were talking about me adopting her daughter and Saturday afternoon it was I'm leaving you for another woman. You can see the difference there right
Now onto what LSN stated because we are prepared for what may happen I'll get over it if it doesn't work out. Yeah it will hurt and I'll be heart broken but I won't be suicidal again. The reason that happened last time is because it was son sudden. Friday night we were talking about me adopting her daughter and Saturday afternoon it was I'm leaving you for another woman. You can see the difference there right
Close. The term you're looking for is Codependency. It's when you place your value and self-worth in the hands of someone else, i.e., the relationship one is in. Without being in a relationship or having that feeling of "being in love", codependent people feel incomplete, depressed, suicidal, and so forth.
Yes, I can see the difference.
One Punch Doug Crashin
I AM INVINSIBLE!
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
I know but the fact that we talked what may happens means this will not be sudden
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
I feel complete when I'm not in a relationship. I am for the most part a very happy person. I am over 99.9% of the suicidal feeling I had and while I enjoy being in a relationship it does not define my happiness
DirtyJosé
Best angle of all: retirement
Just so many red flags around this.
So you want to date and eventually marry someone you haven't actually met in person...ok, we'll let that go. I mean, you've stated you're going to see her before then, right? So ok.
Now, what's this shit about you moving out there? Are you really sure you are ready for that? Let's say you move out to be with her, last 6 months, and then find yourself single again. Now what? Are you going to be staying with her after that? Even if she starts seeing other people? Are you going to have to figure out your own way? Do you have any idea how scarce jobs are in Oregon? Would you even have the money to get back home? Would you be stuck out here?
This is coming from someone who has in the past made a big move to be with "the one" only to have that all fall apart down the line. It's a really big fucking change to make, one that you can't easily take back, and if you thought you felt suicidal after your last break up just wait until you go through one living in a place far from your home where none of your friends and family are around to help you.
So you want to date and eventually marry someone you haven't actually met in person...ok, we'll let that go. I mean, you've stated you're going to see her before then, right? So ok.
Now, what's this shit about you moving out there? Are you really sure you are ready for that? Let's say you move out to be with her, last 6 months, and then find yourself single again. Now what? Are you going to be staying with her after that? Even if she starts seeing other people? Are you going to have to figure out your own way? Do you have any idea how scarce jobs are in Oregon? Would you even have the money to get back home? Would you be stuck out here?
This is coming from someone who has in the past made a big move to be with "the one" only to have that all fall apart down the line. It's a really big fucking change to make, one that you can't easily take back, and if you thought you felt suicidal after your last break up just wait until you go through one living in a place far from your home where none of your friends and family are around to help you.
Johnny Scumm
InZayn In The Membrane
Shit must've got serious, you're all calling him Cory.
Anyways dude, don't make any rash decisions. Take it easy if you're really serious about this. I see your plans, just make sure you don't rush into anything. If you're genuinely wanting this to happen, don't see it ending up in flames.
Anyways dude, don't make any rash decisions. Take it easy if you're really serious about this. I see your plans, just make sure you don't rush into anything. If you're genuinely wanting this to happen, don't see it ending up in flames.
The only advice I can give you is to make sure she doesn't have both types of reproductive systems. Bulges are the real tell-tale.
No, seriously, all jokes aside, the only real advice I can offer you is that meet her first before moving out to Oregon. People are different in real life than they are on the internet. Just make sure, Cory. We don't want to see you suicidal again.
No, seriously, all jokes aside, the only real advice I can offer you is that meet her first before moving out to Oregon. People are different in real life than they are on the internet. Just make sure, Cory. We don't want to see you suicidal again.
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
That's what I thought. Only 1 person on here uses my name with any regularity.
I know dude, I know. I am doing my best to make sure nothing bad happens
Johnny Scumm
InZayn In The Membrane
Christian "Minimum Wage" Cage;3630612 said:
That. I know those feelings. They are the worst feelings you could get.
Hyorinmaru
Sit Upon The Frozen Heavens
She does have a friend in DC she wants to see after graduation. DC is only 6 hours away from meChristian "Minimum Wage" Cage;3630612 said:
I won't be suicidal again.
Imagine:
You've moved to Oregon with no cash and are living with her. Turns out, she's cheating on you with... uh, like, Brad Pitt. What do you do? She kicks you out after a big fight, you have no money and you are miles from home? Fuck, I'd seriously consider suicide and I'm quite stable, mentally.
Pepe Silvia
Occasional Pre-Show
You have a thread for these things.
Serious Mozzarella
Special Victims Unit
The great thing about internet relationships is that people can be whoever the fuck they want to be. Getting engaged to someone you've never met is the most naive thing you can possibly do in your life. And that's fucking saying something, considering you're Milenko.
Edit: My reaction to Lee informing me of Milenko's engagement:
Lee says:
BAH GAWD BAH GAWD
ITS MILENKO AND HE'S PULLE DOUT HIS BIIGEST MOVE YET
ENGAGEMENT
Mozz says:
>.>
Lee says:
you couldnt make it up
Mozz says:
OMFG
I THOUGHT SNS WAS TROLLING
HE'S SERIOUSLY NEVER MET HER
OMFGGGGGGGGGGGG
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAH
BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO WZ
Edit: My reaction to Lee informing me of Milenko's engagement:
Lee says:
BAH GAWD BAH GAWD
ITS MILENKO AND HE'S PULLE DOUT HIS BIIGEST MOVE YET
ENGAGEMENT
Mozz says:
>.>
Lee says:
you couldnt make it up
Mozz says:
OMFG
I THOUGHT SNS WAS TROLLING
HE'S SERIOUSLY NEVER MET HER
OMFGGGGGGGGGGGG
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAH
BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO WZ
