Now i really want serious points of views from you guys on this matter.
Noted.
Well here's the situation, i met a girl whose 22 and she has a 5 month old son, from the get go we've been pretty damn honest with one another, i told 3 of my best friends who are female and 2 of them said its wrong. Mind you im 20 and like most people my age still live at home, im also in the process of thinking to do a course at college and finding a new job even if its casual or part time.
(A.) You need better friends. The 2 who indicated it being wrong, likely said so because it was a
"ready made Family". That's not wrong; it's just more complicated and not for everyone.
(B.) Unless your Parent's are suddenly going to be okay for a possible new fling, and her baby, to be sleeping over randomly.. it's going to be even more complicated until you find yourself a different place to live. (Unless, they're okay with it. Some are.)
(C.) There are a TON of Parents, (single and couples) in this world who never complete school due to children. Don't foolishly become one of those statistics.
If College is a huge goal to you; make it first. Children are a huge responsibility and come with much greater time restrains than books & television make them out to be.
And in the midst of these things in my life is this girl with a kid, and i just wanna know if any of you WZ regulars are or have been in a situation like this and how did/have you handled it.
I've been in 3 different situations like this. None of them will ever relate to being like the one you're in, because everything goes through different paths.
I've been apart of 2 different ready-made Family' relationships, and created a Family of my own in the end.
The closest of anything I've had that formats what you're going through didn't work out in ANY manner in the end. It revolved around me believing I could fit
"the girl of my dreams" along side the
"career of my dreams".
Long story short; like you I once had huge goals and dreams of being in the Professional Wrestling world. Not Pro's, just the Iowa Indy scene. I found a place in Northern Iowa.. ended up talking with a girl I fell in love with; who had a baby girl. I figured it was perfect, because she was involved heavily with the promotion - and I wanted both; to be with her, and in the promotion. In the end.. things with badly with the girl, and it also ended my desire of wanting to work with the promotion.
As for
your situation: You want to juggle multiple tasks that are huge time filling priorities and there simply is
not enough time in one's life to do so.
You can't go to College full time, train to become a Wrestler, and become a Family man. You can try, but if you push yourself too hard, and spread yourself too thin - you could risk losing everything. Fail College, get hurt training and/or lose the girl you like because you can't devote more time to her and her Son.
On a side note: Because also as most of you also know is that im training to be a pro wrestler, and i also want to be able to wrestle and be in a relationship of this kind. But i also feel that i can fit wrestling around a job and a relationship, because its not like im in WWE and on the road nearly everyday of the year, and she has a good job as manager.
Have you ever heard the phrase
"You can't always have your cake, and eat it, too."
Well; this is a situation of you wanting a whole damn bakery. Whether it's INDY wrestling, or Professional (televised, on the road 300+ days of the year) wrestling. The bottom line is it takes up a portion of your life. Read this, if you haven't..
http://forums.wrestlezone.com/showthread.php?t=119648
I honestly recommend you sit back, think long and hard, and come to the factor of what you want most. Set priorities for yourself. Make a list, and find out where everything stacks up.
(?.) Family
(?.) Education
(?.) Hobby turned possible Career
Good luck. I've been in similar shoes, and don't envy you one bit.
Son, your days haven't even started.
