When I interviewed for my first "formal" job after college, once pleasantries were exchanged, I was taken back when this was the first question I was asked. I wasn't asked what I could contribute to the agency, what made me a good candidate for the job, or why I wanted to work there. I was taken back, because this isn't a typical interview question. I began to answer the question as if they asked what I wanted to be remembered for at the agency, and was quickly interrupted. They didnt want to know what impact I would leave on their agency, but how i wanted to be remembered by friends and family once I passed away. At 21 years old, my legacy was one of the last things on my mind. I was looking forward to my future, not imagining how I would be looked at by others once my life was over. I stumbled and bumbled through my answer, and I can't honestly say that I remember what my response was. A funny thing happened after that interview, however. One, by some miracle, I got the job. But more importantly, I began to think about that question on a fairly regular basis, and still do to this day. Also, it began to bring about a sense of change in my life. The more I thought about how I wanted to be remembered, I realized that the person I was at the time was far from the person I wanted to be remembered as. I was stubborn, arrogant, and selfish, amongst other things, and it reflected in the way I treated others. After being asked this question, however, I began to look at my past and present in terms of brick walls, ones that I had created for myself. Those walls were there for a reason, and the main one in my mind was there for me to show how hard I wanted to work to overcome the obstacles I had put in my way. And when I became cognizant of the "brick wall" between who I was and who I wanted to be, I began to work on breaking down those walls. Today, when I interview candidates myself, its the first question I ask them. Think about it this way. When a loved one passes, friends and family gather to memoralize the person, then share stories and talk about the loved ones life. Funny stories are shared, qualities we admire are discussed, and we cry over the loss of the person and what they meant to us. In short, we're discussing their legacy. Im only 28, and there's a helluva lot I want to accomplish in terms of my own legacy. But there are a few things I know I want to be remembered for. ---- I want to be known for my compassion. Im in a job as a therapist where one would think compassion would be one of our biggest strengths. From the time I started school, we were taught detachment was the way to go. I won't, and can't be that therapist. I take pride in truly listening to others and attempting to connect with them and their feelings. I try to extend that same mentality towards my family, friends, and employees as well, and that compassion and caring is something I want to be remembered for. ----As simplistic as it sounds, I want to be remembered as a great husband and father. Ive been married for 4 years, and will be a father in 6 months. I want to be the guy who would make any sacrifice necessary to ensure my wife and child are taken care of, safe, and happy. If a crisis would respond in their life, Id be willing to take a break from work. Id be willing to sell my business, my house, and all my possessions if it truly was for their betterment. I want my wife to remember me as someone who was there for her in good times and bad, and my kids to remember me as someone who loved and accepted them unconditionally. ----Finally, I want to be remembered for my integrity. I can't change who I was in the past, but I can continue to change who I am in the here and now and in the future. I want my wife and staff to trust me completely, and never give them a reason to think otherwise. To be someone who gives his best in whatever he endeavors, makes the best of every situation, and makes others laugh when they're down. If I can look back at the end of my life and know others respected me and wanted to do things for me because of how I demonstrated integrity in the easy things and the hard, Ill be able to die a happy man. But enough about me, Im curious to hear your thoughts on legacy, and what you want yours to be. Feel free to use the questions below to drive discussion, or take this in any direction you please. What do you want your legacy to be when all is said and done? Are you the person you want to be that will allow you to continue to further your legacy? What changes, if any, do you want to make to enhance your legacy? If you were to die tomorrow, to whom is the legacy you leave behind the most important? Why? Have fun with this!