Ah right, different scenario then.
That does suck mate. I think you are in the right though. At this point, it doesn't seem that she values your friendship as much as you do and that is always a cruel blow.
It's just bullshit. She says she wants to hang out but he "means too much" to her.
Jeez man. I've been going much through a similiar situation with my ex who was turned friends, we were doing fine aside from some stresses, no real problems with other bfs until the new one comes in. Absolute dick and the worst part is that she's been forcing me to get to know him to like him, it doesn't help when she told him our entire history (her side of it). Basically she's acting like a bitch about it, so we spent time apart and despite her being my first port of call for help, it has been immensely helpful having space and not being worried about her. While it sucks at first, you realise there are more things to do and you'll find that she will get in touch because she realised she was wrong.
It's still taking time my end, but I don't even bother to message her unless it's something work related. I am sorry that this has happened to another Dave bro. In the end, the bf doesn't trust her and while she seems to love him at the moment, in time she will realise that it's his lack of trust for her that will break the relationship up, it won't last. But just prove your independence by doing all the cool stuff you do and you will get there.
That's the thing, mate. I've told her that it is complete crap, and that his lack of trust is detrimental. Too much drama and all that. But then again, not too many of the friends that I know around here listen to me, because you know, I'm only 20 or "just don't know what it's like to be in their situation". Even she knows she shouldn't be dealing with the crap he dishes out. Yet she still fuckin' puts up with it. I just want to yell at her "ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!". Fuck's sake, I may not be the smartest person out there but I know when there is a fucking ********er in someone's life, and I've pointed him out way too many times.