So many times in life, I find myself living vicariously through, or connecting with, my wife through music. It was one of the reasons we bonded when we were both in college, and music is one of the things that really brings us together to this day. We attend alot of concerts, and genuinely seem to connect due to music on such a deep level. She also doesn't mind me sharing this story, so I will.
You're Not Alone: Saosin
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZ_h7wFCJ44
My wife hasnt had the easiest of lives in many aspects. As a result, she's not a very emotional person. She grew up with a father who was an alcoholic and beat her mother, resulting in her spending much of her childhood years living with her grandmother. She has since reconciled with her parents, and remarkably, her father is sober and still married to her mother. But she really credits her grandmother as the person who raised her, and was the person she trusted most along with me(I hope
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I came home from work about 3 years ago, and my wife was crying uncontrollably, and clutching a picture. Her grandmother had passed away suddenly, and quite unexpectedly, as she had been quite healthy. I had been traveling alot, as was the nature of my job as a mobile therapist. But I wasn't home much, and I didnt see that my wife was starting to have troubles emotionally, which culminated with her grandmothers death.
I tried alot of things to lift my wife out of the depression and emotional roller coaster that came the next few weeks. I cut back on my work schedule and spent as much time as I possibly could at home with her. Nothing seemed to work, no matter how "much fun" she said she was having, as she would inevitably cry herself to sleep each night.
My sister often mails me muscial mixes she puts together herself based upon things she believes I would like. This time, she mailed me a CD that for some reason only had one track that actually played on it, which was "You're not Alone" by Saosin. I listened to it, and my wife walked into our bedroom as this song was replaying on my laptop over and over
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. She asked if she could have a minute alone, and I gave it to her. Shortly after, I heard her begin to cry once again, and I was completely flustered. Its a hopeful and uplifting song, and here she was crying, again(what an insensitive jackass I was!). But she re-assured me that they were good tears, and she felt hope for the first time since her grandmother died. She said it took a song, but through that song it made her feel like she wasn't alone for the first time in awhile. We cried together, which is some feat for me, because I dont cry much. It took a song to start turning around the way she was feeling.
Last summer, we saw Saosin in concert, and we both BALLED when they played "Youre Not Alone" to close the show. The people around us looked at us like we were idiots, and we laughed through our tears. Every time I hear that song on my IPOD, I choke up a little as it makes me realize what the song has meant to my wife, myself, and our marriage.