Not cheating if I don't get caught
Do murderers get the right to say the same thing?
I'm not being a dick here, I'm asking seriously.
I've seen these situations as well, but, it's no doubt the minority. Some people have a different emotional makeup and can't help the way that they feel about someone. I would never be in a relationship with a girl who thought the same way that I did about sex
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Who thought that she should be able to get it whenever, wherever, with whoever, and keep it from you.... but you couldn't?
I wouldn't want to be with a girl like that either.
But you're young. 19, I think it says. What worries me is that you got these values from grandpa, right? That makes me wonder if growing out of this will ever happen. Which is going to make the sustainability of any romantic relationship extremely tough.
What you're doing now is fun. You said she's in college away from your Symposium post, I believe. But there's going to come a point in time when you're going to get caught, especially if she has friends that "love to snitch."
At that point, "deny, deny, deny" won't be enough. And if you truly love her, the fallout will be hell.
I mean, it was pretty good advice when you think about it. If you don't make love and just fuck you won't get attached.
Someone always gets attached, bro. Don't you wonder if on e of these young ladies you're casually banging is developing feelings for you, hoping that you'll be with them?
Even if you've been up front that it isn't going to happen. It makes the arrangement easier to justify to them, when you point and say "Well, I told you it was just about sex," but that still sucks for them.
I only read up to this point so far, so you'll have to forgive me for missing a lot.
I think that everyone here needs to stop being so close minded. Just because someone sees things different than you doesn't make them wrong.
It's not being close minded to have values and morals, or to say, "This is how you treat a woman. "
So no one here has ever had sex outside of their relationship?
I'm not sexist at all
Not my marriage, no, or during any part of our relationship. In the past, when I was your age and even older? Sure.
But it was cheating, and I deserved what I got. Which was a ring back.
The question to ask yourself, I suppose, is whether or not she would find it wrong. If no, continue on. If yes, well, that's what matters within the confines of the relationship, at least.
No matter what anyone else thinks personally.