just say to her...
When I wake up well I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who wakes up next to you
When I go out yeah I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who goes along with youIf I get drunk well I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who gets drunk next to you
And if I haver yeah I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's havering to youBut I would walk 500 miles
And I would walk 500 more
Just to be the man who walked 1,000 miles
To fall down at your doorWhen I'm working yes I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's working hard for you
And when the money comes in for the work I'll do
I'll pass almost every penny on to youWhen I come home oh I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who comes back home to you
And if I grow old well I know I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be the man who's growing old with youBut I would walk 500 miles
And I would walk 500 more
Just to be the man who walked 1,000 miles
To fall down at your doorna na na, na na na
na na na, na na na
lika lika lika lika lika la
na na na, na na na
na na na, na na na
This song will get you laid & married all in one, if you actually play it on guitar and sing it to her. Especially if distance is whats causing you problems!
I think you and I need to start our own advice column.
You give the person the safe play, and try everything you can to make them happy, and I give the advice that is realistic and logical.
Its not exactly that I try to give them the "happy" advice, although I do tend to try giving them advice that would help them to not be miserable. And regarding the safe advice, nothing is truly safe regarding relationships. Its touch and go.
But I agree, a partnership in advice could be awesome. It allows the person to have two different opinions.
Fuck's sake Will. Enough with the love books.
Geez Wes, I'm sorry the routine of pulling your dick out and saying "sorry it isn't bigger, I promise it'll be better" doesn't work with everyone.
Fuck man, how hard is it to skip a "book" if you don't like it.
I do kind of understand where she's coming from though. I went out with this girl before and my ex completley ruined it by putting a bunch of bullshit into her head. We were only going out for like a week and it wasn't like either of us were 100% trusting one another. We've been going out for nearly a year now, and it's really the same shit again. My ex causin her all sorts of grief. She's handeling it much better this time though... At least I'm still with her which says something there. I do wanna kick my ex in the teeth, but that's besides the point.... Ahh Hell... Thanks for the advice though everyone
The bolded parts are all I really clued in on to see you have bigger issues than Distance. First, what the hell is your current girlfriend doing talking, or especially listening to your ex? Short of them being friends.. which even at that point is a red flag, she shouldn't be listening to anything your ex has to say about you, especially bad, because whos to say she isn't clearly feeding her head full of shit.
Second, you've been together a year now, and your girlfriend is STILL unsure on whether everything is fine? 10 miles was one thing, but a year together and suddenly a hop, skip and a jump away is gonna destroy a year long relationship? Sounds like she isn't being honest with you on something. It seems that her mind is playing tricks with her over losing you, because of something more than distance.
And if it IS distance, then I'm unclear on this girl to begin with simply because if she can't trust you to remain with her over that "long" of a distance.. then whats gonna happen if you two ever fight over something major?
I question highly if shes been in other relationships in which shes been heavily scarred and hurt, because it seems like shes pushing all these small no-nothing problems into major situations and fearing losing you. She definately needs some reassurance from you that you aren't going anywhere, and this even further proves to me you need to show her something along the lines of what you've told us.. in that you really wanna marry her.
EDIT: I'm not saying tell her you wanna marry her though! I mean show her you're dedicated and you love her.
Furthermore, don't just suddenly start going to her as often as you can for the first few monthes to prove you will, then slowly going less and less. If you do that, she'll only further build that complex in her head that you really are slowly falling away from her. I say go as much as you normally would, but just show your dedication to her, nothing too out of the norm.. just be yourself.