Your Own Worst Enemy/Best Ally

[AnthonyMango/NoFate007]

Some people have poor self-esteem and belittle themselves all the time, convinced they can do nothing right. Others tell themselves that they can do anything if they put their mind to it.

Some people trust in their instincts and others second-guess themselves.

Some people criticize themselves more than others criticize them, while others have a little voice in their head that tries to refute any criticism and justify all the actions as being right when everyone else is wrong.

Etc, etc, etc.

All in all, are you your own worst enemy, or are you your own best ally? Is your subconscious your #1 fan or your primary antagonist? Do you have a little personal cheerleader in your head, or is it a bully?

Personally, it appears as though my subconscious is more of an unbiased color-commentator. I naturally believe I can do anything within reason and that I can't do anything outside of reason. There are things I'd immediately fail at and there are things I should have no trouble with. If I succeed in something that I thought I'd fail at, the cheerleader comes out. If I fail at something that I should've succeeded at, there's no reason why I shouldn't consider myself a failure lol.

So what do you fall into? Is the coin landing heads, tails, or straight in the middle? Or, by some chance, are you totally schizo and you've got too much change to count? Haha.

 

[HBK-aholic]

I'm my own biggest critic. But meh. It's not in a bad "I hate myself" kind of way. I don't see the point in people hating themselves. What will it cause nothing? Sure, there will be things you don't like. So, change them? I hate the people that complain "Oh I'm so fat" while sat in front of the TV eating chocolate cake. Stop acting like a fat cow then!

Sorry, got derailed there. But yeah. Just be honest with yourself about things. I can't climb Mount Everest. But I can (hopefully) win the Cup with my rugby team. If I don't do it, I can look at myself and think why? And change it to make it better. Constructive criticism is the way to do things IMO.

 

[texas freebird]

Hell yeah am i my own worst enemy! my ability to rub people up the wrong way is legendery.

I do try not to but so far i seem to have upset/annoyed everybody on this forum.

When i first joined i was told i was too serious now im not talking things seriously enough.

Perhaps i should pick my spots better for my own brand of humour. But sorry to all those i have annoyed i guess my own self doubt is correct and i am a know nothing git!

 

[The Snake]

I am my own biggest ally. I have not led a life of prestige or achieved a whole lot, but everything I do, I know I don't do the wrong thing. There is never a bad situation or a limit for me, I simply go and make the best of the card I have been dealt. I hate criticism, I don't see the point of it - If people have to make you do something so you can get on better, I always think it the best that you don't become closely affiliated with them. I am never upset about anything that I cause myself, because I understand that we as humans make our own fate and that if we want to do something strongly then we do it, if I don't do something, I realise that I could have done it if I really wanted to.

I am nice to everyone I meet, until they do something, or cause something that I am unhappy with - In that instance I am not a person for 2nd chances, if people want something so bad they should have no need for a 2nd chance, I don't ask for them and find people who want them annoying, if people thought everything through before they did them they wouldn't get into the messes they get into in the first place, as I think things through, I lead a happier life than people who assume they can waltz through anything they do.

 

[Enigmania]

My own best ally - dunno really I'm not one to be manipulated and forced into a position I don't want to be in. For example and ex-girlfriend of mine had a habit with previous (and current) boyfriends to manipulate them into thinking that they must be with her even if they fight, even if he loses his friends and has no life in general. But not me, woop. I don't have any regrets so harbor no thoughts of "What Ifs".

I think relisticly what is best for me. Thinking of what others would think takes a back seat because in the end if I did what others thought was the best - I sure as hell wouldn't be in the position I am in now.

 

[Tim]

I am my own worst critic in public, but by myself I am my own best ally.

In public, I think that i'm always going to fuck up and say something stupid, or that everyone's going to laugh at me when I say something.I do almost anything anyone asks me, and I don't have much confidence. I think that, like The Snake, I rub a lot of people up the wrong way.

But by myself, I don't have to make anybody like me, I don't have to think about what i'm going to say because I don't talk to myself. It's much less stressful. Also, I'm pretty sure that I haven't got anyone on this forum to hate me, as its still not in public, so I can be my true self most of the time and not put on an act.

 

[Y 2 Jake]

I'n every day life I don't criticise anything I do. I don't apologize for any mistakes I make. If I do something wrong I have no other option but to dig myself a deeper hole because saying sorry just isn't an option. I'm aware that I'm sometimes wrong. But why on earth would I admit that when I can amuse myself by trying to convince people I'm right. I have no self esteem issues. Sure I want to kill myself. But that's for no reason. If I had to make up one reason it's because life is boring.

Anything I want to do I'll do. If I don't want todo something then you won't make me do it. I don't need to be liked. If anything I'd prefer not to be. When it comes to most things I just don't give a shit.

This is the real me, not the internet me btw. I'm much nicer online.