Whens the right time?

[Sparky]

So me and derf was having this discussion last night on msn, mind you it was only small i would like to see when you think is the right time. I am Engaged and have been for the last two months, I am only 19, I wont get into to much of my personal life but "how old do you have to be to be engaged"

I think it dont matter what age you are as long as you know it will work. If you think your meant to be together Engaged doesnt mean anything. I myself am not personally planning on getting Maried for another couple of years but Engaged shows your Commited to that Person.

I dont think it matters, And its not throwing your life away, its a decision you make to show your other half that you want to spend the Rest of your life with her. It is classed as Pending Marriage, it doesnt mean you even have to get Married just that you are serious. What is your take on it? when do you think is the right time to get Engaged?

 

[Batistabomb10]

Well, in my opinion, being engaged/asking the gal to marry you means that you plan on getting married to her within the forseeable future. I think that a general rule of thumb is to know that you love her and that you're willing to spend the rest of your life with her and her alone. I also think that it'd be in your best interest (assuming you don't already know this info), that you two are on the same page when it comes to time before you get married. You mentioned a couple years. Does she know that you plan on waiting that long? It's always best to confirm and varify before assuming that she knows that you plan on waiting a while. Just my opinion, but I wouldn't want a woman waiting around all the time intending on planning a wedding that I had no intentions of attending for a while.

By the way, congratulations! May God bless you and your fiancee`.

 

[George Michael]

I wouldn't say that age is a factor in engagement/marriage, but state of mind is important. Is this the onlywoman you've ever been serious with..?
The wonderful thing about engagements is they can go on for years. A good friend of mine has been engaged for two and a half years, and still has no date set for the wedding. Engagement is a great way to let yourself and those around you know how serious you are about your relationship. Also a great way to start saving money for the marriage. Trust me, once you're both under the same roof (if you aren't already) money becomes a HUGE issue. Nobody wants to start a new life together in the poor house.

Congrats by the way.

 

[HBK-aholic]

I don't think age means anything. I've only been with my boyfriend 2 months, s we wouldn't commit to engagement just yet. But if we were still together in a couple of years abd he asked me to marry him I'd say yes, which would make me around 18.

You can meet the love of your life anywhere, at any time. Some people don't until they're 40, with others they were 'childhood sweethearts'. It just doesn't matter. I see no problem in becoming engaged at the age you feel you are ready to spend the rest of your life with someone.

The only problem I have is with people who rush into marriage, or even engagememnt. I know someone who has been with her boyfriend less time than I've been with mine, and they are now enagaged. I don't think in a month you can know someone well enough to know that you want to be with them forever.

 

[Monkey_Mania]

I don't think it matters. If you know you are in love someone, and know you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Then who is to say when you get engaged to them. It comes down to when is the right time for you. You just know when you meet that right person. It may take 3 months or 3 years, and it definitely should not matter what your age is. You definitely should not rush into it, but if you know then you just know. Who's right is it to tell you any different?

 

[Shocky]

Being an older poster on here, I think it matters big time. At the age of 18 you don't know what you want. Hell, you haven't even begun to start living at that point. How can you know who you want to be with for the rest of your life when you truly haven't been out in life long enough to know what life is?

I think it's a nice, novel concept of people falling in love, and destined to be with each other, and all that. It ends in divorce, bottom line. Someone ends up realizing, damn, there's so much I missed out on. I say wait until you're done with college, at least. Enjoy life a little bit. If you're meant to be with someone forever, why rush to get married? If you're supposed to be with that person, you'll be with them anyway.

 

[Slim Pickns]

I graduated high school six years ago and already have eight classmates who are divorced. The fact is, the divorce rate in America (not sure about UK) is absurd. Nearly half of couple who are married will get divorced at some point. A big chunk of those are under the age of 30. Why? Because they got married too young. At that age you haven't even begun to live. High School seniors think they are so advanced when in reality they are so sheltered its ridiculous. The most you mature in your life is from age 18 to around 21. You have to get out on your own for at LEAST a few years before you even know what kind of life you are going to live. I say waiting until around you have been out of your parents house for 2-3 years at the earliest is smart. There are zero pros to getting married early, yet a hell of a lot of cons.

 

[Y 2 Jake]

Think of it like this. If you get married now then you could potentially be married for 80 years. Do you honestly think it will last that long? It's hard to gauge. But I'm guessing that not many people can envision 80 years in general, least not with the same person.

But you should do it. If it works out then good. If not it doesn't matter. You'll always remember that at one point you were deeply in love.

 

[texas freebird]

if it feels right go with it! if you feel ready then you are old enough there are no age ristrictions to buying an engagement ring. my advice would be enjoy your engagement i know i did mine! i had been with my wife for only 3 months when we got engaged some people told me it was too soon, we were rushing things and that it would not last. well that was ten years ago and we have been married for six years and have 2 lovely divas in the making. so listern to your own heart only you know for sure. congrats mate and the best of luck to ya peace out.

 

[RVDgurl]

Being an older poster on here, I think it matters big time. At the age of 18 you don't know what you want. Hell, you haven't even begun to start living at that point. How can you know who you want to be with for the rest of your life when you truly haven't been out in life long enough to know what life is?

I think it's a nice, novel concept of people falling in love, and destined to be with each other, and all that. It ends in divorce, bottom line. Someone ends up realizing, damn, there's so much I missed out on. I say wait until you're done with college, at least. Enjoy life a little bit. If you're meant to be with someone forever, why rush to get married? If you're supposed to be with that person, you'll be with them anyway.

As another older voice here, I pretty much agree with Shockey. Age does matter. You should experience different things before you make what is suppose to be a life long commitment. I really don't think that someone who is in the 17-19 age range can be equipped to enter into that level of commitment.
If you are truely in love, then it will last. Give yourself time to develop as a person. You can say "I love you" in a thousand other ways rather than getting engaged.

 

[RabidChihuahua]

I don't think age has as much to do with it as maturity and commitment do. Maybe my wife and I are the exception but we married when I was 20 and she was 18. We were dating for a couple years, then engaged for about 6 months. This past July we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary, so not everyone that marries young winds up in divorce.

As far as when you should get engaged, as hokey as it sounds, you'll know when the right time is. And if the two of you both agree, then it was time.

Whatever happens, communication is the key to your future. Congrats.

 

[Enigmania]

my ex-girlfriend was engaged at 16 - that's right 16 - 2 months after we split up. Nuts.
Her fiance proposed with a Lord of the Rings ring - no word of a lie. Split up a month later then on then off then on.

It is about how you feel. If you want it, go for it.

They are engaged again and she is 17 now