[Official] X Marks the Spot: Xfearbefore Xclusive Thread

[Minor League Brian]

Call her. If she doesn't answer, leave a message. Just tell her that you miss her. Tell her that she was an important part of your life, and you feel like there is a hole that she used to fill. Tell her to focus on the good times that you had, and that that is the guy that you are, and that you are sorry for whatever it was that drove you apart. Surely, that singular event cannot overshadow all the good time you had together. Tell her that no matter what, you smile when you think of her, and then get sad that she isn't around to make more memories with. She is a piece of the happiness in your life that you need back to feel whole again.

Oh, you're kinda behind. We're 'friends' now, but not what I'd say is good enough to actually hold on to with her gone. I'm not sure how to try and 'rebuild' with her gone, and so little left behind. Get what I'm saying?

 

[FromTheSouth]

OK, give me the short version. You were friends, you pushed to be together and lost her, and now you're friends again and you still want to be more but you're scared of pushing her away again? Is that about right?

Let me know. I'm good at this. I've broken up with more girls than anyone should ever have to and I'm on good terms with almost all of them still to this day.

 

[Minor League Brian]

OK, give me the short version. You were friends, you pushed to be together and lost her, and now you're friends again and you still want to be more but you're scared of pushing her away again? Is that about right?

Let me know. I'm good at this. I've broken up with more girls than anyone should ever have to and I'm on good terms with almost all of them still to this day.

Eh...Yes and no.

Short and through of it; we were 'best' friends, but always a noticeable distance. Everyone saw it. It had always bothered me, because no one could explain it. I finally pushed her for answers and she just couldn't/wouldn't give me any. Say one thing, but show another. So eventually I snapped and just lost it and we stopped talking. I mean, it got so bad (either she was worried, or was saving her own ass) she told the Counselors I was going to kill myself (I never was, though). Then about a month or 2 before graduation we just stopped talkin'. Then a few months ago I sent her a letter, and from then we've kinda just been chattin', but nothing really serious.

Edit: This isn't about being in a real relationship with her (GF and BF stuff), like...I really do love the girl, but all I want is to be a part of her life. Like what I advocated to X awhile ago.

 

[FromTheSouth]

X-

Plush is on. What a great song.

All right Brian....I'm thinking that this one may be difficult. If you want to get as close to her as you used to be, then telling her that losing her left a hole in your life, in words similar to that, is the way to start. Tell her that you always felt she was hiding something, and the only reason you tried to find out is because you care. When you are as close to someone as you were to her, you can tell when they are holding back, and if you could just find a reason, maybe you could fix it. If she didn't want you to fix it, that was your bad, but anything you said or did was out of concern or love. Promise to stop trying to fix it as long as you can have her back, in some form, in your life. You'll never feel as close to another friend, and you need her.

 

[Minor League Brian]

You're cheesier then I am, FTS. XDThat's a good thing.<3

 

[FromTheSouth]

You're cheesier then I am, FTS. XDThat's a good thing.<3

Yeah, I found a pic of my ex online when I was looking for something else.

You don't have to say it like that, but does that not capture the emotions and situation? You have to distill it into you....

You miss the good times, hate the bad ones, but they were out of nothing but concern, and want to be close to her again.

Believe me, I know the feeling.

 

[Minor League Brian]

Yeah, I found a pic of my ex online when I was looking for something else.

You don't have to say it like that, but does that not capture the emotions and situation? You have to distill it into you....

You miss the good times, hate the bad ones, but they were out of nothing but concern, and want to be close to her again.

Believe me, I know the feeling.

The only 3 hard selling points are.

1. I've already said "goodbye" to her, so making up an excuse to say that now will be hard though I already have one lined up.

2. I've always been a "cheesy" person and really...er...open about things? So it might make it less impactful.

3. She's one of those "used and abused" birds, which was always one of the things people would come up with for our "issues". She was afraid to actually get to close to me cause I'd try to make things better.

But, shit I've always tried shit anyway. One can only try. Tis annoying how the "good" ones lose, and the bad win. Course, one always assumes one self is Good, am I right? Damn...now I'm mind boggling myself.

 

[FromTheSouth]

Call her a ****e and wait for her to call you. [/NorCal]

 

[Minor League Brian]

Call her a ****e and wait for her to call you. [/NorCal]

Whats sad is that it might actually work. XD Most girls respond to that.

 

[FromTheSouth]

Not the ones you wanna fuck with though. That self hating attention ****e thing gets old after a while.

Not that I am saying those things about the girl we're talking about, just in general.

 

[X]

So it's 2:30...nothing yet. Roughly half an hour away from depression hour alpha.

 

[FromTheSouth]

Don't get sad. Be strong. She wants some space for a minute. I imagine you are quite imaginative in the bed, and she might want to rest some sore calves.

 

[X]

Don't get sad. Be strong. She wants some space for a minute. I imagine you are quite imaginative in the bed, and she might want to rest some sore calves.

Was that directed to me or Brian?

Tomorrow shall be a good day. Sexing and what not. I'm in a rather pleasant mood right now.

 

[FromTheSouth]

X-

On to Alice in Chains

Pass the smack!!!

 

[FromTheSouth]

The sore calves was for you X.

 

[FromTheSouth]

Heaven beside you, hell below.

 

[X]

Pass the smack!!!

That's really not funny to me FTS. I thought you knew me better than that?

 

[FromTheSouth]

Sorry man.

I forgot.

I was making a grunge scene joke. Won't happen again.

 

[X]

Haha it's okay FTS, don't worry about it. Just...not a subject I like to discuss.

 

[FromTheSouth]

Have you see the Alice in Chains unplugged after they cleaned up? That shit is amazing.

 

[Minor League Brian]

Not the ones you wanna fuck with though. That self hating attention ****e thing gets old after a while.

Not that I am saying those things about the girl we're talking about, just in general.

True, but in the lot of those you'll get the self-hating gems that take alota work. Sometimes those are worth it.

 

[FromTheSouth]

True, but in the lot of those you'll get the self-hating gems that take alota work. Sometimes those are worth it.

They're usually pretty good in bed. I've found that the innocent ones get pretty freaky too, without all the drama.

Haha it's okay FTS, don't worry about it. Just...not a subject I like to discuss.

Alice in Chains for the win.

 

[Minor League Brian]

They're usually pretty good in bed. I've found that the innocent ones get pretty freaky too, without all the drama.

If its not strings attached, I've always been a fan of the ****es/****s. Man...can they satisfy 'round hur!

 

[X]

Indeed. I listened to Dirt constantly growing up. Constantly. Nirvana, Soundgarden, AIC, I was HUGELY into grunge as a kid. I LIVED for grunge music.

A fan of Soundgarden FTS?

 

[Minor League Brian]

Oh yeah, FTS, I never asked how you'd do that speal. Phone or Message? I was thinkin' Facebook. Easier.