I figure it fits with the theme of the thread.....
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I have a friend that many of my friends, myself included, refer to as "The Natural Dissenter." When we say that, we're referring to his ability to take any positive situation and find the negative in it. Need an example? As I sit here typing this, we've been texting back and forth as we're both watching the Penguins/Bruins hockey game on TV. The Penguins, on an 8 game winning streak, lead the Bruins 4-2 in the third period, yet he's thoroughly unhappy. Me, Ive always been a fan of winning, style points not apply, but he's always felt it was more important how we play then whether we win.
I'm not using this as an outlet to talk about hockey, but rather to describe a mindset. My friend has always carried this mindset that no matter how much good is around him, things could always be better. And, to an extent, I agree with that! But there's something to be said with being satisfied with the good things in your life, and focusing on those things. My friend is simply incapable of that, as his focus is always on what's wrong. And it grates on me, and those around him. If he was someone I hadn't known my entire life, I probably would have left him behind years ago, but there's a sense of loyalty there. It's just the woe is me mentality, always looking at the negatives in life that I can't stand. And though our group of friends still includes him from time to time, we've phased him out in alot of ways. Most of us, including myself, don't bring our wives our girlfriends around him.
But in 'fessin up, I'm a complainer too. We all are, in one way or another. I can sit here and criticize my friend all I like, but it would be hypocritical of me if I didn't own up to my own shortcomings in that area as well. So, how does this affect me the most? My patients.
When I say patients, I refer to the people I see every day as their therapist. Why do I complain? When the patients I see aren't making progress. As a therapist, one of the first things I was taught was to never work harder then my client does, and it's a lesson I pass along to my staff. But not a day goes by that I don't break that lesson, and find myself complaining when I don't see progress out of my hard work. Often times, I neglect to see the areas in which these clients have improved, because they haven't improved to my liking, or with equity to the level of effort I've put in. And boy, does it get on people's nerves, mainly my staff. Sometimes it frustrates my wife as well, as even though I can't name names, I can give basics about cases. And although Ive worked on not getting as frustrated as I used to, I'm still greeted with the occasional "Why do you complain so damn much?" by my normally warm-hearted wife. And it's in those occasions. I realize she's right! She keeps me accountable when she's harsh in these rare moments, and Ive worked on it both with regards to my wife and my staff!
I'm sure we've all encountered these people in our lives, those people who always find something to complain about, and seem to suck the life and hapiness out of the room. And Im sure, at one point or another, we've been that person with regards to something. So, it's time to fess up. Because as wrestling fans who frequent this site, we're all prone to complaining from time to time.
Do you know or have any friends that are "Natural Dissenters?" How do you deal with them?
What do you complain too damn much about?
Does anyone hold you acountable about it? How so?
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I have a friend that many of my friends, myself included, refer to as "The Natural Dissenter." When we say that, we're referring to his ability to take any positive situation and find the negative in it. Need an example? As I sit here typing this, we've been texting back and forth as we're both watching the Penguins/Bruins hockey game on TV. The Penguins, on an 8 game winning streak, lead the Bruins 4-2 in the third period, yet he's thoroughly unhappy. Me, Ive always been a fan of winning, style points not apply, but he's always felt it was more important how we play then whether we win.
I'm not using this as an outlet to talk about hockey, but rather to describe a mindset. My friend has always carried this mindset that no matter how much good is around him, things could always be better. And, to an extent, I agree with that! But there's something to be said with being satisfied with the good things in your life, and focusing on those things. My friend is simply incapable of that, as his focus is always on what's wrong. And it grates on me, and those around him. If he was someone I hadn't known my entire life, I probably would have left him behind years ago, but there's a sense of loyalty there. It's just the woe is me mentality, always looking at the negatives in life that I can't stand. And though our group of friends still includes him from time to time, we've phased him out in alot of ways. Most of us, including myself, don't bring our wives our girlfriends around him.
But in 'fessin up, I'm a complainer too. We all are, in one way or another. I can sit here and criticize my friend all I like, but it would be hypocritical of me if I didn't own up to my own shortcomings in that area as well. So, how does this affect me the most? My patients.
When I say patients, I refer to the people I see every day as their therapist. Why do I complain? When the patients I see aren't making progress. As a therapist, one of the first things I was taught was to never work harder then my client does, and it's a lesson I pass along to my staff. But not a day goes by that I don't break that lesson, and find myself complaining when I don't see progress out of my hard work. Often times, I neglect to see the areas in which these clients have improved, because they haven't improved to my liking, or with equity to the level of effort I've put in. And boy, does it get on people's nerves, mainly my staff. Sometimes it frustrates my wife as well, as even though I can't name names, I can give basics about cases. And although Ive worked on not getting as frustrated as I used to, I'm still greeted with the occasional "Why do you complain so damn much?" by my normally warm-hearted wife. And it's in those occasions. I realize she's right! She keeps me accountable when she's harsh in these rare moments, and Ive worked on it both with regards to my wife and my staff!
I'm sure we've all encountered these people in our lives, those people who always find something to complain about, and seem to suck the life and hapiness out of the room. And Im sure, at one point or another, we've been that person with regards to something. So, it's time to fess up. Because as wrestling fans who frequent this site, we're all prone to complaining from time to time.

Do you know or have any friends that are "Natural Dissenters?" How do you deal with them?
What do you complain too damn much about?
Does anyone hold you acountable about it? How so?