Arsenal 4 life
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I REALLY fancy this girl...but she's 7 years older then me , I'm 21 shes 28? Thoughts
What is the limit to the difference in age when it comes to dating?
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Blue Chipper
Shapeshifting Humanoid
I don't think there's an accepted age, nor should there be. This might sound a bit cliche', but love has no bias. If a couple has two loving parties, then why should age matter? As long as the age difference is within reason, I say age doesn't really matter in a truly loving relationship.
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Mrs Drizzy <3
Well, a 7 year gap age isn't that bad. I mean look at HHH and Stephanie, their happily married with kids and theyv got a quite an age gap between the two. If you truly like her/love her then it isn't an issue. Well it isn't with me. But if there is a HUGE age gap for example an old man and a really young woman are dating/married, then thats an issue.
George Steele's Barber
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In your situation your biggest concern is whether or not you want the same things in life. Your 21, you may want to drink heavily and play video games all day. She's 28, she may be looking to find a future husband. One that has a good job and is ready to commit sooner than later.
Regardless, have fun with it and if you eventually figure out that you are not on the same path in life don't string her a long with with bullshit.
Otherwise, age gaps (after the age of legal consent) don't mean squat.
Regardless, have fun with it and if you eventually figure out that you are not on the same path in life don't string her a long with with bullshit.
Otherwise, age gaps (after the age of legal consent) don't mean squat.
Johnny Scumm
InZayn In The Membrane
I prefer mine in the Womb.
Seriously though, I've dated girls my age and one a year younger than me. That's been it so far.
Seriously though, I've dated girls my age and one a year younger than me. That's been it so far.
The age difference is irrelevant, within reason. As long as both people are above the age of majority, have stuff in common, are compatible, etc., I say it's all good. I wouldn't worry about a 7 year age difference.
Welsh_Wrestling_Fan501
Dark Match Jobber
7 years is their age gap, so same as the OP.
If she feels same why go for it, you will never know if you never try
TheNewStyle
Pre-Show Stalwart
7 years is not really much of a problem. I say 10 years should be the furthest it goes. Cause I find stuff like a 60 year old man with 25 year old woman kind of weird and one of my teachers in my previous school actually had this age gap with his wife. I personally would prefer to be with someone my age but I'm not exactly fond of having a lifelong partner. When it comes down to it, there should be real feelings and age shouldn't keep you apart.
Older women were always a turnon for me. Heck, the wifey's 2 years older. That aside, her being that much older should not be a big deal because you are both adults. The older you get, the less age gaps matter. In teenagers and young adults it matters significantly more as far as maturity goes. Take a 4 year gap for example. If she is 15 and you are 19 (or she's 19 and you're 15) then there is a HUGE difference. Now look at adults. If she's 29 and you're 25 (or she's 25 and you're 29) then the difference is much smaller. Then for people 30+ the difference becomes miniscule unless the age gap is beyond a decade. So if you are both adults and enjoy being with each other then that should be all that matters. Age gaps only truly matter if one or both of you are still young. It depends on the age of those involved and the length of the gap, although no matter what the gap matters less the older you both get.
When you're 21 and it's a somewhat casual relationship, the age difference doesn't matter.
It's when you're in a serious relationship that it starts to become an issue, especially when the woman is older. I'm 28, my girl is 34 and if she wants a baby it'll probably have to happen soon, knowing that, it's important that I don't waste her time and we're on the same page.
Calderownz
Brilliant Idiot
It depends on you and the girl. You're both of age and if you're both into each other, go for it. If it doesn't work out, it'll be due to interests or the fact that you're at different points in your life. Which might be the case if you're the exact same age. Age CAN be tricky, but not if it's handled maturely.
In any event, once you're 23, I think a 5 year age difference in either direction is a good indication of how far you can go in either direction. It works for me, anyway. So, 18 to 28 or anything in between makes the most sense. Simply due to where you'll be at in life and your interests in general. However, what might work for some, won't for others. So, you just have to know what you both want and go from there.
Hope this helps.
In any event, once you're 23, I think a 5 year age difference in either direction is a good indication of how far you can go in either direction. It works for me, anyway. So, 18 to 28 or anything in between makes the most sense. Simply due to where you'll be at in life and your interests in general. However, what might work for some, won't for others. So, you just have to know what you both want and go from there.
Hope this helps.
Mustang Sally
Sells seashells by the seashore
Good point; it's not the number of years itself, it's more the stage of life you're at. In a cultural sense, a woman of 28 who's been in the working world for numerous years and getting ready to settle into "true" adulthood will probably have little in common with the guy of 21 who is just out of school and still looking to have his fun, free of parental edicts for the first time in his life. The relationship might get started, but probably wouldn't last.
I'm 32 now, and would have little in common with the 21 year old version of myself. I wanted different things then and understood so much less than I do now. Wouldn't two people of different ages see the same thing? Hopefully, they would.
If you're a truly mature person of 21 (though we could differ on the definition of "mature") it might be possible to have enough in common with a person of 28 to make a good relationship, but it would still be hard.
If two people of different ages are at the same stage of development and maturity, though, the differences can be overcome, although something as extreme as 20 years difference puts them in different generations, and there are a lot of problems that can spring from that.
Hollywood Naitch
The current reigning and defending
When you are older and more mature age does not matter, but when you are teenagers/young adults with differing levels of maturity then you could both want different things and be on a completely different intellectual level.
However, if you both love each other, are above the age of legal consent and are happy together, then age really shouldn't matter. Women tend to go for older guys when they are younger, as they mature faster than men, and I dont think most 28 y/o women would go for a 21 y/o guy, but hey, go for it. You will never know if you don't try, and you could end up living out every mans dream of being the cool younger guy with the hot older woman.
Good luck!
However, if you both love each other, are above the age of legal consent and are happy together, then age really shouldn't matter. Women tend to go for older guys when they are younger, as they mature faster than men, and I dont think most 28 y/o women would go for a 21 y/o guy, but hey, go for it. You will never know if you don't try, and you could end up living out every mans dream of being the cool younger guy with the hot older woman.
Good luck!
Personally, I would try to stay within 5 years of my own age, either way I was born in 1975, so that would mean I would look for anyone who was born in the 70s. It's really just a generational boundary for me, I have found that there is just too little in common with someone much older or younger than that. It's just easier to relate to someone who remembers the same things you do, grew up at the same time. That doesn't mean gaps bigger than that can't work, If you find the right person. I just think that the closer you are in age, the more shared experience you will have.
Captain Morgan Freeman
Taught Elvis how to play karate
You may think its a great idea now but just a few years down the line when you get older it wont be so rosy. When your 58(full of life drinking and partying all the time with your whole life ahead of you) she will be 65(settling down wanting to do some knitting and play bingo).
Just think about that for a moment...............
But on a more serious note lifes too short to worry about small things like this.
Just go for it, if you dont ask you dont get.
Besides nowadays lots of guys date older women and vice versa.
Just think about that for a moment...............
But on a more serious note lifes too short to worry about small things like this.
Just go for it, if you dont ask you dont get.
Besides nowadays lots of guys date older women and vice versa.
Ubiquitous
Paint by numbers.
General rule of thumb is half the age of the older, then add 7. The older you get, the more accepted the age gap is and the better this works. So she's 28. 14+7=21. You're golden. Realistically though, even though age gap is kind of a "taboo" subject, it's all about how you feel about eachother. Age is only a measurement, remember that.
Trill Co$by
Believes in The Shield!
I'm going to be honest, anything more than a 2-3 year gap seems to be inappropriate for me. I don't care what others think, the higher the age gap, the weirder it seems to me. Why would someone be comfortable with a 14 year old dating someone who's in their 20s? Or why would someone in their 30s have any reason to date anyone younger than 25? The answer to both of those questions is simple... because you're sick for the former and because you want a trophy case for the latter.
As for the OP, someone's already said it, the maturity levels between you two is too much of a gap that it just won't work out.
As for the OP, someone's already said it, the maturity levels between you two is too much of a gap that it just won't work out.
FitFinlay4Life
What's the craic?
My parents had an age gap of almost twelve years (they met when she was 23 and he was 35) and they were happily married for over fifty years until my father passed away a couple of years ago. My sister is almost a decade younger than her husband and they have been happily married for 36 years. My niece is ten years younger than her husband and they have now been happily married for a decade.
I don't really see an issue in age gap until one partner could realistically be the parent of the other. Beyond that, relationships are the same whether the difference is twelve years or no years, are you compatible? I think in today's world a common misconception is that women are always the ones looking to settle down, I know a number of girls who are now 40+ who make most girls half their age look like spinsters.
I don't really see an issue in age gap until one partner could realistically be the parent of the other. Beyond that, relationships are the same whether the difference is twelve years or no years, are you compatible? I think in today's world a common misconception is that women are always the ones looking to settle down, I know a number of girls who are now 40+ who make most girls half their age look like spinsters.
