For most of us in relationships, whether married or dating, we take the committment seriously.Even entertaining the fantasy of doing so, to most, is disrespectful to the person they're with. Temptation is there for just about everyone, whether it be a co-worker, someone at the bar you frequent, or even someone you exchange glances with at the grocery store. In these moments, there is a conflict between gut instincts, and commitment. Gut instincts, which happen with all of us, think it would be great to have sex with that person, now. But soon, our values and commitment take over, and we dismiss the thought, and most remove themselves from situations to avoid temptations.
For all the discussion of 50% of marriages ending in divorce, infidelity in marriage isn't as high as you would think. In fact, in a recent survey done by MSNBC, only 22% of the 70,000 people who completed the survey acknowledged that they've committed adultery. Under 20% of people who completed the survey noted that they were caught, or acknoweldged their cheating. In fact, infidelity isn't the largest reason for divorce in this country, finances are. Hollywood couples skw this mindset for us, as we're inundated on almost a daily basis of celebrity couples announcing their seperations and divorce due to cheating, but data shows that this isn't reflective of most of America. I'm guessing at this point and time, most of you in relationships don't cheat either. So I'm curious as to why.
For me, it's pretty simple. I had this discussion recently with a friend, and one of the things I told her is that I couldn't imagine my life without my wife. On top of that, I can't imagine being with someone else. As absurd as this sounds, if my wife were to die tomorrow, God forbid, I think I'd stay single for the rest of my life. And that is because of the incredible connection I have with my wife. I can't imagine feeling connected in that way with anyone else, ever, so why even try? I know, it sounds corny, but it's truly how I feel. So several questions here:
What keeps or would keep you from cheating on your spouse/partner?
Is there any situation under which you would cheat, and find it justifiable?
Why do you believe people cheat, and what do you think about those who do?
Feel free to answer any and all of the questions, they're just talking points. Discuss this in any way you see fit.
I'll weigh in on the other questions later myself.
For all the discussion of 50% of marriages ending in divorce, infidelity in marriage isn't as high as you would think. In fact, in a recent survey done by MSNBC, only 22% of the 70,000 people who completed the survey acknowledged that they've committed adultery. Under 20% of people who completed the survey noted that they were caught, or acknoweldged their cheating. In fact, infidelity isn't the largest reason for divorce in this country, finances are. Hollywood couples skw this mindset for us, as we're inundated on almost a daily basis of celebrity couples announcing their seperations and divorce due to cheating, but data shows that this isn't reflective of most of America. I'm guessing at this point and time, most of you in relationships don't cheat either. So I'm curious as to why.
For me, it's pretty simple. I had this discussion recently with a friend, and one of the things I told her is that I couldn't imagine my life without my wife. On top of that, I can't imagine being with someone else. As absurd as this sounds, if my wife were to die tomorrow, God forbid, I think I'd stay single for the rest of my life. And that is because of the incredible connection I have with my wife. I can't imagine feeling connected in that way with anyone else, ever, so why even try? I know, it sounds corny, but it's truly how I feel. So several questions here:
What keeps or would keep you from cheating on your spouse/partner?
Is there any situation under which you would cheat, and find it justifiable?
Why do you believe people cheat, and what do you think about those who do?
Feel free to answer any and all of the questions, they're just talking points. Discuss this in any way you see fit.
I'll weigh in on the other questions later myself.