Well to be fair Barbedwireropes, there's actually quite a history of racism in the metal scene. It's not like the punk scene where everything is about ideals and equality
I know about the history of racism in the metal scene and you pointed it out quite well so I have no reason to further elobarate on it. Its just, where im from, nothing of that sort has ever happened in the local scene for as long as I've been a part of it. Im in a progressive band with a person of Filipino decent and when we have toured (on our own dollar to boot) the general areas including Vancouver, Calgary, Edmonton, Winnipeg and even down into the U.S to include Seattle, Portland and some shit small towns in Nevada and Arizona we have never come across any level of threat or discomfort brought on by concertgoers due to race issues. I know it happens and I know that NY still has a, unfortunately, thriving underground "race-core" scene which is a white supremicist style of Hardcore reminicent of bands like Madball and Hatebreed. Its just, I thought more places on the broader mainstream scale were more open minded to other races being involved in what can be, a very welcoming and friendly invironment.
NSL lives in the PA. I can't speak for his area, but I know we get the racist stigma in Cincinnati. Seriously, I can't even go to a Dimmu show, or even Slayer or Metallica shows, without listening to people spout shit about how we're all racists. Seriously, my last girlfriend and I went to a Powerman 5000 concert a few years ago, and she was accosted outside the venue, because she (as a black chick) was going to what some dumbass decided was a "racist/intolerant" event. And, that happens anytime she and I go to a concert. I think it's probably just a regional thing. It's really a shame people can't be as accepting as most metal fans.
Well, it is a known fact that Dimmu Borgir are not to fond of people from other races and religions, at least as far as thier earlier material in concerned. So I can see why some people could come to that assumption of thier fans. Slayer, well, not alot of people like or understand Slayer so again I cannot hold it against anyone who will jump to those conclusions seeing as they have said and done very many controversial things in the past. Metallica on the other hand, I do not get. Seeing as they have been very good on donating millions to variuos charites. But the fact of the matter will always remain, people on the outside looking in do not understand us. The thing I've been saying the whole time is, I thought everyone on the inside in this day and age were a friendly and accepting group of people. All I know is what I have experienced myself and where I have experienced it. At the shows here in Vancouver, you can walk upto anyone regardless of race and strike up a conversation. Half of the friends I know now I've met at metal gigs. I just wish everyone around North America could experience this type of metal hospitality, including your girlfriend/ex-girlfriend (you didnt really clarify to which it is). There are a few skinheads that show up at random shows every now and then, I wont lie, but as anyone who lives here knows...they dont last to long in the moshpits and they are usually gone halfway through the night.
I don't think the area really makes a difference.
If a band like God Forbid (for instance) is a shock to the people in the crowd here, I don't see how they wouldn't be a shock to people in a crowd in LA or Seattle. NY and NJ are basically the melting pot of the USA now, and there's still a sense of surprise when people see bands that aren't all-white.
They werent a shock here in Vancouver when they performed on the Lamb of God/As I Lay Dying/Municipal Waste tour. Its just, people didn't really care for thier stale, one-dimentional sound. But no one was saying anything racist about them. Also, everytime Suffocation comes here they sell out their tickets come show time. The reason why most people buy tickets is to see thier drummer in the flesh, who is african american. Killswitch Engage also do very well here, playing to well sold hockey arenas.
I think area does play into a bands reaction from the fans, based on race. A more liberal/progressive city will have much more open-minded reactions to change and diversity.