Are you in a relationship?

[#hamler]

Simple enough right? Are any of you guys in a relationship with a significant other?

Her name is Kayla, and we've been dating since April 25, 2009. I began asking her out on Valentine's Day of 2009 only to be turned down at least four or five times. Her parents didn't like me because of my skin color (I'm mixed between black and white) but we got passed all that shit and now we've been together longer than most couples at my high school. She is also a senior. She's very nice to most but you don't want to piss her off. I've gotten mad at her about three times since we've been together compared to her getting mad around two hundred times. So yeah, as you can tell she's the controlling one. And I'm fine with that. All that matters is I'm happy and she's happy, and that we are. I've recently (about three months ago) put a ring on lay away hoping to work up the courage to finally ask her. I was thinking Prom night but that could always change to a different date. So yeah...

Any of you in a relationship with a significant other? Don't spam and shit.

Go.

 

[Decarow]

Nope. I've been single for almost 2 years next week. Some of that is my choice though. I've had the opportunity to date but I knew I wouldn't like those girls enough to make it last a long time. Of course, I've been rejected a few times over the past 2 years. Hell, there was a girl I almost dated that was just perfect to me and I could be possibly engaged to her by now, but she had some issues to work out and was still on and off with her ex.

There was also my high school sweet heart. We only dated for about 2 months my sophomore year, but we ended up being dates to several dances. I am man enough to say I just about cried when I found out she got engaged while at boot camp in the army.

Edit: and hey man, don't rush into an engagement. You don't know what all fun college has to offer, and you don't want to give up your independence and freedom quite yet. But if you do it, good luck and congratulations

 

[Pole Smoker]

Nope. I am not looking to get married for a long time so a relationship would be a waste of time right now. I think 30+ is a good age for me to get married. Obviously if I met a good girl I would try but I've never met a girl I would actually consider marrying which is sad. I've had one long relationship which lasted a year. I wish I didn't stay as long though because she distracted me from college work.

I hate relationships though. The only reason for me to get married is to have kids.

 

[Dr. Stinger A. Zoidberg]

Do I even need to say it?

I met my wife Mollie when I was 13. We had gone to school together and she is a year older than me. Our relationship started innocently enough at first -- as friends. However, as I got to know her better, I started to like her. Unfortunately, I had fallen too far into the proverbial "friend zone" at that point. She considered me her, "Guy Best Friend." I went on with my life, and had other girlfriends. But at the end of the day, everything came back to her. She went out with this one guy when she was 19 and they were together for two years. He broke her heart, and she was devastated. She was tired of being hurt by other guys, and that's when she finally started to like me back. I asked her out for the first time in years when I was 21 and she was 22. We dated for two years and then I asked her to marry me. To make a long story short, we got married and have been together ever since.

Moral of the story: Falling far into the "Friend Zone" is a good thing.

 

[The Rob]

Yes.

But it's only lasted a week so far, but this is my first relationship in 10 months so it's quite refreshing to be in one again. Her names Hannah, 18 and works full time as a Vet. She's really clingy already but I'm gonna let this run it's course first before I make any decisions.

 

[Decarow]

\She's really clingy already but I'm gonna let this run it's course first before I make any decisions.

That always sucks. My last "relationship" lasted for 6 days. She was extremely clingy. She started acting like my friends were her best friends. She called my roommate's girlfriend to see if I was on campus. When I dumped her that night, she literally said "but.. I love you.." Yea, watch out for the L word..

 

[Richard]

Yes.

Her name is Elleni and we've been together just over three months now. When I moved back home to Sydney from Adelaide last year (September), I came back and one of my friends introduced me to her, BUT she had a boyfriend at the time and after talking to her, I found out he was treating her like shit, swearing at her, getting angry all the time, using her and we hung out a few times and she would talk to me about him and she got up the courage to break it off with him for good. We hung out a few more times after that and I took her to her Year 12 formal (Prom, for the Americans) and I asked her to be my girlfriend on that night and she said yes and we've been awesome since.

I only wish I had talked to her before I moved away from Sydney as this same friend showed me her Bebo profile online and I though she was really cute. I kick myself every day for not adding her back then, but I'm with her now which is the main thing.

Her dad hates me though, he wants me dead. He's a very strict Greek man. She stayed over at my place on NYE and lied about where she was, needless to say her parents found out and he went ballistic. I don't plan on meeting him again any time soon

 

[The Rob]

Can I just take this opportunity to quickly apologise for any spam comments I've made in this thread, didn't read that it was a non-spam section of the forums.

Her dad hates me though, he wants me dead. He's a very strict Greek man. She stayed over at my place on NYE and lied about where she was, needless to say her parents found out and he went ballistic. I don't plan on meeting him again any time soon

I wouldn't worry too much about her Dad disliking you. At the end of the day, as long as you don't have any need to be in communication with him, he doesn't really matter. Besides your both old enough to decide what you wanna do or who you wanna be with. Thankfully I've always been liked by the parents of any girlfriend I've ever had. It's rare that sort of thing happens and I don't really know why. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

 

[Decarow]

I also would like to apologize for any spam posts I've made.

And Richard, I too know what it's like to have a parent hate me. I remember in 11th grade I went to pick up my girlfriend from her house, which had a really weird driveway. When I backed out, I almost went into a ditch and hit their mailbox simultaneously. Her mom thought it was cute but her dad wasn't too happy. That was 4 years ago, we're not together anymore but she says her dad still calls me "that little shit who almost hit my mailbox"

 

[Wickpeeka]

I'm in a relationship right now-- its long distance but I'm moving to her in the next month or so. It's been the best relationship of my life, I truly feel blessed to have her. She's a single Mom (read further, I typed this last sentence after writing it) to two adorable children one of whom almost spends as much time talking to me as my fiancee does. My transition to her is going to be pretty seamless as a result.

I'm 31 now. Those saying to wait until your 30s to get married -- I got news for you, you're better off finding the one that you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with, raise a family together, etc. while you're in your early to mid twenties.

The truth is that A LOT of the women who you'd ideally want to do that with are doing that in their 20s. While there absolutely are career minded single women out there in my age bracket I've found more often than not that it's single Moms and women with a lot of emotional baggage from former relationships that are on the singles market. Those same women often comment that it's the same for them - that more often than not its guys who are divorced w/ children OR even guys that are married (looking for that little something extra on the side - even if they don't tell them until much, much later).

Also, once you get to your late 20s, early 30s age stops becoming a factor in things. For example, in the past year and a half I've had three serious relationships (including the LDR I'm in now) - the women were 39 and 44 (my fiancee now is 33, 2 and a half years my senior). Those of you in your early 20s, going to college, etc. try asking yourself "Can I see myself with an early 30s chick?" and the answer is likely to be no. However, when you get to my age the possibilities open up. It's difficult to find people with your mindset that are single and don't have boat loads of baggage so you end up looking at various age brackets and are more likely to find someone older than you. That can and often does mean that if it works out that you're in a position of either being a role model (not a father, at least not to the women who've had babies to non-dead beat sperm donors) to children that will never truly be yours.

So if the right girl comes along I beg you not to be blind to it. It doesn't mean you have to be out "hunting pussy" just keep an open mind. It's often when you're not looking that the gal of your dreams comes into your life - it was definitely that way for me.

 

[Richard]

Yeah well for the most part, she has said her dad has never liked any of her boyfriends so I guess I'm not going to worry too much about him liking me personally but I think a lot of it comes from the fact that he wants her to marry some rich Greek business man as they are fairly well off. She has said that she doesn't want a big rich Greek man, she doesn't want to date her dad lol.

I was originally working at KFC and realised that while mainly for me it wasn't working out financially, her parents wouldn't also accept her dating someone at KFC, so I'm either going to study Web Design or Real Estate, I'm leaning more towards Real Estate as I think that it would be a good career choice, although very busy working 6 days and being on call to clients in the night, there is room to make a good living there if you work hard enough at it.

Her mum likes me though which is a plus I guess.

 

[#hamler]

Edit: and hey man, don't rush into an engagement. You don't know what all fun college has to offer, and you don't want to give up your independence and freedom quite yet. But if you do it, good luck and congratulations

Thanks for the advice bro.

And my independence and freedom goes to her completely. We're usually always together whether it's in school or outside of school so it doesn't really matter about giving up my freedom right now. As for college, we're most likely going to get jobs and travel a year before we go to college. I don't really think I'm rushing into it, I mean my time and schedule has her all over it.

 

[The Crock]

Yes, I am currently in a relationship. I've been dating this girl since November, and it had been great. Her name is Sarah, she also 18. We went to high school together, and during my junior year she was actually my prom date. I first got to know her during my freshman year when I was at football practice, the cheerleaders practiced on the track. We'd gone to different junior highs, but our parents were actually pretty good friends, and when I saw her that day at practice I thought she was absolutely gorgeous. I had not seen her in years, since I didn't really socialize with her, only our parents were tight. Over the next few years we became closer, friends in fact. I dated other girls, but I never thought of getting together with her. Finally, around Thanksgiving we were hanging out, both single and we got together. She's an amazing person. She's so nice and caring, my polar opposite since I'm an ass. (I kid, I don't behave like this in real life.) The best thing about her is that we can have fun together doing just about anything. It can be a but awkward having dinner with our parents, only because they're such good friends, but it's getting easier.

 

[Megatron]

No.

I haven't even bothered to even start trying to date for a few reasons. 1) I can't even drive for a few more months, so starting anything would be pointless as we couldn't do anything. 2) The girls around me are either taken, unattractive, annoying, or a combination of all 3. 3) I'm a Sophomore in High School, so I'm just trying to have a good time until I get to college. 4) I'm not interested in any type of relationship until college, as I think many of these girls are still too immature and are just having a boyfriend to say they have one.

So yeah, I'll stick with being single until those things happen.

 

[Deexter Jorgan]

nope,

Im seperated from my wife and have three beutiful children, i hope one day we can rectify things, I still love her, her name is sunita, she is my wife and the one person in the world i trusted with my heart.

she lied to a solicitor and took out a court order on me, it was one of the hardest times in my life.

do i trust her, no, do i want her back... yes, i hope one day i will get her back in my life.

but for now its just me being single

 

[Sparky]

Yes. nearly two years, her name is kristy and we was highschool sweethearts who broke up because we made the mistake of setting her uncle and my mum up and their relationship didn't work out so ours didn't. got back together some five or six years later. it took a while to get used to being apart of that family again but all is good now. (well for the time being anyway) We are currently engaged and are planning on having our wedding sometime next year.

 

[Hollywood Naitch]

I have been with my girlfriend Aimee for the last 4 years, and we live together in Manchester in a rented apartment.

We went 3 years without having a single row, but now we live together we seem to argue over literally everything. It can be great for a few days and then out of the blue I say or do something wrong and when I try and explain my side of the argument it just turns into a row. So, I am not sure if this is going to be the girl I will spend my life with. She has been my only serious long term relationship, so I really don't know what I would do on my own now haha.

I hope we can get over these arguments as I do love her, but her obsession with wanting kids in the near future is getting on my nerves

 

[The Mark of Zur-En-Arrh]

nope,

Im seperated from my wife and have three beutiful children, i hope one day we can rectify things, I still love her, her name is sunita, she is my wife and the one person in the world i trusted with my heart.

she lied to a solicitor and took out a court order on me, it was one of the hardest times in my life.

do i trust her, no, do i want her back... yes, i hope one day i will get her back in my life.

but for now its just me being single

I kinda have a similar story. My last girlfriend who i'd been with for two years and claimed to be totally devoted to me, dumped me out the fuckin blue one fine day and then came crawling back a week later.

I found out not long afterward that she'd taken to this other guy, wanted to fuck him, he messed her around, and THAT'S when she realised that pretty looking chavs with tattoos are not to be trusted more often than not, and came back to me.

Still in love with her and wanting her back, i forgave her and we got back together.

3 months later she did the EXACT same thing to me again, as in, dumped me out the blue for no reason. This was literally a fortnight before i'd gone to WM 25. I came back from that, and again she comes to me wanting to get back together. But first she's asking me 'have you met anyone else?' and i said 'no, i'm not going to be looking for anything else so soon, am i?'

I then asked her if she'd been seeing anyone else and she just looked sheepish and didn't answer.

'So that's a yes then, and let me guess, the guy fucked you around like the last twat?'

And again, no answer, same sheepish look on her face. Then we get the waterworks, and the apologies and the promises that she won't do it again etc etc. and i just put my arms around her, let her calm down and said:-

'As much as i still love you and want you back, I CANNOT give you another opportunity to fuck with my heart like this anymore. I am not prepared to trust you in that fashion ever again, because you've already screwed me over twice, and the second time you did it in a fraction of the time you did previously. I'll always love you and i want you to remain a big part of my life, but you and me starting a romantic relationship ever again is firmly out of the question.'

It's now 2 years later and i've not had a relationship since. In fact, i've pretty much shut myself off from women altogether, don't really know why.

I tell myself it's because A) i wouldn't want to take them home. My parents drive me insane with trivial shit, i'd hate to expose a chick to that as well, especially as i have next to no privacy at home, and B) i prefer to get to know something about girls before i start making advances on them. So girls who try to dance with me on dance floors either get completely ignored or i just make it clear that i don't care.

My life is a bloody shambles these days anyway, and i'm devoting almost all free time to my band now, so if i said women weren't high on my list of priorities, that'd be an understatement. Women aren't even on the list.

 

[Decarow]

I have been with my girlfriend Aimee for the last 4 years, and we live together in Manchester in a rented apartment.

We went 3 years without having a single row, but now we live together we seem to argue over literally everything. It can be great for a few days and then out of the blue I say or do something wrong and when I try and explain my side of the argument it just turns into a row. So, I am not sure if this is going to be the girl I will spend my life with. She has been my only serious long term relationship, so I really don't know what I would do on my own now haha.

I hope we can get over these arguments as I do love her, but her obsession with wanting kids in the near future is getting on my nerves

Dude, you can't have a life-long serious relationship without arguments. It just doesn't happen. You win some, you lose most.

 

[Nate DaMac]

Yes. I've been with my girl for about 7 months now and last month, she gave birth to my first child. No she wasn't premature and no, I'm not ******ed. We have only officially been together since July 29th, but we were doing the nasty long before. She already had a 1 year old, he's since turned 2, and I've completely taken on the father role. He is my son, regardless of the DNA. Boy was that kid a little fucking bastard until I got a hold of him. LOL. It's a weird feeling to have a family since a year ago, I was just moving into a place with a good friend of mind and it was a bachelor pad to the max. But there's a strange serenity about having people who depend on you and love you the way we all do. I see this going the distance, unless she pisses me off one time too many.

 

[Muffin Top Merkley]

Lacey and will have been together for four years in August. We met at a house party in April 2007, and for me it was instant attraction and we chatted for the majority of the night. We hung out together a crazy amount of time, to which I was clearly looking to have a relationship with but she had zero interest in anything more than friendship.

With time, she eventually began to develop feelings towards me and we officially started dating the following August.

Our relationship is no where near perfect, as we obviously have our moments, but I think that at the end of the day, we're going to make it.

We now have a perfect nine month old baby girl who I couldn't imagine not being with.

 

[red ass skull muhfukkah]

I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 4 years now. We met in High School, she actually asked me out, apparently she had a crush on me for a while. Our first date we went to see Casino Royale, I loved the movie and it's become one of my favorites but she doesn't remember any of the movie lol.

She's been through a lot in her life and she's never had some one be there for her consistently before me. She went from foster home to foster home to her over the top Christian Grandma's who hated me because I wore a Slayer shirt the first time I met her. Every time she got moved somewhere (it was always local) I would see her at school, give her some snacks because she hated eating other people's food (she's weird with that stuff) and just try to make her happy those few hours we had together.

Eventually my mom just let her live with us about a year into the relationship. Since then it's pretty much been awesome with her. She's going through some new shit now but we'll get through just like we always do.

I often think how in the world does this girl like me so much? There are some days where my only goal is to annoy her as much as possible and I always succeed. But even at the end of those days she still smiles at me and tells me she loves me, corny but it always makes me happy.

We'll probably get married in a few years but we don't want to rush anything for now. We both want to get our lives and careers straightened before we do something that important.

That's pretty much it, oh and she loves wrestling (I got her into it, she only knew of Hogan, Rock and Austin before me). Her favorite wrestler is C.M. Punk but she roots for Cena just as much. She actually has an account on here but I think she only posted a few times before she got bored.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

No.

Been single for about four years now, and I have sex with a lot of girls. Not really on purpose, just I date a lot, and shit happens, and then afterwards im like "fuck, THAT was dumb..." and then the cycle repeats. There have been some cool ones here and there, but for one reason or another, they didnt work out. Mostly becuase they put up a huge front when first meeting me, only to become themselves weeks later.

Funny thing being, I am beyond open to a relationship. If I met the right girl, I would marry her next week. Just doesn't appear to be in the cards for me, and im fine with that.

 

[Phoenix]

Been officially single for about 2 1/2 years, though was still fuck buddies with my ex for a year on after we split (bad mistake there). In short, I choose to be single partly because of the messing around my ex did on me which affected a lot of trust issues but also because I don't feel the need to dedicate myself to a relationship when I got a situation I feel happy with, working and doing my own projects, it's only me and I don't have to distract myself unless with friends.

Sure, there are times I miss being in a relationship, but I'm heavily cautious around them because I got badly hurt by my ex in more ways than one. I'm over her now, but the damage she did makes me think twice about pursuing anything with a girl beforehand. The past 6 months have been some of the best of my life and it wasn't down to a relationship with anyone, but with life, I work, I do projects in my spare time, creative write with WZCW. If I was in a relationship, I wouldn't find the right balance, but then that's down to the person really. As said, happy to be single and there's no shame to it.

 

[Dagger Dias]

Am I in a relationship?

If that picture or a couple of my other posts have not given it away, I have been married for almost 8 months now, and we have been together since April 26th of 2010. We met online and hit it off instantly. For anyone who has ever been broken up with or turned down for being a wrestling fan or a gamer.... let this be a ray of hope in your life, if I could find a hot girl who's into wrestling AND video games AND shares my religious beliefs, then so can you. Hang in there. Those of you who are not single and have someone you care about, treasure them. It is something very special that should never be taken for granted because relationships can either be the best or worst thing to ever happen to you. As I jokingly refer to it, once you find that special someone you become tag team partners for life!