When someone starts that line of questioning, I find myself completely shutting down to them. At that point the line of loaded questioning will only devolve into a situation where I'm angry with them for being so arbitrarily intrusive with their assumptions, and that anger only validates what they assume was their reasoned assessment of my demeanor. Today I upset my coworker, someone who I get along with splendidly most of the time. He patted me on the back and said "It's alright man, hang in there" completely to my surprise. I gave a sincere "thanks man" and continued working. The scene should have ended right there. Nope, he continued with "Are you alright man? What's wrong?" which prompted me to stop what I was in the middle of and turn to look and see if he was joking around. Mind you, the day was going well and I honestly have no regrets about any aspect of my life at this point. After realizing he was being serious, I responded with "Why does something have to be wrong?" He started to get defensive at this point saying "I'm just asking if you're okay! You don't have to bite my head off man. I'm just trying to look out for you." and he stood there waiting for me to respond. Being very creeped out, I turned back to my desk and continued working. While trying to ignore him, I heard "Why are you being like this man?" repeated over and over again until eventually he huffed away. I'm not looking for anyone to support my attitude toward that line of questioning, but feel free to call me out if I behaved like a jerk. What I'm wondering is if anyone else out there has had to deal with that kind of situation where someone goes from supposedly showing concern for you to becoming hostile simply because you won't validate their desire to "help". I bring all this up mainly because it seems like an epidemic among certain personality types. Family members have behaved this way, random people who I don't even know have behaved this way. If I'm ever that concerned with someone else's demeanor, I can accept it if they respond to my query with a simple "yes, I'm okay" even if I believe that they're only doing so because I'm the last person they'd want to open up to.