WZ Psychology-The Doctors Are In

[Tenta]

You know, you bring up a good point that has inspired me to post one of my own problems. I don't care if I end up alone, but I do worry about not having a child. But, I'm not rich, so a test-tube baby isn't really an option at this moment. So, that leaves me with the option of finding someone to get into a serious relationship with and to probably get married to. And, I really hate break-ups...I'd rather cut off my one of my limbs than have to part with someone that I grew accustomed to having in my life in the most intimate of ways. So, what do you suggest?

I'll take a swing at this one.

So for my own curiousity... The biggest concern for you at the moment is a divorce/ entering a relationship, and having it fail?

If that is the case, then I guess the only thing I could suggest is to consider your fasmily history, and evaluate whether or not you are prone to divorce. Either than that, than I would only say that the biggest hurdle for you is yourself, and your own concerns upon placing the blame of a divorce upon yourself. I would also estimate said concerns also lean you towards a need to be around said significant other at a constant time, and not allowing one another to live separate lives?

My advice? Simply, that while relationships involve a bit of involving the other half in your life, a portion of you needs to focus on yourself, and live some aspect of a private life. Be it a job, a hobby, hell, even these forums. Some sort of a positive outlet in which you are able to express yourself, yet also share portions with your spouse when the situations arises.

You're a good person... I'd try giving the relationship a shot, and noting that your significant other doesn't have to share in all aspects of your life. That actually makes the relationship somewhat stronger

 

[Marquis]

I bare my damn soul, and none of you cunt nuggets can give me an answer?!!! Now, I understand where Derf is coming from!!! I am sorry, Derf!!!

Well I'm speaking from 0 life experience, but since you are a homie, i will share my thoughts. Your problem reminds me of the quote "Without Risk, There is No Reward". If you really hope to start a family someday, then getting hurt by a women is something you have to risk in my opinion. The best you can do to avoid such a situation is to make sure you get to know the person who you would like to start a relationship with, and except their faults if you can. Even then there's always a chance it might not work out down the line, but its something you have to risk for the greater goal.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

You know, you bring up a good point that has inspired me to post one of my own problems. I don't care if I end up alone, but I do worry about not having a child. But, I'm not rich, so a test-tube baby isn't really an option at this moment. So, that leaves me with the option of finding someone to get into a serious relationship with and to probably get married to. And, I really hate break-ups...I'd rather cut off my one of my limbs than have to part with someone that I grew accustomed to having in my life in the most intimate of ways. So, what do you suggest?

what about adoption yo? if I dont marry nobody by the time I retire (37) then im just gonna go "down to the pound and pick one up" so-to-speak

 

[The Dewbliners]

my bosses cut me back to two shifts a week, I'm sober for the first time on Independance Day since I turned 21, I'm still trying entirely too hard to stay off drugs, and two nights ago I caught a vicous beat down from a group of 20-somethings, on my way home from work. Thus, my life is not sucky, so I don't know why I'm posting in this thread.

 

[Cena's Little Helper]

what about adoption yo? if I dont marry nobody by the time I retire (37) then im just gonna go "down to the pound and pick one up" so-to-speak

I definitely plan on adopting a kid, and I'm not importing one either. But, I still do want one made the old-fashioned way. Not that I couldn't love a kid that isn't mine as much I could one that is, but it'd be nice to know that the family line will be carried on (I'm an only child).

 

[Mighty NorCal]

I definitely plan on adopting a kid, and I'm not importing one either. But, I still do want one made the old-fashioned way. Not that I couldn't love a kid that isn't mine as much I could one that is, but it'd be nice to know that the family line will be carried on (I'm an only child).

yea I getcha. I was just letting you know that if you couldnt find a vagina person you can stand, that all hope will not be lost my good man. Of course, though, everyone hopes things will work out the nicey storybook way. Just keep in mind you can accomplish what you want with an adoption. if anything, itll probably net you MORE poon, for being a bleeding heart. Jus sayin.

 

[NSL]

I believe Denis Leary said it best: "Shut the fuck up! Next!"

Also: "Life sucks, grab a fucking helmet!"




Figured I'd throw in my two cents, as a wise old man around here...