When It Comes To Dating: Younger Or Older?

[lenguy]

So when it comes to a relationship, which does you guys prefer? A partner who's older or a partner who's younger? Not by huge gaps ether but by three to five years lets say. I know some people would argue that age isn't important and doesn't factor in for them but for those which it does, which is it?

I find that a much younger women, one of the possible flaws could be that they are immature. They don't take very many things seriously(aside from their strong and personal emotional needs/views) but they can also be active and fun to be around and are more than likely to try new things sexual(from my experiences anyway)

An older women could very much have her life all planned out and could be a bit more stable emotionally as opposed to a younger women. She could have very well gotten over her immaturity(but will often accuse you of being immature on any occasion she can get) and in many cases she could have grown up into a very sophisticated individual. However this is not the case of all women, I have been involved with women who in a sense refuse to grow up and take responsibility for anything( a lot of men are like this as well)

Personally for me, I like somebody who's a bit younger just because usually their lives are and emotional wreck and I'm the kind of person who likes to help them get back on track and what not, a good way I find to get close to somebody.

What about you guys? Younger? Older? Or doesn't matter?

 

[Sparky]

For me I prefer women that are my age. having them more then a year or so younger or older just feels weird. you have different friends, Interests ect... I find it easier to be able to go "lets go out tonight" and not have the reply be I'm to young or something like that. I don't beliave there is an age limit I just prefer to go out with somebody my own age as we have more in common.

 

[The Rob]

Ideally I'd like a girl who's roughly 6 months to a year older than me but I don't mind settling for a girl who's a year or two younger either. It really depends on who the girl is and what the situation is. My ex was 6 months older than me and it was great. My ex before her was 14 months younger than me but on both occasions, the age wasn't an issue at all. I'll be honest and say I've dated someone 3 years older than me, and this was when I was 16! Age is literally just a number to me (unless we're talking like 15 or under, then in that event, not a chance in hell), it's all about the person involved.

 

[The Crock]

I prefer women that are my age. Or at least, very close to my age. 6 months to a year in difference is fine. My current girlfriend is a month younger than I am. We went to school together, we enjoy a lot of the same things, we're at the same point in our lives. It's easy to deal with and less of a hassle when we're near the same age. I personally couldn't deal with a large age gap, but if that's what some people are into, then that's their choice. If that's what makes you happy, then good for you.

 

[Decarow]

I have what I call the "18 Rule". However far away I am from 18, is how big the age limit it. Right now I am 3 years away. So I will date anyone from 18-24. It's fairly simple, yet what is life without petty?

 

[Richard]

I would prefer to date a younger woman, all of my girlfriends so far have been younger so I guess it's something that I just prefer. I'm not going to go for someone who's like 14 but I wouldn't go any younger than 2 years since I'm 19 at the moment, would just be wierd if I was with a 16 year old, I'll be 20 next month and my girlfriend just turned 18 so that's fine for me but I wouldn't go any younger. I just prefer my girlfriends to be younger.

Almost dated a girl who was a few months older once, didn't work out though.

 

[LilacFray]

I'd like it if the guy's 2 or 3 years older than me.. Same age wouldn't be fine cos I tend to get abit bossy.? Dominant? I don't know the exact word. We'd prolly get tired of each other anyway then :\ Older's cool cos I'd like him to be someone I can look up to, fool around with, depend on and one who'd keep me in my place. Oh, and he SHOULD have a good sense of humor. "Where there is no laugh, there is no love." That's my version. I've been crushing on this guy at school since the end of last year.. He's a year older.. Don't know him so well but he seems quite like what I described. He's one awesome person

 

[Alberto_Del_Burrito]

My rule is an age difference of +/- 2 years.

 

[Davi323]

I am fastly approaching my 36th birthday, so a few years either way doesn't really matter as far as maturity levels go. That was more of a concern when I was younger, less of a factor now. My ex-wife is 5 years younger, and my current girlfriend is 3 years older. I was born in 1975, so my general rule of thumb is 5 years either way. As long as they were born in the 70s. Any more of a range and you start having generational issues, because there isn't much crossover anymore.

 

[Hollywood Naitch]

Once you get to your early 20s, I don't think age really matters. As long as both people get on well, are similar maturity levels and hopefully share interests that is all that is important.

Your age shouldn't affect your decision as to whether you want to be with someone or not, whether they are 20 or 40. I would prefer to date someone my own age as they ARE more likely to be into the same sort of stuff as I am, but if I fell for a 30 year old I don't think that would be an issue at all as long as we were right for each other.

Age is just a number to be honest, it matters more when you are 14-18 and have varying levels of maturity

 

[Lee]

Honestly age doesn't matter as long as it's within reason. For example I had a couple of dates with two 19 year olds last year (I'm 25, was 24 at the time) and one you could chat about things from childhood such as Mr Blobby, Beadle's about, Gladiators and Power Rangers where the other (the same age!) couldn't remember anythign about them. I'm the sort of person who likes a good trip down memory lane and if it gets awkward then it's like ermmmmm.

 

[Trill Co$by]

In general it doesn't matter if they're older or younger, just as long as they're at a year younger or at most a 3 years older. For younger, it's because, well I don't like feeling like an older brother.

As for the older girls, it's more having to do with the fact that anything older than 3 years above me makes me feel uncomfortable.

Then again, as long as they aren't completely ******ed then it doesn't really matter much.

 

[ABMorales787]

I don't really care much about age. However, I do have a preference for being the "wiser" one. Call it sexist, but I call it having more use in a relationship.

Yeah, not exactly like that. I wouldn't date an idiot for poon and make a real relationship out of it. I'm aiming to be a guy she's with not because "he's a pretty face" or because of the money.

 

[Phoenix]

Once you get to your early 20s, I don't think age really matters. As long as both people get on well, are similar maturity levels and hopefully share interests that is all that is important.

Your age shouldn't affect your decision as to whether you want to be with someone or not, whether they are 20 or 40. I would prefer to date someone my own age as they ARE more likely to be into the same sort of stuff as I am, but if I fell for a 30 year old I don't think that would be an issue at all as long as we were right for each other.

Age is just a number to be honest, it matters more when you are 14-18 and have varying levels of maturity

This! It's down to how you two blend, age shouldn't be the issue. Heck, I know girls ranging from 20-50 (give or take) and we blend as friends for different things but there's only going to be individuals that stand out for relationships because of things you know and like to the stuff you can enjoy together. I've met girls who are smarter and younger than those my age or older women who've kept a great youth element that doesn't look out of place. In short, it's down to the chemistry and connectivity, age is just a figure that people make more issues out of when it's not needed to be.

 

[Derf]

I would prefer someone younger, but I'm not overly fussy about age. There is a 14 year gap between the youngest and oldest girl I was ever with, and that don't bother me one bit. As lots of you have said, anyone over 18 can date without it being to weird. It's children in school that need to keep the ages together.

 

[Dagger Dias]

I have always preferred older women. Something about knowing she is older is a turn on. Never quite did know why. Perhaps it is the maturity issue. Young girls always have so much drama and were difficult to deal with in a dating relationship. Older women have a better idea of how to treat a significant other, and what they want in a serious relationship. I also do not like large age gaps in either direction. I look at it this way. If she's younger, where was I at her age? If she's older, where might she have been at my age? Sometimes age does not matter, sometimes it does. It depends on the two individuals and the relationship. Most of my ex's were younger by about 1 to 3 years. My wife is 2 years older than me. Different people have differing views on this topic, and although I may be in the minority, I know there are other guys out there who like older girls too.

 

[Zigglerfan227]

So when it comes to a relationship, which does you guys prefer? A partner who's older or a partner who's younger? Not by huge gaps ether but by three to five years lets say. I know some people would argue that age isn't important and doesn't factor in for them but for those which it does, which is it?

I find that a much younger women, one of the possible flaws could be that they are immature. They don't take very many things seriously(aside from their strong and personal emotional needs/views) but they can also be active and fun to be around and are more than likely to try new things sexual(from my experiences anyway)

An older women could very much have her life all planned out and could be a bit more stable emotionally as opposed to a younger women. She could have very well gotten over her immaturity(but will often accuse you of being immature on any occasion she can get) and in many cases she could have grown up into a very sophisticated individual. However this is not the case of all women, I have been involved with women who in a sense refuse to grow up and take responsibility for anything( a lot of men are like this as well)

Personally for me, I like somebody who's a bit younger just because usually their lives are and emotional wreck and I'm the kind of person who likes to help them get back on track and what not, a good way I find to get close to somebody.

What about you guys? Younger? Older? Or doesn't matter?

yeah I like this. I agree with you. We don't have too many differences if any.

 

[Loveless]

I tend to go older but only slightly because of the maturity issue. In rare cases where I've been with younger women it has always ALWAYS been an unmitigated disaster, mainly I think because they're usually lying to themselves about wanting a proper relationship when they're actually not ready. Younger women are a waste of time.

 

[hatehabsforever]

For me, definitely younger. More energy, more enthusiasm, more fun. Sure, maturity could be an issue but it doesn't have to be. There are plenty of younger women with sufficient maturity, who are still youthful, adventurous, and great to spend time with.

 

[Kenny Powers]

I would prefer women a few years older then me. A young girl in her early twenties is usually all about going out to clubs with friends. There are some very immature. I wouldn't want to be with someone that was ready for a family either though. I need a healthy balance of smart, vibrant, and stable. Someone that is adventurous, but not someone who will end up in jail and get into fights for having 2 cocktails.

 

[lenguy]

I love this, a lot of varied results. It may not play a huge role but for some people, it is something they might take into consideration. I know people who refuse to date younger women for a lot of the reasons some of you pointed out and then I have some friends who stray from women who are much older for varied reasons.

What I want are more female intakes, I think I only got one reply for a women so far. But generally I want their side on this as well. I want to know why a lot of women out there prefer to date older men, what is it about older guys that appeal to them? I would guess the maturity level would play a big part but I want to know if there is any other reason for this. So for all the women on this forums, come to this thread and share your opinion. Men seem to vary while women I can't paint an unbiased picture yet. But from my experience women seems to go for the older men, so please, if there are any women reading this, challenge that stereotype and leave your opinion.

 

[LilacFray]

I love this, a lot of varied results. It may not play a huge role but for some people, it is something they might take into consideration. I know people who refuse to date younger women for a lot of the reasons some of you pointed out and then I have some friends who stray from women who are much older for varied reasons.

What I want are more female intakes, I think I only got one reply for a women so far. But generally I want their side on this as well. I want to know why a lot of women out there prefer to date older men, what is it about older guys that appeal to them? I would guess the maturity level would play a big part but I want to know if there is any other reason for this. So for all the women on this forums, come to this thread and share your opinion. Men seem to vary while women I can't paint an unbiased picture yet. But from my experience women seems to go for the older men, so please, if there are any women reading this, challenge that stereotype and leave your opinion.

Lol. It's the way I think. You ARE right about the maturity levels and all.

There ARE women who don't care about age out there, but I'm just not one of them.

I've got friends who just wouldn't go for a guy younger or older and are just looking for someone EXACTLY their age.

I feel sorry because of the high chance of them missing out that "right one"

Oh, and cougar couples are quite looked down at in my culture too.

Then I guess I could say I'm comfortable about my opinion.

So hey, culture plays a role in this whole older/younger issue too

 

[HBK-aholic]

I don't think I've ever dated or had a crush on a guy younger than me. Women just seem to mature faster. That's not necessarily a criticism of men, as immaturity has it's pluses, and not all are like that. But when I look at male friends, or my brother who's 17, and I look back to that age they find things hilarious that I just thought were immature and stupid. They also seem to have very little cares in the world, which is great, but I have quite a bit of responsibility in my life and tend to want to be with someone who would understand that more.

Also, guys of 18 and 19 seem to be interested in the novelty of going out and getting drunk every weekend, which isn't something I do much at all, and I'd much rather spend my Saturday nights at home curled up with a film. Not many guys my age or younger would be okay with that.