We talked a few weeks ago about coping skills and how we put them into effect upon stressful situations. What we didn't discuss, and I'd like to here, is those things in life that cause the stress that forces one to use those coping skills. Sadly, studies have shown that there is an approximate 3:1 ratio in terms of things that stress you out as compared to coping skills available to the average person. And for those with underdeveloped coping skills, stressful situations tend to lead to exaggerated responses that lead to more stress. But from what I read from your posts, many of you have some well-defined go-to coping skills, and good backup ones as well. So what I'd like to do is look at the other side of the equation from the last thread, and look at what causes you the most stress in life. Feel free also to either state or re-state the coping skill that helps ease the stress as well.
For me, it's the first week of every month. In order to save money of having a secretary do the billing for my agency, I do it myself. However, it's due at the end of the first week of every month, but I can't even start until the final working day of the past month, finishing my reports as well as allowing my staff to finish theirs as well. But work doesn't stop for me that week so I can do paperwork, I have to keep my full client load as I can't abandon their needs just to do the billing. What it leads to is 60-70 hours of work that week, which is incredibly stressful in the mental health field. I barely see my wife during that week as well, which doesn't please her, making it all the more stressful.
In this specific situation, I blank out that entire weekend following. I pull myself off of call for clients in crisis, and I have my staff alternate. I avoid anything and everything to do with work, and I don't see my friends or family during that time either. I make sure that one weekend each month(not that I don't try other times!) is special and just between myself and my wife. If not for that weekend, and knowing it's looming, I don't know that I would handle the stress very well. Now, I want to hear from you:
What is the one thing/situation that's unavoidable that causes you the most stress?
What's the situation specific way you cope with the stress?
All other thoughts and discussion on this topic are more then welcome, and encouraged.
For me, it's the first week of every month. In order to save money of having a secretary do the billing for my agency, I do it myself. However, it's due at the end of the first week of every month, but I can't even start until the final working day of the past month, finishing my reports as well as allowing my staff to finish theirs as well. But work doesn't stop for me that week so I can do paperwork, I have to keep my full client load as I can't abandon their needs just to do the billing. What it leads to is 60-70 hours of work that week, which is incredibly stressful in the mental health field. I barely see my wife during that week as well, which doesn't please her, making it all the more stressful.
In this specific situation, I blank out that entire weekend following. I pull myself off of call for clients in crisis, and I have my staff alternate. I avoid anything and everything to do with work, and I don't see my friends or family during that time either. I make sure that one weekend each month(not that I don't try other times!) is special and just between myself and my wife. If not for that weekend, and knowing it's looming, I don't know that I would handle the stress very well. Now, I want to hear from you:
What is the one thing/situation that's unavoidable that causes you the most stress?
What's the situation specific way you cope with the stress?
All other thoughts and discussion on this topic are more then welcome, and encouraged.