It's Phenom again with another story regarding my younger sister. This one isn't anywhere near as risque as the last one though.
Anyways, most of you know that I am currently the legal guardian of and raising my younger brother and sister. My brother is 11 and my sister is 15. So far, I can honestly say that it's been a blast. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been easy, but because of them my life has purpose and I've been able to build a pretty good life. So my sister came to me about 10 days ago and told me that she is a lesbian. For those of you that know me around here, you know that I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with my little sister saying that she's a lesbian. I'm actually very happy and proud that she felt close and comfortable enough with me to come out to me. Having said that, though, as a guardian, I have other concerns to worry about.
This past weekend, on Friday, she asked if one of her friends could come over and spend the night. Now this particular friend has been staying over with us for a long time and I enjoy having her over. My answer, however, was no. She then asked if she could go over to her house and spend the night. Again, I said no. When my sister asked why; I was honest with her and told her that it was because she just came out and told me that she was attracted to females. She said that that didn't change anything, but IMO it changes everything. I can't knowingly let someone whom my sister may be attracted to spend the night with her and I can't let my sister spend the night over at their house either. My sister said that she didn't even know if her friend was gay or not, but my whole line of thinking is what if she is gay? What if any of the girls my sister is friends with are gay and they come over to stay and something happens or I let my sister go to stay a night with them and something happens? I know that I can't lock my sister up and keep her from having a social life, I can, however, keep her from being intimate with someone at her age.
I'm sharing this with you guys because I'm not sure that I made the right decision. What would any of you have done? Do you agree with what I did or do you not? How would you have handled it differently and what should I do going forward? Let me know your opinions.
Anyways, most of you know that I am currently the legal guardian of and raising my younger brother and sister. My brother is 11 and my sister is 15. So far, I can honestly say that it's been a blast. Don't get me wrong, it hasn't been easy, but because of them my life has purpose and I've been able to build a pretty good life. So my sister came to me about 10 days ago and told me that she is a lesbian. For those of you that know me around here, you know that I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with my little sister saying that she's a lesbian. I'm actually very happy and proud that she felt close and comfortable enough with me to come out to me. Having said that, though, as a guardian, I have other concerns to worry about.
This past weekend, on Friday, she asked if one of her friends could come over and spend the night. Now this particular friend has been staying over with us for a long time and I enjoy having her over. My answer, however, was no. She then asked if she could go over to her house and spend the night. Again, I said no. When my sister asked why; I was honest with her and told her that it was because she just came out and told me that she was attracted to females. She said that that didn't change anything, but IMO it changes everything. I can't knowingly let someone whom my sister may be attracted to spend the night with her and I can't let my sister spend the night over at their house either. My sister said that she didn't even know if her friend was gay or not, but my whole line of thinking is what if she is gay? What if any of the girls my sister is friends with are gay and they come over to stay and something happens or I let my sister go to stay a night with them and something happens? I know that I can't lock my sister up and keep her from having a social life, I can, however, keep her from being intimate with someone at her age.
I'm sharing this with you guys because I'm not sure that I made the right decision. What would any of you have done? Do you agree with what I did or do you not? How would you have handled it differently and what should I do going forward? Let me know your opinions.