In regards to fighting, I mean.
As kids, the majority of us are taught that walking away from a fight makes us the better person, the bigger man. Violence solves nothing, and leads to more violence, we're instructed. The easy thing to do? No, but it ensures that a bad situation doesn't become worse. People respect the person who attempts to diffuse the situation by talking through it rather then resorting to fisticuffs.
I've spouted off a bunch of useless cliches because they're blanket statements. Every situation is different, and in being so, requires a different approach, does it not? You tell me, as reported from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette.
Malcolm Lockwood is a 43 year old man from Pittsburgh who was at his step-son's basketball game when the child was severely embarrassed. Jake, his 10 year old step-son, to put it mildy, is clueless about basketball. So much, that after grabbing a rebound, he was prompted by the opposing coach to then shoot the ball....into the wrong basket. He did, it went in, and the opposing coach urged him to "Do it Again" all-the-while laughing it up with his fellow coaches.
Following the game, Malcolm confronted the coach, 'encouraging' him not to do it again. Heated words were exchanged, and eventually, the basketball coach challenged Malcolm to a fight. Malcolm, wanting to be the better man and at the urging of his new wife, tried to walk away. That is, until the opposing coach whispered the following words to Lockwood:
What the opposing coach failed to realize was that Malcolm is a 2nd degree black belt, and when they fought to meet later that evening, it didn't last long. Palm strike to the throat, elbow to the nose, and the coach was done. The injuries, while minor, resulted in the coach being hospitalized for 2 days, and Lockwood was sentenced to 30 days for felony assault, of which he served 10.
Was it the best answer to the situation? Honestly, I don't know. For Lockwood, however, it was worth it:
I'm of the general persuasion myself that walking away from a fight is the best course of action. There have been four situations in my 30 years where I've been presented with "opportunities to fight, and three times, I've walked away. While I'm not convinced fighting solves anything, I felt the situation dictated it, as it was in defense of my wife. I wasn't out to teach someone a lesson, hurt them, or gain vengeance, simply defend her honor. Did I do the "right thing? Can't say. Did the coach who humiliated Lockwood's ten year old step-son learn something? Obviously, the ideal would be that he did, became a better person, and never bullied another kid again, but that's not how life works. I'm not even sure that, presented the same situation as before, that I'd react the same. So, let's try and figure this one out.
Of what purpose does fighting serve?
Are there situations(outside of defending yourself) where you'ld engage in a fight? What are they?
Any other discussion surrounding the topic are more then welcome.
As kids, the majority of us are taught that walking away from a fight makes us the better person, the bigger man. Violence solves nothing, and leads to more violence, we're instructed. The easy thing to do? No, but it ensures that a bad situation doesn't become worse. People respect the person who attempts to diffuse the situation by talking through it rather then resorting to fisticuffs.
I've spouted off a bunch of useless cliches because they're blanket statements. Every situation is different, and in being so, requires a different approach, does it not? You tell me, as reported from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette.
Malcolm Lockwood is a 43 year old man from Pittsburgh who was at his step-son's basketball game when the child was severely embarrassed. Jake, his 10 year old step-son, to put it mildy, is clueless about basketball. So much, that after grabbing a rebound, he was prompted by the opposing coach to then shoot the ball....into the wrong basket. He did, it went in, and the opposing coach urged him to "Do it Again" all-the-while laughing it up with his fellow coaches.
Following the game, Malcolm confronted the coach, 'encouraging' him not to do it again. Heated words were exchanged, and eventually, the basketball coach challenged Malcolm to a fight. Malcolm, wanting to be the better man and at the urging of his new wife, tried to walk away. That is, until the opposing coach whispered the following words to Lockwood:
"The spastic kid who shot at the wrong basket? The rest of the season he's a target. We have the chance to take a cheap shot, we do. We see an opportunity to get in his head, we go for it."
What the opposing coach failed to realize was that Malcolm is a 2nd degree black belt, and when they fought to meet later that evening, it didn't last long. Palm strike to the throat, elbow to the nose, and the coach was done. The injuries, while minor, resulted in the coach being hospitalized for 2 days, and Lockwood was sentenced to 30 days for felony assault, of which he served 10.
Was it the best answer to the situation? Honestly, I don't know. For Lockwood, however, it was worth it:
"When does mocking a ten year old become a part of the game? Encouraging a sensitive kid to shoot at the wrong basket, humiliating him? What a class act. Out of respect for my wife, I attempted to walk away, but his continued threats necessitated I take action. And I'd gladly have served the entire 30 days if it meant men like him never picked on or humiliated a child again."
I'm of the general persuasion myself that walking away from a fight is the best course of action. There have been four situations in my 30 years where I've been presented with "opportunities to fight, and three times, I've walked away. While I'm not convinced fighting solves anything, I felt the situation dictated it, as it was in defense of my wife. I wasn't out to teach someone a lesson, hurt them, or gain vengeance, simply defend her honor. Did I do the "right thing? Can't say. Did the coach who humiliated Lockwood's ten year old step-son learn something? Obviously, the ideal would be that he did, became a better person, and never bullied another kid again, but that's not how life works. I'm not even sure that, presented the same situation as before, that I'd react the same. So, let's try and figure this one out.
Of what purpose does fighting serve?
Are there situations(outside of defending yourself) where you'ld engage in a fight? What are they?
Any other discussion surrounding the topic are more then welcome.