Revenge Will Be Mine!!!!

[lenguy]

Revenge Is a dish best served cold​

I'm sure you have all heard that saying before. So this morning I was thinking about way back in my early high school days and reminiscing about the times with my first girlfriend...then it occurred to me..that bitch cheated on me! I remember swearing revenge that the cuntfaced rectum sucking ball grasping assface that she cheated on me with. I remember I kicked his ass about a week later...at the time it only felt right that I give the guy his dues and make him physically feel what I was going through emotionally...I remember it felt pretty good at the time...Ahh Good times...good times.

Now That I'm older and a bit more mature I think about it and feel guilty that I actually succumbed to that. I think it was probably the worst thing I could of done. I can't blame myself though as at that age people tend to be an emotional freight train fueled purely of emotions and usually have the inability to think things through in a rational manner. Then I stopped and thought about it again..it seems pretty ignorant for me just to blame this on age as people of all age will contemplate revenge about all sorts of matters just to gain some self satisfaction knowing that the other person is suffering just as you have. I'm sure most people are guilty of revenge..whether you have preformed it or even thought about it or even been at the receiving end of revenge. SO!

What is your stance on Revenge? Is it an acceptable and appropriate manner to settle a dispute?

Have you ever seized revenge? Do you have second thoughts about it now?

Is there ever a time that Revenge is acceptable?

Have you ever been the victim of revenge? If so, how did you respond?

 

[LSN80]

What is your stance on Revenge? Is it an acceptable and appropriate manner to settle a dispute?

The old saying of an "eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind" pretty much sums up my stance on revenge. It's a never ending vicious cycle where noone comes out unscathed, and what's the real benefit? It may feel good for a moment when one gets revenge on those who have wronged them, but the consequences of that revenge are in general far worse. I think it's an immature and inappropriate way to settle disputes, even if only for the selfish reason that it breaks the cycle of perhaps worse things happening to oneself.

Have you ever seized revenge? Do you have second thoughts about it now?

Other then in minor petty ways such as calling someone a name or prank calling an ex-girlfriend in college, not really. In terms of using the legal system, I have. I was dating a girl 6 years ago before I met my wife whose ex-boyfriend had cheated on her, and despite her breaking things off 6 months prior due to this, he viewed her as his "possession". As a result, she wanted it kept a secret that we were dating, out of fear for what he might do.

Reluctantly, i agreed, and found out why one night when I took her to the movies and he showed up and sat right next to us. He tried dragging her out of the theatre, and I stopped him from doing so. He swung at me, and I physically restrained him. I offered to calmly talk to him outside the theatre if he calmed down, and he responded by spitting in my face. Eventually, he calmed down, and I loet him go, but he stole her purse and cell phone on the way out.

We went to the police station to file charges, and it took about 3 hours until 1 am. Five minutes after we had returned to her house, I heard a door open behind me, and a voice say, "I should have F*cking done this before", and he hit me from behind. My girl told me when i was out he bashed in the right side of my face, and I indeed looked like Two-Face from the Batman movies for about 3 months. I get severe headaches and have seizures to this day.

My "revenge" was the District Attorney gave me leverage in determining his sentence, and I asked he receive the maximum of five years. He had a child on the way with another woman, who had called me herself to beg me to go leniant on him, as did his family. I got great satisfaction when the DA followed my suggestion and the judge sentenced him to five years, knowing his child wouldn't know him til he was five. Honestly, in this situation, it felt darn good, and I have no regrets.

Is there ever a time that Revenge is acceptable?

I suppose we can find a way to justify anything and make it seem acceptable if we try hard enough. The question all of us need to ask ourselves is "Would we want someone enacting this type of behavior upon us?" If no, then it's not acceptable. Fortunately, the need for revenge seems to pass or wane as we grow older. Back in middle school in a sort of Heathers/Mean Girls fashion, my friends and I had no qualms over forging an explicit note to someone we didn’t like from their secret crush. But, even , and even as the most unfortunate and wretched form of brat, I still had a conscience. I still felt bad. Vindictive and slimy behavior is often overlooked or even accepted/expected when you’re 12. But, when you’re in your 20’s, it just makes you look like a dick.

A lot of people seem to experience some form of a high from getting back at someone; a comfort in knowing that they have the last laugh. To me, it seems so pointless and a waste of time. It would probably even make me feel guilty, or worse in the end. I always cringe when someone busts out the “karma is a b*tch” cliché, but when it comes to revenge, it seems suitable, and a much less haphazard approach.

Have you ever been the victim of revenge? If so, how did you respond?

I don't know if I would call the situation I described above as being the kid seeking revenge upon me, although I suppose he would see it as revenge for me taking out his ex-girlfriend. Even though I had immediately reported it to the police, I was quite angered, and even encouraged a friend to look for him and teach him a lesson similar to what he had done to me. In hindsight, Im thankful he never found him, because I shudder at the thought of what would have happened if a confrontation had ensued. Im glad things played out as they did, and that he spent the time he did in jail. To me, I can't think of a better reponse, or a way to truly get the last laugh. Im generally not that kind of person, but I did take pleasure in this one.

 

[ThUnDeRpHoEnIx]

Same thing as you except it was with my 3rd girlfriend i think.I kicked that guys ass and felt so bad afterwards.Especially since it was my best friend.Yeah I was cut up.One other time I sought revenge was when someone bitched about me and my friend(who passed away before these events)and didnt even say it to my face.I walked over to the SOB and asked him straight to his face.He and his friends jumped me.That was the bottom line.We settled it one on one with no help from friends.It ended badly.I had a dislocated shoulder and he had a broken nose and arm.And I won.


But Revenge is something you should never go for.Like someone said(cant remember who) "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves"

 

[Coco]

What is your stance on Revenge? Is it an acceptable and appropriate manner to settle a dispute?

Revenge is necessary and has an evolutionary incentive. If someone wrongs you and you don't step up to seize payback, you lose some juice and everyone gets the idea that they can step to you and not have to worry about retaliation. So at the very least, some level of revenge can act as a way to insulate you from future wrongs.

Have you ever seized revenge? Do you have second thoughts about it now?

Fuck yeah I've seized it. I seized it with a 2 x 4 in the third grade. That's the kind of neighbourhood I grew up in. Second thoughts? Nah. You didn't have the luxury for second thoughts in that part of town. Save the second thoughts, and thoughts in general, for the privileged upper-class who have nothing better to do than subject themself to glib introspection. Besides, when seizing revenge with a 2 x 4, it's easy enough to dispose of the evidence. No reason to have a second thought.

Is there ever a time that Revenge is acceptable?

Yep. Whenever a wrong looks like it's gonna cost you juice on the street, revenge is acceptable.

Have you ever been the victim of revenge? If so, how did you respond?

Yes, I've been the victim of revenge. How did I respond? Well I sure as shit didn't sit around and muse lamentingly about human nature and the reality that is revenge. Instead, I went out, got me a new 2 x 4, and raised my hand against my fellow man. Because that's how you're supposed to respond.

 

[Phoenix]

When it comes to revenge, I take the justice route, which is that karma will back around to haunt them. While it may not be the most macho thing to do given the shit people have put me through, I am still able to be myself knowing that being who I am is what keeps me being me. I've been backstabbed, lied about, threatened and it was over nothing, it's a smaller piece of a larger puzzle. Sure I've thought about revenge and taking action, but that's what makes me their level, actually doing something feeling that is justice when it is actually personal satisfaction.

Ironic is that where Coco says that people will think you will get walked over in the future, it's actually different, you bring your own self awareness up another level so you are more cautious around other people, knowing what is the right person to mix with and trust and who isn't. I feel everyone has a method to taking revenge and I don't condone anyone who does so, if they feel they can feel better out of it, then good on them, but for me, I haven't acted in revenge as far as I can remember and I keep seeing those who wronged me be in far worse conditions than I have, so that's where I feel justice has been served.

 

[Calderownz]

Revenge Is a dish best served cold​

What is your stance on Revenge? Is it an acceptable and appropriate manner to settle a dispute?

Have you ever seized revenge? Do you have second thoughts about it now?

Is there ever a time that Revenge is acceptable?

Have you ever been the victim of revenge? If so, how did you respond?

1. Truthfully, revenge is necessary in certain instances. Revenge can be protection. (Self-defense.) Revenge can be needed to support yourself. (If your job fires you for getting injured on the job, but it wasn't your fault, it was the factory or what have you.) I could go on and on.

At the end of the day, revenge is simply retaliation at it's purist form. Revenge for the sake of revenge isn't for me to decide. I'm not the person involved. However, sometimes, it's simply needed.

2. In several ways I have. However, I'll assume you meant it in the "revenge for the sake of revenge" aspect. Yes. I have. At times, I've wished I'd have risen above it. Other times, I've felt that it didn't effect anyone in the long run.

3. Yes. As I've stated.

4. Truthfully, nothing that I can easily recall. Regardless, I'd never waste my time going back and forth with these sort of issues.

 

[UltimateHitman]

I would think that to a certain degree, revenge is a way for somebody that is doing harm to feel the affects of what it is they're doing to others. I don't necessarily condone it, though. I would say that having the attitude that you will not stand for being wronged helps to keep it from happening. Doesn't stop it, but helps it occur on a less frequent level. And another thing to think about is, what's the line between revenge and retribution? (Where revenge is selfish, and retribution is just.)

And some people have mentioned standing up for yourself. I don't see that being in the "revenge" category. That would be in the self-defense category. You are stopping further harm to come to yourself and thus (if things go right), it actually eliminates the need to seek revenge.

I don't agree w/the whole "street cred" nonsense. To bad mouth people that choose to utilize the intellect and brain power we should be grateful to possess and use to its highest capacity merely just shows that people are not as "advanced" as a species as we like to say we are. So we are to reward selfish, barbaric behavior geared towards harming our fellow man, yet we turn around and call ourselves "superior" and civilized? We should rather squander the gifts we have been given (or achieved over time, depending on your theological position) instead of using them in an appreciative and beneficial manner? We should knowingly excuse ourselves from acting in a manner befitting our species and intellectual level all the while ridiculing animals and lesser creatures for acting in that same manner? We're a hypocritical, primitive sort, to be sure, even with all our technological "advances".

Have I ever seized revenge? I'm sure I have. Whether it was turning down a favor asked of me from somebody who had screwed me over or taken advantage of me prior to needing it, or any other sort of instance. I cannot think of specific instances, but I'm sure I have at one time or another. I have not exacted revenge in a major way, such as damaging somebody's property or jumping them from an alleyway, but I'm sure I've done something to repay somebody for slighting me.

Is there a time when revenge is acceptable? Well, I'm sure there is. Like I stated above, if somebody screws you over and then maybe asks for a ride or to borrow some money, I could see telling them you can't do it in order to cause them hardship as they had done to you. I could see revenge in a situation where somebody unnecessarily causes harm to a loved one or something like that, too. But, then again, are we getting into vengeance and retribution instead of revenge at that point? And is getting revenge for somebody else better than getting revenge for yourself? Is it considered standing up for or defending somebody else and thus not simple, selfish revenge?

I have been the victim of revenge, and it sucked TBH. I made an error in judgment concerning a matter of a relationship nature and was actually hurt by an action that still affects me to this day. It's not as bad as an effect as it was originally, to be sure, but one of those instances that you always wish you could've seen what would have happened and where you would be today if it had not taken place. And yes, it involves a female(s). I'll go into details elsewhere if people want to hear about it, but I think in here I'll stick to the subject at hand.

All in all, revenge is something that shouldn't have to happen. If one side can rise above it, it's all for the better. There are smaller instances of revenge that doesn't have life or death consequences that can make a person feel better by doing it while making the other party uncomfortable, or there are larger instances where lives are drastically affected, sometimes even innocent people's lives, and can cause damage and life long complications that probably should not occur.

My standing on it is, the less it occurs the better, and don't let something bug you if it's minor. There are exceptions to the rule, but try to keep the standards of those exceptions high so they are extremely rare, if they even happen at all.

 

[Disturbed]

What is your stance on Revenge? Is it an acceptable and appropriate manner to settle a dispute?

My stance is that revenge always comes back on you. If someone does something to piss you off and in your eyes you do something back to get revenge, what are you really accomplishing? Are you really teaching them a lesson or giving them something they deserve? It doesn't always but more than likely will come back on you. I always that when someone did something to you, that you were supposed to get even. However, my views have changed on that since last year, as I'll explain the story in a sec.

Have you ever seized revenge? Do you have second thoughts about it now?

A friend of mine, and I were good friends and hung out a lot. I had his facebook password because we created him one on my computer. He lived down the road, and we played basketball a lot. One day we decided we were going to spray pain a free throw line on the road. The road had just been newly paved a couple of days before. It was my idea to make a free throw line, and I said we could go down to the store and get some chalk. He said, that was a dumb idea as he had spray paint on the porch. He said, I don't feel like spraying a free throw line, but you can if you want. So I said, alright that's cool. I went and got the red spray paint and made the line. He said to go ahead and make a whole half of a court, three point line and all. Now the mayor lives up the road from us. Well, we played ball for a couple hours and then we were going to smoke some weed. I called the dealer up the road. He lives about 5 minutes away. My friend went inside and I went up the road to get the weed. I got the weed, and put it in my pocket. I come back to his house and there is a cop waiting for me on the front portch. My heart sank in fear at the time, as I thought they were there because of the weed and I was just a 14 year old boy, I didn't want to go to juvie. Apparently, the cop was there because the mayor called the police about the paint. The cop starts yelling at me because it was newly paved, and said my parents could have to pay so much money for finds and what not and I could go to juvenile detention center for a misdemeanor or some shit. I was just scared. My friend had blamed it all on me and said that it was my idea, and he said that it would be a better idea to use chalk. He got off the hook, and the next day I was stuck the whole day cleaning it while a cop talked to me. So, I wanted some revenge. I got on his facebook, and posted on his wall as I was him, " Please don't look down on me, as I hope you can all still think of me the same way, but I am homosexual." I told everyone I could talk to that I was gay and they all thought I was him. So the following Monday, he showed up at his school, and everyone thought he was gay. He had no idea what was going on but quickly realized what had happened. He came home that day, and I was trying to avoid him but it didn't work out. His parents called my mom, and told her what had happened. I was in a lot of trouble and was grounded for a while. So, I guess I regret it getting revenge now, even though it was funny as hell at the time.

Is there ever a time that Revenge is acceptable?

Maybe if it is a practical joke or something. For example, if a friend or someone tps your house and you tp there house back, I see no problem with that. I am not sure it is ever good to try and seek revenge when you are truly pissed at them, as you will more than likely do something your going to regret. If you just hold off eventually something similar that they did to you, will happen to them soon enough.

Have you ever been the victim of revenge? If so, how did you respond?

I never do anything to get people to seek revenge. I guess when my so called friend told his parents and then they told my parents. I guess that's revenge, since I got grounded and he pretty much got the last laugh. To this day, I still hate the lieing, 2 faced, bastard of a snitch. Luckily the police officer never searched me but if he did and I had gone to jail. When I had gotten out, something far worse would have happened to my friend.