Pornstars: Home-Cumings:

[TheOneBigWill]

A lot of people (especially males) claim the world of porn is such a great thing, and the job would be extremely fun and exciting and all that.

However, do you think pornstars hate their jobs? I mean, I know they couldn't possibly hate their life. They make a lot (not tons) of money off of having sex. But personally.. I've seen a few shows about pornstars who dislike the company because it burns them out.

And think about how horrible their home sex life must be. They go to work and do that most of the day, do you think when they get home thats even remotely on their mind?

If you do, then ask yourself this question. When you're working all day, doing whatever it is you do.. do you go home and remotely think about doing the same job you left, at home?

 

[klunderbunker]

I can't imagine doing that. My biggest problem is that with the girls you see at work, and all the nasty stuff you do, how could you actually be able to come home and either A be romantic, or B, really get things going well with her. After you've "worked" all day, it has to be a drag to go home and then do it again. It really explains why you hear about so many relationships where both the guy and the girl are both in porn. They get the concepts of what the other has to go though every day.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

porno is just a terrible thing in general. And I feel bad for whomever those people go home to. seriously.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Personally, I don't think a pornstar can have a working relationship with someone not from the same business.. unless that person was extremely understandable and accepting of splitting the business aspect of the career away from the personal aspect of the star.

I don't think it'd be hard to come home and make love, or be romantic with your "other." Because the performers in that line of work don't exactly go to their jobs each day, screwing all their co-workers thinking its love. So the line between lust and love is pretty clear.

Furthermore, there is a deep difference between f*cking and love making. And love making isn't in porno. However, that all withstanding I still agree with you on the fact that it has to be incredibly hard to have sex all day.. then come home with any type of urge.. romantic or not.. and want to continue having sex.

I'm not a pornstar, and I've tried as hard as I could to have sex continuously for days on end. My record is a straight weekend, roughly 4 times a day. I was burnt out for 2-3 days after that weekend. And pornstars do that shit a lot more than in a weekend.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

porno is just a terrible thing in general. And I feel bad for whomever those people go home to. seriously.

I don't think its terrible. Its a living, its a great living. You get paid a lot of money to have sex. Not a lot of skill involved, I wouldn't think.

Its no different than strippers. (which I have a lot of respect for, believe it or not) Regardless of how "demeaning" or "degrading" their career/job might be its still a respectable line of work in a lot of ways.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

see, to me, you cant genuinely really love someone if you allow them to get railed out all day (among other filthy things) for all the world to see and *********e over. um. no.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

I don't think its terrible. Its a living, its a great living. You get paid a lot of money to have sex. Not a lot of skill involved, I wouldn't think.

Its no different than strippers. (which I have a lot of respect for, believe it or not) Regardless of how "demeaning" or "degrading" their career/job might be its still a respectable line of work in a lot of ways.

neither one of them are respectable or having any redeeming qualities. ZERO. Its a terrible living. its not a job, its a trick. And its fucking disgusting.

 

[Shocky]

Pornstars, meh, it's their choice.

Why in the hell would you become a fluffer though?

 

[TheOneBigWill]

see, to me, you cant genuinely really love someone if you allow them to get railed out all day (among other filthy things) for all the world to see and *********e over. um. no.

This is why I couldn't have a working relationship with the stripper. This is also why a threesome, or any type of sexual activity involving a 3rd party or more is out of the question.

I couldn't willingly know the person I loved, was getting any type of sexual act from someone else. The complexes it would build are unthinkable.

 

[Father:_Polley]

the thing is, as the other half, how would you be expected to cope. I mean the person has spent the day having sex with either:
a) well-endowed men
b) fake 'attractive' women
how big a hit must you're self-esteem take if you had to try to compete with that. It'd be horrible because to you, you're trying to show how much you love someone and they've to seperate it from their job

 

[Shocky]

neither one of them are respectable or having any redeeming qualities. ZERO. Its a terrible living. its not a job, its a trick. And its fucking disgusting.

It's supply and demand though NorCal. If our society hasn't devolved into allowing this stuff to become acceptable (and a multi billiondollar a year industry is acceptable no matter how taboo people claim that it is) then no one would be doing it.

Porn makes almost as much as Hollywood does. Why would some girl with little self respect to begin with want to go to law school for 7 years when she can make that amount of money in a year and (If they were smart, but come on now) invest it and be set for the rest of their lives.

It's the law of supply and demand. If there wasn't such a demand for new and fresh porn stars, and I use the word fresh in the loosest way possible, then the money wouldn't be there, and people wouldn't do it.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Pornstars, meh, it's their choice.

Why in the hell would you become a fluffer though?

I had a running joke with a former co-worker at the video store I worked at. I was in training to become assistant manager, and someone asked how I got the promotion. My manager told them I became his personal fluffer.. and the person he told thought it meant "shoe shiner." LOL

So everytime that person would see me, they'd make a comment about whether I was getting any better and shining shoes.. and I'd always say something like "Its only at its best with a spit shine."

 

[Mighty NorCal]

It's supply and demand though NorCal. If our society hasn't devolved into allowing this stuff to become acceptable (and a multi billiondollar a year industry is acceptable no matter how taboo people claim that it is) then no one would be doing it.

Porn makes almost as much as Hollywood does. Why would some girl with little self respect to begin with want to go to law school for 7 years when she can make that amount of money in a year and (If they were smart, but come on now) invest it and be set for the rest of their lives.

It's the law of supply and demand. If there wasn't such a demand for new and fresh porn stars, and I use the word fresh in the loosest way possible, then the money wouldn't be there, and people wouldn't do it.

Oh I understand fully why it exists, and it is for the reasons you said. doesnt make it any less terrible. I totally understand that if people werent depraved peices of shit it wouldnt exist. STill doesnt make it right. How much to buy your soul??...basically.

 

[klunderbunker]

I'm in the same place Norcal is for porn. I get that it makes a fortune, but I don't get it. Think about it: You're getting paid for people to watch you do filthy acts to others. I've seen some of it, and it just looks too fake, plain and simple. The scary thing is the amount of money that the "actors" make. It's insane.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Oh I understand fully why it exists, and it is for the reasons you said. doesnt make it any less terrible. I totally understand that if people werent depraved peices of shit it wouldnt exist. STill doesnt make it right. How much to buy your soul??...basically.

I give exceptions to the rule to people trying to get by on scraps. You and I more than anyone else should understand that position in life, NorCal.

A girl trying to go to college who is too poor to afford it, but her Parent's were too rich for her to get any type of grants. That girl works parttime in a night club dancing topless, makes $600.00 a week and works through college.. where she then quits the parttime stripper gig and gets a job she can truly be proud of.

She wouldn't of made it through the expenses of college, had it not been for that demeaning and terrible job.

Same goes for porn. People go to hollywood to hit it big as actors/actresses. Are the hollywood movie stars no less demeaning? Porn isn't anything more than a clothesless movie. The stars in porno aren't any less of a sellout than the actors and actresses in Hollywood.

Sometimes to make ends meet you have to do things you aren't proud of. And when porn is the highest rated "less skill needed" thing out there.. you fall into it, more so than pick it.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Filthy, DISRESPECTFULL things. terrible things. bad shit

 

[TheOneBigWill]

I'm in the same place Norcal is for porn. I get that it makes a fortune, but I don't get it. Think about it: You're getting paid for people to watch you do filthy acts to others. I've seen some of it, and it just looks too fake, plain and simple. The scary thing is the amount of money that the "actors" make. It's insane.

Porn was never designed to look 100% real. It was designed to sell to those who have very low self-esteem and can't get sex in real life, so their alternative is to beat off while watching outrageously attractive people having sex.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

I give exceptions to the rule to people trying to get by on scraps. You and I more than anyone else should understand that position in life, NorCal.

A girl trying to go to college who is too poor to afford it, but her Parent's were too rich for her to get any type of grants. That girl works parttime in a night club dancing topless, makes $600.00 a week and works through college.. where she then quits the parttime stripper gig and gets a job she can truly be proud of.

She wouldn't of made it through the expenses of college, had it not been for that demeaning and terrible job.

Same goes for porn. People go to hollywood to hit it big as actors/actresses. Are the hollywood movie stars no less demeaning? Porn isn't anything more than a clothesless movie. The stars in porno aren't any less of a sellout than the actors and actresses in Hollywood.

Sometimes to make ends meet you have to do things you aren't proud of. And when porn is the highest rated "less skill needed" thing out there.. you fall into it, more so than pick it.

Exactly. as a person who has lived that, it furthermore lets me know that the excuse is total bullshit. I dont fucking care. there are a million other ways to go about it without mortaging your soul and dignity.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

Exactly. as a person who has lived that, it furthermore lets me know that the excuse is total bullshit. I dont fucking care. there are a million other ways to go about it without mortaging your soul and dignity.

I guess this is where we're slightly different. While I can't with all honesty say I completely would.. I have to greatly admit, if the offer was on the table for me to do something "degrading" such as nude photos, or porn.. if it resulted in a nice chunk of money to help fully support my Family, then I'd have to give it serious thought.

And the reason why is this.. I currently, unofficially have 3 jobs. And I still don't make enough to help ends meet. I work my ass off with everything I do, and I give all I have.. but sometimes with previous jobs, my self-respect and dignity have cost me opportunity. So when I see the hole I've landed in for sticking up for what I believe in.. as opposed to the millions lazy fucks are making for "sticking up" in other areas..

Hey.. if you only get one life.. I don't wanna spend over half of it working myself to the bone, to still get overdue bill notices in the mail.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

see the whole supporting your family thing fails on def ears with me. If my mother wouldve ever even considered doing anything like that, over me, I wouldve fucking hated her for the rest of my life. true story. nothing monetary, in this superficial, material world, is worth your dignity, your convictions, your soul. nothing.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

see the whole supporting your family thing fails on def ears with me. If my mother wouldve ever even considered doing anything like that, over me, I wouldve fucking hated her for the rest of my life. true story. nothing monetary, in this superficial, material world, is worth your dignity, your convictions, your soul. nothing.

My Daughter having a better life than me, is worth me destroying my own. The minute she was born, my life turned to focus on her. The instant I knew I was going to have a child.. it made me want to make sure that child would have, could have, the best life possible.

And growing up, you know.. it wasn't completely horrible, but like I said you know the background, we're alike in that aspect.. and I'll die before she has to go through that shit. So if embarassing myself, would bring us enough money for her to not have to suffer even remotely, its worth it to me.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

but would it be worth if she found out and was ashamed of you??

And like I said. there a millions of other routes to go. DOing that is the quick easy fix for the vast majority of these people. HArd work??? Why do that when I can just show people my tits and vagina and get WAY more money???

 

[klunderbunker]

My Daughter having a better life than me, is worth me destroying my own. The minute she was born, my life turned to focus on her. The instant I knew I was going to have a child.. it made me want to make sure that child would have, could have, the best life possible.

And growing up, you know.. it wasn't completely horrible, but like I said you know the background, we're alike in that aspect.. and I'll die before she has to go through that shit. So if embarassing myself, would bring us enough money for her to not have to suffer even remotely, its worth it to me.

It's good to hear something like this. I grew up in a home where my Dad's childhood sucked and he was deadset in the idea that I would have nothing more than he had, ever. I worked for him every Sunday mowing lawns for him from the day I turned 6 until I graduated, and still owe him money to this day. It's good to know that there are still good parents in the world today.

 

[TheOneBigWill]

but would it be worth if she found out and was ashamed of you??

And like I said. there a millions of other routes to go. DOing that is the quick easy fix for the vast majority of these people. HArd work??? Why do that when I can just show people my tits and vagina and get WAY more money???

It, to me, is a fail if you don't, fail if you do situation.

I either have to face my little girl growing up to "dislike" her life because it isn't filled with great things, or even good things. And dealing with struggling, just like I did.

Or I have to grow up, knowing I could've or would've given her a better life at the expensive of my dignity and "soul" (as you say) and risk her hating me for selling myself like that.

I believe in my heart that my Daughter would love me, regardless of her life.. and I love my own Parents, but what I can't shake is how much I hated growing up struggling, without a home, without food, without the things you just shouldn't be without.

 

[Mighty NorCal]

Will...if you do that...

and she someday had children, and is poor...what was the example she had set for her as a child to do in that situation?? And how could you tell her she was wrong??