Are you blaming the increase in violence on the decrease of violence in the home?
No, i'm not.
How does this make sense again? First, very few crimes have actually increased, the reporting of them has. The police have got better at finding drugs, people have got better at reporting violent crimes.
But that doesn't mean anything regarding the average child does it? Those statistics are based on the country as a whole, not just people under the age of 16.
We find more children with knives because we perform more stop and searches on youngsters than in the past.
After we started finding more stabbed kids.
Secondly, where have you got this from? Stop believing the media in that we live in 'Broken Britain'
I don't believe anything unless it actually happens in front of me. I don't read the paper or watch the news ever, so yes i'm uninformed, but 2 years ago, i couldn't go 3 days without hearing about someone being violently attacked by youngsters. Fuck, in eastleigh last year, a taxi driver was set on fire by kids! Imagine that, you're sat listening to the radio waiting for a fare, and suddenly some 15 year olds set you ablaze for the crack of it. Don't recall hearing about that happening before hand.
the amount of children who are well behaved and don't gain a criminl record FAR outweigh the ones who do.
See, now where did you get that from? Those 'statistics' i mean.
'Most' children go on to have normal non-criminal lives.
I'm talking about people who are kids now, so how can you say most of them grow up to be decent members of society when they haven't got there yet?
And you think BEATING them does?
See, now you're blowing what i said out of proportion. I said 'spanking', not 'beating'. A single, open hand slap on the backside is the other end of the violence spectrum to repeatedly punching someone until they submit, don't you think?
Amazing how i say 'spank' and i have you read 'beat' and SSC read 'pick up a bat and go to town on the kid's skull'.
I will never understand how people argue a decrease of violence in the homes makes MORE violence in the street. 'Nice and friendly' doesn't do it. Firm does.
I agree, but when that STILL doesn't work, you need to up the ante somehow, and a large number of people think that spanking (that's
spanking not
beating) would be the next logical step in disciplining their child.
Give them nothing to do, take away their favourite things, sit them somewhere boring, they'll learn.
Or, they don't and the cycle of awful behaviour continues. I appreciate that that is how you probably discipline your child, and obviously it works for you, but as Big Sexy said, what works for you doesn't necessarily work for others. Each child will be an amalgamation of their parents through their genes, so if one parent is a mild mannered, friendly person and the other is a raving psychopath, then the child is going to go grow up to be something in between. Add in any psychological effects that any medication you give young children may have, plus any shit the mother may have taken during pregnancy, medicinal or otherwise, and you've basically pulling a random drawing for how you're child will turn out, and then you've got to try and mold them the way you want them to be, which isn't always going to work if you follow one person's step by step guide on how to be a parent.
In 5 years I've never hit my little girl and she's never been in trouble at school and is top of her class.
Kudos to you, i imagine you must be very proud of her. How old is she out of interest?
In Nazi Germany if you asked a majority of the people there they'd say they didn't think Hitler's plan was a bad idea. Just because it's what many people think doesn't make it right.
Actually, in the majority of post-Nazi Germany interviews i've seen in the 8 years of studying it, they said they knew damn well there was no good reason to kill the Jews etc, but were so angry over what happened to their country after WWI, and had such faith in Hitler's determination to restore their former glory, that they simply went along with it. Fucked up huh? But when the whole world lumps you in debt so high you'll never repay it as well as taking everything of value from the entire country leaving it in absolute ruin, you'd do anything or follow anyone who could make it all better, and before the death camps started cropping up, Hitler did exactly that. You've got to love the Germans for their efficiency and determination. They rebuilt their country from ruins twice in the space of 40 years. They certainly don't deserve to be branded as 'evil' because an Austrian convinced them to elect him as their leader and then made it so that no one could make him relinquish the position. Anyway......
Also, the law on this, in the UK, is that you can physically punish your child as long as it doesn't leave a lasting mark or bruise - how are people arguing this is a bad thing? I know, let's allow you to give your child a black eye, scars and a bad back from the beatings.
See, again, i said spanked,
you said beating the kid black and blue.
It may have done them harm, who knows? Unless we look at their lives, and there's an indepth study into the effects, who knows if it has affected their lives?
Well we interviewed a wide variety of people, including people in their 50's with well paid positions of responsibilty, so it obviously didn't send them off the deep end did it?
She thinks everyone's there to see her?
I'm no psycho analyst, but that's the impression i get. It's not like she says 'look at everyone who's come to see me or anything', but she definitely acts up more depending on how many people they are present, and if none of them are her own age group. When she's with other kids she's an angel, when she plays on her own or is around adults, she's not always as well behaved.
What i should have also stated is that they have just had a 2nd child, and it is only recently that her behaviour has gotten worse, which i would expect considering the induction of a new born into the family.
They should try and involve her in conversations, or allow her to listen and talk also, to give her attention and a feeling of worth in a subtle, calm way. If she continues with the screaming, the time alone, bored, continues.
That's what they do now, it doesn't really work.
Soon she'll associate tantrums and screaming with that boredom, and change her behaviour.
You say that as if it's time tested methodology with a 100% success rate, which obviously isn't the case.
I have a child, I've never hit her, and she's never been in any trouble at school. When she does have a temper tantrum as all young children do, I do everything I've said in this thread, don't use physical punishment, and the behaviour stops.
That's fair enough. You didn't state whether you were spanked as a kid or not though.