For your spouse? Carrie Underwood would.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/04/carrie-underwood-husband_n_3017738.html
Carrie Underwood is a Grammy winning country music superstar married to professional hockey player Mike Fisher, who is a marginal talent. Safe to say, Carrie is much more popular then Fisher will ever be, and makes far more money as well. Yet, as shown above in an interview with People magazine, she would be willing to "throw it all away" if Fisher asked her to.
I struggle with this one greatly. I don't want to look at this as a male/female dynamic, but it's so often the case. Women give up their careers for their husbands in order to raise their children, or they take a job that's less rewarding then the one they had in order to do so. This isn't just about children, it's the 'traditional' role. Although it's evolved, the role generally means that the man is the breadwinner, and the woman the homemaker.
But flipping it around, most of us on this site are males. In the short lived TV show 'Up All Night', Will Arnett's character stayed at home with their baby while Christina Applegate's character worked. Arnett didn't have a marginal job, he was a successful lawyer. Yet he gave his career up so his wife could continue with hers, essentially flopping the traditonal role on it's head.
I wonder if I could do it. Both myself and my wife work, and we both enjoy greatly what we do. If my wife was satisfied in her career and didn't want to quit in order to raise children or keep a house, I wouldn't ask. Neither would she, but I wonder what my response would be if she did. If there was an extreme situation such as a death or an illness, I would do it, but those are extenuating circumstances. I couldn't take the Underwood approach of "If he asked me to, I'd do it", I know that for sure. As someone who's a workaholic, I've cut back on my work schedule in order to appease my wife, and that alone was hard, to be honest. Since I couldn't ask her to quit the job she loves, I don't believe I could acquiesce if she asked me to. Sometimes, in the case of political ambitions, wives and husbands are essentially forced to give up their jobs to go on the road and campaign with their spouses. I, selfish or not, couldn't be that person. I love my wife more then my job, but unless my job was damaging to our relationship, I couldn't do it.
Are there circumstances that would make you quit a job you loved for the person you love? If so, what are they?
Is it selfish of one partner to ask another to do so?
Is it selfish to say no if they do?
All other thoughts on this are welcomed and encouraged.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/04/carrie-underwood-husband_n_3017738.html
"If Mike ever told me he needed me to quit, I'd quit. When you make that promise to somebody, and you stand before God and your family and friends, you've got to do everything that you possibly can to make that work."
Carrie Underwood is a Grammy winning country music superstar married to professional hockey player Mike Fisher, who is a marginal talent. Safe to say, Carrie is much more popular then Fisher will ever be, and makes far more money as well. Yet, as shown above in an interview with People magazine, she would be willing to "throw it all away" if Fisher asked her to.
I struggle with this one greatly. I don't want to look at this as a male/female dynamic, but it's so often the case. Women give up their careers for their husbands in order to raise their children, or they take a job that's less rewarding then the one they had in order to do so. This isn't just about children, it's the 'traditional' role. Although it's evolved, the role generally means that the man is the breadwinner, and the woman the homemaker.
But flipping it around, most of us on this site are males. In the short lived TV show 'Up All Night', Will Arnett's character stayed at home with their baby while Christina Applegate's character worked. Arnett didn't have a marginal job, he was a successful lawyer. Yet he gave his career up so his wife could continue with hers, essentially flopping the traditonal role on it's head.
I wonder if I could do it. Both myself and my wife work, and we both enjoy greatly what we do. If my wife was satisfied in her career and didn't want to quit in order to raise children or keep a house, I wouldn't ask. Neither would she, but I wonder what my response would be if she did. If there was an extreme situation such as a death or an illness, I would do it, but those are extenuating circumstances. I couldn't take the Underwood approach of "If he asked me to, I'd do it", I know that for sure. As someone who's a workaholic, I've cut back on my work schedule in order to appease my wife, and that alone was hard, to be honest. Since I couldn't ask her to quit the job she loves, I don't believe I could acquiesce if she asked me to. Sometimes, in the case of political ambitions, wives and husbands are essentially forced to give up their jobs to go on the road and campaign with their spouses. I, selfish or not, couldn't be that person. I love my wife more then my job, but unless my job was damaging to our relationship, I couldn't do it.
Are there circumstances that would make you quit a job you loved for the person you love? If so, what are they?
Is it selfish of one partner to ask another to do so?
Is it selfish to say no if they do?
All other thoughts on this are welcomed and encouraged.