In a trade-off for her watching wrestling with me, I watched the Total Divas reality show last night that debuted on E! with my wife. One of the major focuses of the night were relationships, and on the periphery, the relationship between John Cena and Nikki Bella and the relationship between Brie Bella and Daniel Bryan. Nikki was bemoaning the fact that Brie and Daniel were going ring-shopping, and how John was pretty sure he didn't wish to marry again. When she discussed it with him, he cited the 'painful' nature of the end of his first marriage, and how he still carried plenty of 'baggage' that he wasn't sure he wanted to risk again. Well, perhaps he's on to something, given the alarming disaster rate for second marriages. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/leo-averbach/second-and-third-marriage_b_1326785.html According to recent studies, while the divorce rate in the United States still stands at 50%, the divorce rate for second marriages is at an astonishing 67%, or 2 of 3. A third marriage? The divorce rate is even higher, clocking in at 73% or 3 in 4. One would think that people would learn and become more careful as time goes on, but that's not necessarily the case, says Diane Sollee, who's the director of the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education in Washington, D.C., and a Family Therapist: 70% of people who divorce wind up marrying a second time, however, many with the belief that if they simply change a partner, they'll have more success. As Sollee said in her football analogy, it takes more then that. For football teams, it generally takes an influx of skill to turn a loser into a winner. For marriages, it takes skills such as learning how to deal with conflict. And like George Santayana once said: I've been married for almost five years, but there was a time when that almost didn't happen. I'd been engaged when I was younger, and after three years, she broke things off with me. I pretty much swore off the idea of marriage after that, ironic considering my career field. I dated a lot, but nothing serious for 3 years, until I met the woman I'm married to. But it wasn't just her, I matured and learned, much to my surprise, that it wasn't ALL(just mostly ) my ex-fiancee's fault that it didn't work out. But if my marriage, in theory, didn't work out(not gonna happen), I don't think I would marry again. I suppose the "once bitten" principle doesn't apply solely to marriages either, as it could apply to anything from children to pets to a job. If you lose(or fail at) one, for any reason, conventional wisdom would say you'ld be gun-shy over having another. I wonder, however, if you decided to do so, if your success rate would be any better then a second marriage. Thoughts on all of this? If you failed once at a major venture(marriage, career, etc.), would you be willing to give it another shot? What factors would you take into consideration?