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![]() If you aren't familar with the story before, the video should serve as a nice introduction to the situation.
However, whatever hold 41 year old James Hooker had over 18 year old Jamie Powers was broken Friday, when Hooker was arrested for sexual assault on a minor stemming from an incident 14 years ago. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/nati...icle-1.1057855 In an interview with Good Morning America this Friday, the same platform with which she and Hooker first announced their love, Powers announced that she had ended the relationship between herself and Hooker when he was arrested for sexual assault. Police had begun investigating Hooker after he and Powers had announced their relationship on Good Morning America and Dr. Phil. Both Powers and Hooker claim and maintain that their relationship was purely platonic until Powers turned 18, and both maintain that stance following his arrest. However, Powers isn't in the forgiving mood otherwise. Quote:
When they announced their relationship just two months ago, the ire of a nation was raised. None moreso then that of Powers' mother Tammi, who confronted the couple face to face on Dr. Phil. Hooker defended the relationship to Tammi Powers, Dr. Phil, and the rest of the viewing audience with the following statement: Quote:
Following learning of the relationship, Tammi took action, taking her frustration to California legislature. Upon finding that no legal action could be taken within California law due to the age of consent being 18, and with no direct evidence linking definitively otherwise(other then text messages that seemed to be of a teacher-student relationship, however inappropriate), she began working with California Assemblywoman Kristen Olsen on a bill that would prevent any student/teacher relationships within the high school environment, even if the student was 18. Punishment would involve stripping school employees of their pensions and retiree health care if they are convicted. Olsen said the following of the bill, which was submitted to proposed legislation last week in Modesto, California.: Quote:
If the student decides, independently, upon turning 18 that they wish to engage in a sexual relationship with their teacher, should they be allowed? Should there be laws or rules across the board regarding students and teachers getting involved while they're teacher/student? When I say this, I'm referring to college, graduate school, and so forth. Thoughts on the story in general? Voice them here.
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![]() I am a very open-minded person. But as a grown man and a teacher, you can't date your students. This just leads to a whole mess of drama that you do not need in a learning environment like a classroom. Lets say a Single, middle aged male wishes to engage in a 18 year old female that wishes to do the same. Not only do you get the drama that comes from a relationship that stems from an older man dating a younger woman. But you also get drama from the other girls in the class that will insult both the teacher and the young girl. Then you get guys who are still budding with hormones trying to get the affection for the girls. It will become a giant mess. Which is one of the many reasons why so many workplaces either forbid or frown upon relationships in the work place. You don't need to bring your relationships to place where you come to learn or come to work.
However, I don't see the problem if the 18 year old girl has already graduated.
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![]() In high school I'm pretty sure that is a clear no. If it happens during that time, and if it happens after, sure it's not illegal once they are 18 but anyone who is going to get with a guy 4 years later I mean it's all gross going down that route. He's looking at 14 year olds, I don't care you wait until it's 18, you are just an even crazier and cerebral version of a child molester.
College it starts to get more complicated, I'm pretty sure it isn't allowed. I mean in graduate school, I could careles by that point you are dealing with all people over 22 for the most part and oddly I have a lot more younger college professors than I did high school teachers. So if it happens between two individuals where the teacher isn't teaching them that's fine. Yet, like any work setting once one has a direct influence over the other in a classroom it's subject to scrutiny. All I know is if it happens here, in one of my classes, if I find out a girl is dating a teacher I'm flipping and I'm not stopping. Whether its while the class going on or they get together after, I will make sure that's all reviewed and if I don't like the grade it's getting scratched off my transcript. I mean if one of my teachers is eyeing a bitch that would get to me, we all know teachers you get good grades from you tend to like better. |
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The point is, if you're a teacher......who needs it? Who needs the trouble and suspicion involved? There are plenty of fish in the sea; why in hell does a teacher have to pick a student to get involved with? Why risk everything you have? Why take a chance on ruining the life of your student as well as your own? Putting it another way: why would a 40-year-old teacher have enough in common with a 14-year-old student to form a relationship, even if it's platonic until she becomes 18? (yeah, right). That she was able to sustain interest in the guy makes one think she was more mature than he was; 14-year-olds are notoriously flighty in their attention spans. What he found exciting about her was obvious, but while he makes casual mention of hurting both their families, he justifies the whole thing by speaking of taking a "leap of faith." Oy! Incidentally, it's good that nothing about this case suggests she was a minor who "didn't know what she was doing." Too often in these instances, society looks at an 18-year-old who gets involved with an older person the same as a 6-year-old, but it isn't so and this case isn't reflecting anything like that. It isn't a question of him "leading her astray" and it shouldn't be. But in a cultural sense, that two people of such disparate ages would find enough in common to form a relationship for life seems ridiculous. Still, if it isn't a teacher-student deal, there's nothing stopping them except their families. Sometimes it works out, usually it doesn't. But for teacher-student, there has to be a policy line drawn. Society can't punish the student, but at least it can tell the teacher he can't practice his profession anymore, at least not in his current job. If he wants to influence the lives of his students, let him do it in a classroom setting, not a personal one outside of school. The vast majority of teachers know and respect this line but it's the few that don't who make it front-page news. |
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![]() A teacher and a lover play two very separate roles. A teacher is supposed to be a figure of authority, honor, and education. Theyre supposed to be readying a student for the future, not trying to engage in a relationship. Its not about trying to regulate the sex life of someone who is over the age of consent, the problem lies in how moral and ethical a student/teacher relationship is. It distracts from the learning process and gives the student an advantage over their peers. Lets be real folks, that girl is his sex toy, plain and simple. A 18 year old girl has nothing in common is a 41 year old man, dont give me that 'age is just a number bullshit'. You dont know how much one year of life can change a person. A middle aged man and a teenage girl have completely different priorities, interests, etc. Men like these are predators. They play mental gymnastics with these girls and groom them for a relationship. That means that this man was more focused with getting this girl's attention than with teaching her something significant in class. Its social suicide. Its not the way a relationship works. Any middle aged man whos trying to date someone who could be their child (age wise) is a sick pervert. What more do I need to say?
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![]() I guess it depends on the age difference. I'm in the IT department for a School district so I interact with students and teachers daily and I can say I know of atleast 2 teachers in my district that are having relations with students.(they're not in their classes anymore so I guess you can't say "Their students") Of course both of these Teachers are very young, the one is 26 I believe and the other if I had to guess would be in his mid 20s as well. So the age difference isn't that big of deal. So in these guys instances I can see how they could date a student because they are so close together age wise, but when you're 50 and dating an 18 year Old I just think that is kinda wrong.
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![]() I believe some people in this thread are being too hard on the teacher. Don't get me wrong, I have serious problems with his ethics, but every student/teacher relationship is different. There are many students I've had over the years that will say hardly a word to me as they pass me in the halls, but there are FAR more students who will always stop and say hi, or come find me to talk to me, or make their way over to chat if they see me in public. With every student I've ever had, I've had a different relationship with them, some much stronger than others.
When a person, any person, develops a strong relationship with another, and the other person is of the opposite sex, it's only natural that romantic feelings can evolve. And it's not like the teacher can avoid the situation, you have to see the student every day in class. No, you don't have to send text messages, but you still see that person every day in class, and this teacher would have to interact with her every day in class. She is legally an adult, and let's face it, our society is fascinated with young women. There's a reason models, TV and movie stars, celebrities, etc. are usually younger women. They are in the prime of the life, in terms of pure beauty, and we as a society (both men and women) are attracted to younger women. This girl was 18, legally an adult, in the prime of her life in terms of looks, and spent every day with this teacher. So many people seem to think teachers are not human beings, that we should be perfect and completely different from all other human beings, but it's just not the case. Just as a boss runs off with a secretary because they grow feelings for each other, this teacher grew romantic feelings for this student. Teachers are people too. We have feelings, we have flaws, we have a desire for people to care about us, just like any other person. This kind of thing happens and it can be difficult to resist. Fortunately, it's never really been an issue for me, since I've mostly taught younger students, but I can easily see why it would occur, especially if the teacher was not exceptionally tough mentally. With that being said, it doesn't change the fact it should prevent him from ever teaching again, at least at a level where he can have romantic relationships with students. A romantic relationship with a student is a serious ethical violation (not even taking into account his marriage and children), and should never be tolerated. As teachers, you have a duty to be completely fair and impartial (though it can be difficult given the type of students you sometimes have to deal with), and when you're engaged in a romantic relationship, you can never be fair and impartial. In the end, while I'm aware this particular teacher apparently has a history of doing this, I'm going to say cut him a little slack, as when you stop to think about it, it's really not difficult to see why it happens. In fact, I'm kind of surprised it doesn't happen more often. But that doesn't change the fact it IS wrong, and should not be allowed and the teacher should be forced to find other employment. |
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![]() While I agree that the teacher was wrong both ethically and according to the laws in most schools, it is a bit unfair that a 40-year old teacher who has a relationship with an adult student has to lose so much of his life, whereas any other 40-year old man in the same spot would go on with his life. I'm not saying that the teacher should be re-instated, just pointing out a societal gray area.
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When your actions have a direct and immediate negative impact on your ability to do your job, there should be repercussions. |
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